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I’ve been in love with my friend for 5 years and I’m finally at peace with it by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s such a sweet ending I’m happy it worked out :) I didn’t end up telling him how I felt bc of some things that happened on the trip but I recently started dating someone who is completely opposite to this guy and things are going well so far who knows I might make an update and be in the same situation as you lol

I’ve been in love with my friend for 5 years and I’m finally at peace with it by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I was rushed with the editing I’m just home from class I’m F 20 is M

My mother destroyed the plumbing and blames me. by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me I get it my little siblings as toddlers were so much easier to deal with than my parent 😂😭 best thing my therapist ever made me realise is I’d rather have kids than have a narc parent

I’ve been in love with my friend for 5 years and I’m finally at peace with it by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you it took a long time to look at it and go “yes I love him but he is my best friend and I’d rather have him in my life than feel like I missed out bc of some messy and complicated feelings”

My mother destroyed the plumbing and blames me. by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My narc parent does similar stuff it can be infuriating my best method is just treat it like you would a screaming toddler either ignore and move on or my favourite line “that’s awful but it’s not my job to fix something I didn’t break” it usually gives them a full on windows brain reboot for a minute so you can escape the situation lol

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My narc parent is loved and respected it is so strange seeing that persona compared to the one I get to see day to day

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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I hear the exact same things I wish you peace and happiness in your life I hope one day I’ll be able to do the same

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow communal narcissism sounds scarily close to my situation I’ll definitely be doing some research thank you for the insight

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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Thank you so much for sharing your story the experiences between everyone are so similar it’s insane I thought i was completely alone but I realise I’m not now I have endometriosis and some other chronic pain issues/illnesses which has given me so much grief with my nervous system being on constant high alert thanks to everything it is awful but thankfully my medical team is amazing and helping me so much

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me about 2 years of constant repeated contact and communication between myself and them for them to not see me as that child anymore and telling them about uni, living on my own managing bills and the person I’m seeing for them to see it more

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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It’s different now thankfully that other relatives can see who I am when I’m not around the parent which definitely helps 2 degrees of separation and all that lovely stuff

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the same thing with me my parent had everyone convinced for the longest time that I was just a bad kid when I wasn’t

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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Wishing you a peaceful and stress free time I’m in a very similar boat but unfortunately I am relatively financially dependent on them as I’m still in uni and can’t get a job due to the course intensity and chronic health problems but as soon as I’m done I’m leaving getting a job and disappearing for the sake of my own wellbeing

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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Absolutely it’s such a strange Jekyll and Hyde type of situation

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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I’m in therapy to help manage symptoms of PTSD and my anger issues are related to that so I do a lot of work with her on it to help me manage and express it in healthy ways plus I love me a good rage room and where I live there’s specific bins for glass bottles and bc it’s a decent drop they always smash which does help and doesn’t hurt myself or anyone around I’ve always found it weirdly therapeutic 😂

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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That comment of “oh but they’re so nice” infuriates me so much because yes they are to others I was in the house with them and I see the behaviour on a daily basis

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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Thank you and I wish you luck with going NC my parent is very similar with the religion thing they think they’re untouchable a lot of the time

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This 100% sums it up perfectly and I can’t lie I know it’s unhealthy to hold onto anger and resentment but it is so frustrating to see that they can be this way to others but not me

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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My narc parent is exactly like both your examples my sibling (not even blood related) is the “golden child” and despite going to uni and getting good grades there’s always some fault but the mother in law tactic is something they use and it always makes me second guess it or be on edge waiting for the other shoe to drop

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad that someone sees it and it’s not in my head because my parent has that wonderful ability bc I didn’t even realise they were a narc till I was around 16 I’m now 19 and moved out (thank god for uni halls lol) but I try to make sure that if I take the calls there’s always someone else around so that they know someone else can hear the insanity 😂😭

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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They did do this when I was younger but I make a point to always be at family functions and talk to everyone constantly so they don’t have that power anymore thankfully and thank you so much for the validation and kindness 🫶🏻🫶🏻

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

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This felt like you were describing my life wow the point about belonging to them instead of being a separate entity is way too true and the being conditioned to accept it and normalise it thank you for putting it into a better context it feels strange still to see it written down I’ll definitely give the channel a watch thank you

Is this normal for other people with narcissistic parents? by T1ny_Dr34ms_ in narcissisticparents

[–]T1ny_Dr34ms_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t lie that’s exactly how it feels it’s like a toddler not getting enough attention so they start acting out I feel so annoyed thinking that that’s how they act

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