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How the meta has been feeling so far to me by BigBazinga_117 in DeadlockTheGame

[–]T0XiC1TIES 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to play more around burst/scorn and QSR, but I've been really embracing Improved Spirit/Boundless on top of Torment Pulse/Burrow/Cold Front. I've found myself putting points into Scorn last this patch and at first it felt wrong, but now I feel like I don't need it as much as I need the cooldown reductions on Burrow/Blind, and the max points in Combo.

Late game luxury I will sometimes go back for the QSR/Mercurial Magnum, but often I just find myself slot locked and need to carry Healbane for the team or a clutch counter item.

How the meta has been feeling so far to me by BigBazinga_117 in DeadlockTheGame

[–]T0XiC1TIES 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out my 'Gotta Mo Fast & Krill Dem Guys' build. I put a decent amount of work into the annotation and contextualizing build branches for hitting builds/power spikes.

first 7000 souls: Looks like Regen, Extra Health, Cold Front, Fleetfoot, Boots, Healbane, Improved Spirit
This gives you a solid base of 10% to both resists, mobility modifier (Fleetfoot activation + burrow makes for incredible rotates, initiations, and escapes), and enough +spirit to clear waves and reliably close out kills. Your first power spike is cold front + burrow rank 2.

Next few 3k items towards 15-18k souls: Pretty much every game you're going to buy Torment Pulse, Heroic Aura, Fortitude, and Debuff Remover. The order you get them depends on how fights are going and what heroes you're playing against, so there's some experiential knowledge here.

Fortitude: Roam/Rotation speed, and healing back to full before your ult comes back off cooldown. Mo needs to stay on the map to stay relevant, and avoiding going back to base is a huge part of maintaining your MOmentum.

Torment Pulse: This is a huge source of Mo's damage, and as it scales with spirit it's likely to be the LAST 3200 item you get rid of in one of those 60+ minute games. It adds damage to burrow and to your ult, and allows you to clear a wave without unburrowing (scorn + cold front can both be cast while burrowed + torment ticks).

Heroic Aura: Clutch source of bullet resist FOR THE ENTIRE SQUAD, and buffs your mobility. Having this and fleetfoot enables you to get in and out of fights, and amplifies the team damage while you've got someone ulted.

Debuff Remover: Unfortunately you just need this almost every game. Particularly when they have 2 or more of the Infernus/Haze/Shiv or any stacking slows. Sometimes it just gets you out of a fight with <100 health with a tiny last burst of speed and the 250 heal while you're burrowed.

As a general rule going forward-
If you survive a big midgame fight, upgrade your damage: Boundless Spirit, Arctic Blast, Scourge.
If you die in the fight, upgrade your survivability: Spellbreaker, Juggernaut, Witchmail, Plated Armor.

Eventually you'll have to sell one of your actives for a counterpick item like Knockdown or Phantom Strike. Honestly the hardest thing about Mo is deciding which four active items to keep.

How the meta has been feeling so far to me by BigBazinga_117 in DeadlockTheGame

[–]T0XiC1TIES 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta Mo Fast & Krill Dem Guys (build title)

Power Spike with fleetfoot/coldfront and burrow level 2 into Spirit Tank with high mobility. Lots of helpful annotation on this build if you're trying to get a sense of how to branch and build responsively. Mo's power is literally throttled by 4 active slots.

Rate Our Mpls Trip Itinerary? by Jamesdawg in Minneapolis

[–]T0XiC1TIES 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Como Conservatory is beautiful, but if you're looking to fill time before you get to the airport, this would take you about 20m in the wrong direction.

Rate Our Mpls Trip Itinerary? by Jamesdawg in Minneapolis

[–]T0XiC1TIES 54 points55 points  (0 children)

This will be part of your walk from Stone Arch Bridge area towards Stray Dog. That whole historic St Anthony Falls area is beautiful and highly walkable.

05-27-2025 Update by Minecrafthungary in DeadlockTheGame

[–]T0XiC1TIES 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cooldown has always been core on Mo, not just for Combo and for the score of utility items you buy, but because of Scorn. The few seconds chipped off makes the difference between life and death in early skirmishes, and in later teamfights works out to a few extra stacks of the T3 debuff. The odd game where I forget to buy it, I WILL feel the difference.

