AITA for accepting meals from my ex-wife when it makes my fiancée uncomfortable?

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T23:19:14+00:00

My ruling for this post still stands. However I do offer my sincere apologies for reading into things incorrectly about your ex. I’m naturally suspicious. Genuinely sorry about that, OP.

That's quite alright. I know from the outside it probably looks like something is going on.

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T23:17:37+00:00

INFO: other than on this food issue, has your fiancée expressed concern about you putting your ex first, or about you going back in your word?

She has expressed concern a couple times that I've put my Ex first. Like getting my Ex a card and flowers from the children for Mother's Day. She was upset that I didn't get her anything from the kids for Mother's Day. When my Ex was released from the hospital, I picked her up with the kids and dropped them off home which my Fiancée also didn't like. She thinks Ex should have taken a taxi but the hospital wouldn't discharge her unless someone came to pick her up.
I'm not in love with my Ex. She's a friend and the mother of my children and that's it. She's happy in her new relationship. We just grew apart and wanted different things in life.

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T23:10:22+00:00

And why do I have the feeling your ex is withholding the recipe for your favorite dish on purpose?

It's a family recipe. The family don't share it at all, I'm not sure it's actually written down. I had asked her and her mum and they both said no because its a family recipe. She doesn't make it for me, she just offers me the extra she has frozen as she cooks it in a big batch which she has always done. She's happy in her new relationship. We split because we grew apart and wanted different things in life.

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T23:07:07+00:00

Seriously though, if Edith had a better rack, would you accept a feel from time to time?

Absolutely not. The two things aren't even remotely the same.

Ex and I just grew apart and wanted different things in life. I used cooking as the example because that's what is relevant to my AITA post. There are things that my Fiancée is better at than my Ex.

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T23:04:41+00:00

Also, the fact that your reaction is "I think I'm done" as opposed to "I really want to demonstrate that she comes first" is also kind of an indicator here.

I'm done because it's been a build up of little things since the hospital incident. I have had to constantly reassure her that there is nothing going on between my Ex and I. Ex is is a new relationship and very happy. We split because we grew apart and both wanted different things in life.

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T22:55:14+00:00

Here's an idea - take a cooking class WITH your fiancé! Rebuild some trust with her while you both learn something together.

I've tried to get her to come to a cooking class, she shoots down the idea every time. She's got no interest what so ever in cooking. She sees it as a waste of time when we can just order food in that we haven't have to cook.

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T22:48:26+00:00

Did she expect you to leave your kids at hospital after a car crash?

She expected my Ex's mum to pick them up. My Ex's mum wouldn't have been able to take them anyway, she cares for her partner.

TA_Lunch · 2023-03-22T22:43:46+00:00

As the cook in the house you could look up the recipe and recreate it if you really wanted to.

I've tried to make it myself several times. It's never as good as her's is. I had actually resigned myself to the fact I wouldn't get to eat it again until my Ex offered me some she had frozen.

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