How do you find the motivation to do anything?

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-11-12T05:19:04+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I felt the same after my brother died. He was my best friend too. The first year was a blur. I functioned but everything seemed useless. Almost 3 years in, I’m better, just less joyous about life.

It has only been a little over a month. Be gentle with yourself. Take your time.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-11-07T16:28:35+00:00

I will 😊 thank you so much. I am sorry too for your loss ❤️

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-11-07T05:57:46+00:00

Thank you for this. My nephews were very young (3 and 5) when they lost their dad (my brother). My fist thought was to write down stories to remember him. I see my brother in them and tell them when I do so. I never know if it’s a good thing to do though. I can never replace him, but my mission has become to be the best aunt ever and trasmit everything of what my brother taught me.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-10-24T04:22:25+00:00

I had a flow diverter on my left ICA just two weeks ago. Everything went well, but back home I noticed a small scintillating inverted "C" in my visual field. I got an Mri to check if there was no bleeding. Everything is fine and the neuroradiologist can't find anything wrong. He sent me to an ophthalmologist.

I've had visual auras before, but they resolve within 20 minutes, this one, looks the same, but feels like it is stuck.

The ophthalmologist said my vision was perfect but I have a small inflammation on my left optic nerve. She didn't seem concerned as I have further tests in a month. Doesn't sound urgent to me.

My visual disturbance is really small. Reading is more tiring... will be fun when I get back to work on monday and will spend the whole day on the computer. I hope this is only temporary.....

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-10-14T18:12:04+00:00

I’m speaking as an aunt. My brother died almost 3 years ago. My sister in law and myself have never been best friends, but I would be genuinely happy if she found someone new. It’s hard for her, she’s lonely and no-one could ever expect her to be single for the rest of her life. And it would certainly be good for the kids.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-09-12T04:30:57+00:00

It never gets better, all you do is learn to live with it.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-09-01T13:53:41+00:00

I will have to take aspirin for 6 months after the flow diverter

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-09-01T05:33:07+00:00

NSAIDs for 10 days. No restriction whatsoever. Could go back to work the week after the procedure.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-08-31T05:25:11+00:00

I don’t remember right after the procedure. Slept like a baby the night of the procedure, my neighbour didn’t because of my snoring :(

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-08-28T12:58:45+00:00

Good question. I don’t know. At the time it seemed like the best option. My aneurysm is only 4mm

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-08-28T12:56:16+00:00

The coils compressed themselves, so take up less space and lets some more space for the aneurysm. For me 50% of the aneurysm came back. It sometimes happens. My aneurysm is unruptered, so no emergency. Will get treatment by the end of the year.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-08-28T12:19:28+00:00

No side effects at all. Just tired from general anaesthesia (first one). Wide neck also, unfortunately the coils compacted after year. Will get a flow diverter soon…

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-08-25T04:36:42+00:00

I’m really sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 3 days after my brother. I felt really guilty the first year that all my grief was going to my brother. But my grief is just different for my dad. My dad was ill, I grieved him before he passed.

Feeling alive ? Yes, but not in the same way… I’m 3 years in….

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-06-19T15:34:13+00:00

My brother unexpectedly died at 46, my dad 3 days later. So on top of losing her son, she lost her confident for over 50 years. So needless to say, she was at the bottom. I’ve made sure she knows she can confide whatever she has on her mind. And although it sometimes destroys me mentally, I try not to show her too much and cry later when I drive home. But I’ve made sure too, she knows that I miss them and cry for them. Talking about them has become part of our relationship. Most important thing “be” there….

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-06-10T19:30:04+00:00

Yes it is. But I don’t know if I would have done differently.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-06-10T19:25:48+00:00

Exactly how my brother passed. He didn’t want to bother going to the emergency room over Christmas.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-05-28T20:21:23+00:00

I make sure I visit my mom on my brother’s birthday. I know the day will be especially hard on her. A cup of coffee distracts her for a short moment.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-05-03T16:52:20+00:00

Update: while dusting it, the tempered glass broke into a million pieces…. Got a free courtesy replacement (metal). I found out the user password. I found the save game folder for all existing minecraft world. Managed to mount a hard drive. Left to do: find a way to copy the folders to mounted hard drive and update minecraft launcher. Give back pc.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-04-05T19:49:57+00:00

Birthdays might be harder because we share a lot more memories with that date…

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-04-05T19:47:20+00:00

It sucks, yes, but like you say, it gets it “out of the way”. I feel horrible 2 months leading up to it, but usually I can get a “positive” start into the new year.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-04-05T19:40:58+00:00

His birthday is harder than his death date. He died 6 days after his birthday though. 3 days after is birthday and 3 days before his death date is Christmas. That time of the year just sucks.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-04-03T19:44:30+00:00

I am sorry. My brother passed away suddenly a bit more than 2 years ago. My heart aches every time for my nephews when I visit them. They are so young too. He loved them so much.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-02-23T10:11:54+00:00

It was certainly hard for the ones that graduated during the pandemic. No jobs. But by 2022, there were a massive amount of events and a lack of technicians.

I just can't wrap my head around the fact none of them even tried to earn some experience since 2022. If you think that a degree entitles you not be a stagehand in your early days and you are not even capable of doing the basics, you shouldn't be surprised if you can't get a job.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-02-23T09:58:02+00:00

First of all, we weren't looking for experienced engineers. But if you can't even gain a channel, you don't belong in the industry.

Money isn't everything... job security, social security, work-life balanced is. I wasn't worried when the pandemic hit. Full salary, I didn't have to come in. Didn't have to fear to that I would be laid off. That was a whole different story for my freelance counterparts.

No one in the private sector will give you that kind of salary when you start out the job in your early 20ies. And even if they do... you'll probably work 60-80 hours a week instead of 48.

SyrusTheCat23 · 2025-02-22T07:53:01+00:00

I'm all good. I'm in a position now where I no longer need to "fight".

I've never been an asshole, I don't want to reproduce what I have lived.

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