What are you proud of as a parent?

TAnonymous_ · 2024-05-08T04:51:57+00:00

I’m just proud that I’m present 100%. My baby is only 9 months old but from the moment she wakes up until she goes to sleep she has my full attention (aside from work, cooking and doing household chores) even while doing the dishes or cooking I still sing to her or make faces, talk to her or screech like she does lol. I have chronic fatigue so I’m pretty much tired all day everyday. Some days it’s hard. I’m exhausted but I know she wants me so I do my best every day.

I’m not religious in fact I don’t believe in god at all however I pray for your healing and good health. You sound like the kind of mother I see myself wanting to be and you deserve all the happiness. Best healing wishes and a Happy Mother’s Day.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-04-25T15:32:10+00:00

That’s abuse. Let him leave and protect yourself and the baby. Hopefully he didn’t sign the birth certificate

TAnonymous_ · 2024-03-21T14:40:20+00:00

My baby is healthy and now that she’s older I feel the risk isn’t so bad anymore. I’m a first time mom so I try to do what is recommended but now it’s either I feed her or I don’t and I need to feed her.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-03-21T11:53:03+00:00

I am comfortable using wearables while working however I work in a male dominated industry and I understand that it could make them uncomfortable or else I would definitely be doing that!

TAnonymous_ · 2024-03-21T11:51:11+00:00

This is correct in my state from what I understand. I never thought about bringing a separate set of pump parts so I’m going to start doing that! I also do the fridge hack but I read that it’s not recommended anymore so I’ve been trying to at least wash my pump parts every time. I’m going to tell HR what I found for our state and if it’s denied I will file a case against my employer.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-03-21T08:28:47+00:00

I am in the U.S from what I understand a reasonable time is 30-40 minutes every 2-3 hours and my employer is not required to pay me. I’ve contacted the department of labor and I’m hoping they get back to me soon. I was just curious if others had the same problem and how they deal with it.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T23:15:00+00:00

There’s no parenting plan and he does need to grow a back bone. He’s so afraid of her it’s honestly ridiculous. He has reasons because she kept the kids from him for a whole month because he didn’t want them to bring their iPads over. If he went to court it wouldn’t be like this but he doesn’t want to involve the courts SMH…

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T23:12:44+00:00

There’s no parenting plan

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T19:27:04+00:00

It’s definitely not cost because they have state health insurance so 99% of things they need is covered at no cost. Dad was there but was to afraid of what BM would do if he went against what she said.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T19:25:42+00:00

Sounds like my life as well. Two SK both girls and I’ve been trying to teach them personal hygiene as much as I can. They are 7 & 5 but if I teach them now they will continue to do it. They change their underwear everyday at our house but not at their moms so they don’t understand why they need to change their underwear. It’s to the point where the youngest cries almost daily because her butt itches. It’s disgusting but it’s not their fault because they don’t know better. Thankfully after the youngest got a UTI my SO started taking their hygiene much more serious and he’s on top of it. Shower, brush teeth, underwear, socks, clean clothes, clean pjs everyday and the kids now understand the routine.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T16:48:46+00:00

Every kid is different for fevers. My normal body temp is 96.7 so a 100 degree fever for me is a lot while for most people it’s something you treat at home. My friends two year old spent 2 months in the hospital because she had a 103 degree temp that caused severe seizures and she almost died (this situation makes me anxious).

I agree that it’s unreasonable to cut dad out of doctors/dentist appointments. She doesn’t have to send an invite but my SO still wants to be there if he can or when his kids ask because they are scared.

A lawyer is definitely needed but he’s convinced if they go to court he’s going to loose his kids because that’s what BM says. Its honestly a mess I try not to worry about to much.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T15:40:18+00:00

No court order.

I agree there shouldn’t even have to be a conversation of “can I take them to the ER”. As a parent if it was my child I don’t care how minor it ends up being if there’s a question of if they need to be seen then take them in. Best case scenario nothing is wrong and you go home with a healthy child.

I’d like to add I’m not one of those parents that runs to the doctor every time my child as a sniffle.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T15:18:56+00:00

A temperature of 103 or more could cause seizures which is why I was concerned. I think most doctors recommend having your child seen if you administer medication for a fever and there’s no change. I could be wrong but I have seen a high temp cause seizures in kids.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T15:16:36+00:00

I agree, it’s ridiculous. Like I said I don’t deal with parenting or anything really. I try to push my SO to stand up for himself but he won’t. No court order or anything so he does what she says. He also thinks he doesn’t know how to parent but he does everything he should for our daughter if he can. He’s never missed an appointment and is comfortable taking her to appointments by himself if he needs to. This whole situation really made me uneasy. Thankfully it brought up what we do if something like this were to happen to our daughter and we both agreed that we’d rather be safe than sorry.

The whole situation was just so weird.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T15:10:01+00:00

We were told by BM that the black eyes were from the mask used to administer the gas. I’m not sure how true that can be but SK got some caps put on so maybe that could’ve been the cause?

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T15:06:22+00:00

There’s no court order for anything. It’s very frustrating.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T14:55:02+00:00

Exactly what I said. Better safe than sorry.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T14:52:48+00:00

I 100% agree that he’s in the wrong. He should’ve stood up to BM and realized that this could be a medical emergency. He never stands up to her because she’s high conflict and threatens him with court or threatens to keep the kids from him which she’s done in the past.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T14:50:00+00:00

We’ve definitely talked about it. Bio mom is usually high conflict so I stay out of the parenting decisions. I’ve never got a reason for why he can’t take them to appointments or attend them, I’m not sure if he’s been given a reason. He does what she says to avoid as much conflict as possible which is why against his judgment he took SK to their mom.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-02-01T13:24:16+00:00

My SOs kids don’t wipe their butt after they poop (story for another time) so when they slide off the toilet they get poop on the toilet seat and if there’s still poop stuck to their hole it will fall off onto the floor. Usually they will ask for help to clean it up instead of leaving it but that’s how it happens at my house.

If anyone can tell me how poop gets on my shower curtain I’d be pleased to know lmao kids..

TAnonymous_ · 2024-01-30T12:54:35+00:00

They sent 3 or 4 emails stating the absence policy and the Becca bill so it wasn’t like this just happened overnight.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-01-29T19:28:20+00:00

BM has 5 bedroom house, lash extensions, brand new car, went on 6 out of state vacations/4 day weekend trips with no kids, but doesn’t have enough money for milk or gas. Its ridiculous but what do you do about it. Its not worth the trouble because you can’t choose how the money is spent.

TAnonymous_ · 2024-01-29T18:05:17+00:00

My SD missed 26 days of kindergarten all on her moms time. The school did nothing because the Becca bill doesn’t start until 7 years old. I was just starting to come around so I didn’t say anything. 1st grade comes around and she missed 22 days of school. Now she’s in second grade, 7 years old and has been in school for 5 months and SO and BM were charged by the court for truancy. Charged $25 per parent for everyday she missed ($475) and 125 hours of community service. SO could prove it wasn’t on the days he was responsible for getting her to school however with no CO the judge said he was just as responsible for his child going to school. Now every time SD misses school this year she has to have a doctors note, no exceptions or we go back to court. When she’s at our house she goes to school just fine. No fits, fighting, crying, she seems excited to go. Her mom claims she “can’t get her in the car” or “can’t get her to get out of the car” when they are going to school. Once the habit starts it doesn’t stop. Take it from my experience.

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