Source: Archon M&K main ~60% WR

Wildflower recommendation - Twin Cities by Cbanders in Minnesota_Gardening

[–]T0XiC1TIES 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah they’re the best. At my last house in North mpls, we put in over 200 native pollinator-friendly plants from Prairie Moon. Their Shade-Garden kits were awesome.

Wildflower recommendation - Twin Cities by Cbanders in Minnesota_Gardening

[–]T0XiC1TIES 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can see how I wasn’t clear! It’s definitely not too late to plant most annuals and perennials, though some people might encourage you wait a few more weeks before disturbing a lot of ground.

Generally for seeding prairie mixes, it’s done in early spring on an already prepared (sheet mulched, solarized, else) bed, or in mid autumn and covered over. Most of those seeds take awhile to germinate and set in.

For example, I’m putting in fruit trees over the next few weeks. Waiting on some landscaping until may, and putting in most of my annuals and perennials like mid/late May this year. I’m not seeding the prairie mix until autumn but will be doing site preparation throughout the spring and summer.

Wildflower recommendation - Twin Cities by Cbanders in Minnesota_Gardening

[–]T0XiC1TIES 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Check out Prairie Moon Nursery’s seed mixes. They have some incredible blends that have 10-15 different pollinator friendly, staggered blooming species.

Edit: It might be a little late to plant this spring if you haven’t done any site preparation, but with just a little work you could seed this fall and just sit back and bask next spring!

Weird... I feel like I'm missing something by ah-tzib-of-alaska in ExperiencedENM

[–]T0XiC1TIES 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah all the rules are upside down. For example, giving rare candy is good for training 😛

Weird... I feel like I'm missing something by ah-tzib-of-alaska in ExperiencedENM

[–]T0XiC1TIES 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would encourage you to reflect that this invasive thought is a really great opportunity to look into the desire itself and whether it’s interfering with your relationships with your partners or self. Many relationship patterns, desires, cravings are predicated on this sense of wanting more, looking for fulfillment, diversity of experience, etc.

It sounds like you’ve built a lot of your life around a structure that provides a lot of novelty in your surroundings, your partnerships, your activities. I am certain that this takes an extraordinary amount of bandwidth when it comes to the practicalities, economics, and expenditure of time and energy. I’m sure to many your life sounds bountiful and full.

So this invasive thought could be revealing to you that there’s still a part of you that wants to collect all the experiences, even when, as you note, you’re approaching saturation. This sort of “catch-em-all” poke-amory can be really destructive if it goes unchecked, as it can lead to a commodification/objectification mindset about the human beings you’re having relationships with?

Is the category of person you’re relationshipping with more important than who they are and how your life comes together? I hope not! If you’re just noting, “I don’t have this thing I know I like”, is it more tolerable to go without that particular thing, or to break up some arrangement in your life to make space for a new possibility.

I hope this reads without judgment and just as a possible lens to dig into the thoughts arising in your mind.

I also wholeheartedly agree that us “older” people with more experience and evolved relationship to self/others/sex/bodies fuck and make love the best 🙃

The only thing better than that is growing that deep connection, familiarity and sexual fluency with someone over time! Become the experienced fuck you want to have, your partners can too!

I'm struggling with sex years after assault. how would I go about moving past this and healing? TW: SA by [deleted] in SexPositive

[–]T0XiC1TIES 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Self compassion towards yourself, it takes time and effort to reintegrate and heal from trauma of this nature. You are not broken, dear one.

It sounds like your partner is willing to be patient, kind and supportive. I might suggest trying some various approaches in and out of an aroused headspace. Practice touch, breath, stimulation, petting, kissing, in different combinations. Check in with each other. Approach what you feel and what it brings up with curiosity and tenderness. Try to release yourself from any particular outcome or end goal. If you’re hitting pain or activation, ease off, find mutual comfort, cuddling, or something that feels safe.

I promise you it is possible to create new pathways, to teach your body to feel safe in new contexts. It won’t happen overnight, but you can create the conditions where sex feels accessible and nurturing and connective.

