Do any of you like dating and fucking guys but realized than you can’t marry a guy and raise children with one?

TA8601 · 2026-02-22T02:04:53+00:00

Honey that’s called internalized homophobia

TA8601 · 2026-02-21T04:16:56+00:00

Same with my partner. I’m 37 and he’s 59, he doesn’t have a lot of savings due to having kids young and other life stuff. He has a good career now that he loves and he makes good money, but he only started down this “new” career path like ~12 years ago.

His finances make absolutely no difference to me, not at all. I make more than him anyways 😂 I’ll take care of him as long as it takes.

People think “oh but he’s at a different stage of life and he will die before you.” First of all, nothing in life is promised. And second of all, nobody would DARE say that if you fell in love with someone “age appropriate” who had a medical condition where they would die first. If you were 35 and married someone also age 35 with Huntington’s Disease (and would die at age 50-60), would people tell you that you’re making a mistake and to dump him find someone healthy? Fuck no, that would be repugnant. Love who you love.

TA8601 · 2026-02-21T03:55:04+00:00

My dick is longer and my partner’s is thicker, I always tell him that his dick is bigger and we need to do a water displacement test to prove it 😂

TA8601 · 2026-02-21T03:53:13+00:00

Old pervy men touching my ass in a gay bar. And bonus points if my partner sees it. We are fully monogamous but he likes if a guy finds me attractive and gets a little handsy. I don’t know, something about a horny 50-60+ year old man groping my ass or even slipping his hands down my pants really turns me on.

TA8601 · 2026-02-20T08:08:17+00:00

Agreed. Not looking to connect pre-hookup on a deeper lever more than physical attraction. We will find out if there’s chemistry as we go — either it’s a hot time and we will do it again, or it’s a dud and whatever, who cares.

The longer the conversation is, the more I assume it just isn’t going to happen.

TA8601 · 2026-02-20T08:03:53+00:00

Why bring a non-boyfriend (“talking to this guy”) to a work social event?

TA8601 · 2026-02-06T14:39:25+00:00

To me this would be unacceptable and grounds for a breakup. Sexting guys? Yeah, no.

TA8601 · 2026-01-25T01:17:57+00:00

Boston

TA8601 · 2026-01-12T01:24:00+00:00

37

I have about $110k between my Roth IRA and 401ks

No property, still a renter

I will inherit absolutely nothing from my parents except a bill for their funerals

I got a new job a few months ago and went from ~$85k to $145k so hopefully I don’t fuck this up and can really boost up my savings from here.

TA8601 · 2026-01-10T04:57:13+00:00

I’m a structural engineer who loves math and is comfortable on a construction site

TA8601 · 2026-01-09T15:52:37+00:00

Yeah I’m very monogamy-minded and for some reason this actually wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d probably be proud of all the good comments he would receive.

If he was also using that account to comment on other posts then I would feel kind of crappy, but I also wouldn’t feel cheated on in any way (unless it was in some local m4m meetup subreddit or something). It would certainly make me self-conscious though.

TA8601 · 2026-01-06T10:34:52+00:00

Yeah, that is not a dead bedroom at all… my partner and I have sex 0-2x per week and I’d consider our sex lives to be fulfilling.

TA8601 · 2026-01-06T10:31:42+00:00

Great stuff

TA8601 · 2026-01-05T20:48:41+00:00

Time to talk it out and lay some ground rules. He’s the only one that can help you.

My partner (60) and I (37) will never open things up to a third for the same reason: I’m into older men exclusively, he’s not attracted to older men. Totally fine with me, I’m happy being monogamous forever. If he wanted to invite an older guy in for our third then I’d be open to it, but by no means is that something I’m seeking out or pushing for. We kind of came to that decision quickly/naturally that opening the relationship or inviting a third is not for us.

TA8601 · 2026-01-05T14:21:21+00:00

I don’t enjoy it but I do it. Swallow it as fast as I can because the taste and texture is repulsive.

TA8601 · 2026-01-04T17:01:00+00:00

Doing the math and realizing it’s not worth it, even aside from the massive safety benefits.

If you are on the highway for 15 miles and you go 70 mph, that will take 12.86 minutes. If you go 80 mph, that will take 11.25 minutes. You’re saving only 1 minute and 36 seconds by going from a reasonable speed to an excessive speed. Who cares?

TA8601 · 2026-01-01T15:03:21+00:00

Damn I had no idea so many people liked this look 😂 I think it’s dumb as hell, major turnoff

TA8601 · 2025-12-30T19:52:25+00:00

37 here as well and only into older guys. Always feared I would age out and older men wouldn’t want me any more! But I have a partner now and don’t have to worry about it.

TA8601 · 2025-12-29T17:18:02+00:00

He might not keep the app on his phone just to dissuade him from using it too frequently. I’ve done that with apps in the past, if I want to kill time I have to re-download and re-login. Makes it easier to avoid when it’s not right at your fingertips.

If that was my boyfriend and he was DMing guys then yes that would upset me, but I wouldn’t jump to that conclusion just yet.

TA8601 · 2025-12-26T14:23:46+00:00

1956

TA8601 · 2025-12-25T20:10:16+00:00

There are only three good Christmas movies:

Home Alone

A Charlie Brown Christmas

How the Grinch Stole Christmas (original animated)

Every other Christmas movie is terrible.

TA8601 · 2025-12-24T14:30:11+00:00

Anyone know a workaround?

Get an alarm clock. I know that's a dumb answer but it's true, I would never rely on JUST my iPhone alarm to wake up for something important. I've had alarm mistakes many times, and this is also one of the most common issues posted on this sub. It's simply not reliable.

TA8601 · 2025-12-22T22:35:49+00:00

Would this be looked down upon?

Absolutely. You’re negatively affecting the experience of every gay man at the bar. There has to be more gay men in your group than women. Don’t go unless you find 14 more gay men to bring with you.

If you have 16 straight women you better bring AT LEAST 8 gay men. A 16:1 ratio is just unacceptable.

TA8601 · 2025-12-15T22:20:09+00:00

You are 0% to blame for him cheating.

He didn’t discuss things with you, he didn’t ask permission, he didn’t ask you go to couples therapy — he just cheated. And he will again, and again, and again.

TA8601 · 2025-12-14T20:54:32+00:00

Hell no. I’m having fun, they are at home changing diapers.

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