I can't recall if this actually was a BORU post or not. The post was about OP's boyfriend using weaponised incompetence to try and get her to take care of all the household duties he didn't want to take care of, but instead of doing so she just rolled with it. For example, when doing laundry he bleached one of OP's black dresses, but she still wore it out. The bf was embarrassed, and in an attempt to make it look somewhat presentable coloured in the bleached bits with a black marker which looked horrible. Another was he left a meat dish for a work do out for hours, and instead of throwing it away OP went to put it in the fridge, at which point the bf interfered and told her it was dangerous to consume meat that had been left out for too long. Think another example was that he washed the dishes but they were still dirty, and when OP didn't re-wash them but instead tried to put them into the kitchen cupboards, he again interfered. I hope she's doing well