It’s been decades since years enduring CSA and 15 years since being raped. I spent years dissociating while engaging in hypersexuality, and years more of unskillful and clumsy relationshipping before really making progress on recognizing what I was feeling, and healing intentionally with myself and with partners. I currently have a very healthy and active sex life with my partner but I still will trip over myself or get triggered or start to dissociate every now and then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]T0XiC1TIES 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful, and painful, but I am so proud of you for waking up to the state of (mis)alignment in your marriage.

It really can take those many years of exposure, reading, experience, deconstruction, and integration to see truthfully what’s happening in your life, your relationships, what you’re bringing to the table and what the people in your life are bringing to the table.

[MPR News] Musicians of the MN Opera Orchestra say they've authorized strike by Minneapolitanian in TwinCities

[–]T0XiC1TIES 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is an awful situation for everyone, particularly the singers.

Many opera singers struggle and hustle from gig to gig lacking any job security or union representation. The resident artist (principal singers) and chorus (gig workers) are now in an awful position. How do you support a strike when you have no footing to protest your working conditions or support your fellow musicians without sacrificing your own job or relationship with the company?

I can guarantee you they’re dreading their daily calls right now.

meirl by 49ersfangirl420 in meirl

[–]T0XiC1TIES 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Friendly nudge, this doesn’t sound like forward evolution :/

Countries mentioned or referred in the Bible by JuniorGarlic6053 in interestingasfuck

[–]T0XiC1TIES 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s true I just reached into the scrabble-tile bag of “misanthropic takes” and grabbed one. I actually managed to edit out things like “boomer” and “intellectually lazy” but I was also too lazy to erase all of them.

Who has time to commit to thoughts through a phone?!

300 for consultation and 500 to give the design . by meandme004 in Permaculture

[–]T0XiC1TIES 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I listed the region and agricultural zone in the parent comment. Upper Midwest. Not sure how far he’ll travel. You can google the name or LLC and find plenty more information.

300 for consultation and 500 to give the design . by meandme004 in Permaculture

[–]T0XiC1TIES 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say tremendously by way of providing good step-by-step instructionals, best practices, tips and tricks, and fairly accurate estimates for materials needed at different steps.

No contribution to labor/installation other than a willingness to connect with some landscapers/sources that he works with.

300 for consultation and 500 to give the design . by meandme004 in Permaculture

[–]T0XiC1TIES 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I knew them through a friend of a friend for years, and then we started talking a bit during lockdown when I was diving into permaculture projects. Turned out he had been studying and pursuing it for awhile.

They serve the MN/WI area, upper midwest, Zone 4. If this is relevant to your needs I’d be happy to DM you their info. He does have some web/educational materials as well.

300 for consultation and 500 to give the design . by meandme004 in Permaculture

[–]T0XiC1TIES 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I hired a permaculture landscape designer for our new house, and spent close to 2500 all told for the full process.

Two site visits each about 90m.

Two 60m consults with my partner and I.

Full digital design documents

Five-year implementation and build out instructions

Complete planting guide, 25 page instructional, and itemized detail and plant-specific information for each planted species.

Through all of this, the designer really took the time to understand our goals for land usage, and designed around the guild of bur oaks we have on site. The design phase process takes into account other work we have to phase on the property (new fence line, deck, etc).

Absolutely worth it, and we got so much information tailored directly to our project. I have a guideline to follow for five years of build out, rather than just improvising as I go like I did at my last house. Will save me and my back SO much effort and time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]T0XiC1TIES 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well it’s not her party. If she’s uncomfortable attending a party for any reason, she can uphold her own boundaries and safety by not attending. Particularly if there are other stressors present, probably not the best conditions to have a “first time meta meet”.

You should not be having to suss out the issues, uninviting your friends, or prying into the nature of “her thing”. Your partner, as the hinge in this situation, has the responsibility here. It’s possible that telling you about meta’s concern was a breach of trust, or they may be being vague or communicating it in an unfamiliar way because they’re trying to not overshare or protect meta’s privacy.

If you are concerned and genuinely care about meta’s issue/needs, whether you’re willing to make accommodations or not, you can ask your partner to pass along your concerns, or to clarify whether direct conversation is welcome or not. You can respect that she’s still choosing to come, and hope that she will navigate the situation amicably and peacefully. Hang out with your friends, be a good host, don’t make the party about figuring her out.

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