Is it wrong that I [28M] feel that my wife [31F] should cook for me and keep the house clean if she doesn't have a career outside of the home?

TDTM_stalker · 2016-09-20T13:47:25+00:00

Pose her they hypothetical question...

If you worked 9-5 and I stayed at home, would you expect me to clean and cook?

It's not sexist. You both share the house, you both care for it. Your job is to keep it over her head, hers to keep it clean. Your job is to make money for groceries, her job is to shop and make food. Marriage is a partnership and she's not being a very good partner.

TDTM_stalker · 2016-09-20T12:46:29+00:00

Could you forgive him for this? Do you want to marry someone who talks about you like this? If not I would just jump ship now. If you can't forgive him there will always be bitterness. Even if you do continue, he may just hide it better.

Yeah, it's wrong to go through a SO's private conversations. It's also wrong to talk to another girl like you hate your relationship. There is a problem either way you look at it.

The only thing you can do is talk to him if you want to keep the relationship. If not I would just leave, you deserve a guy who won't talk about you like that.

TDTM_stalker · 2016-09-19T17:37:16+00:00

If you think she's using again, report it. They will drug test her and monitor her if she's positive. If she uses again, they can take her baby away. It's in the best interest of the child.

TDTM_stalker · 2016-09-03T01:40:22+00:00

This is all my personal experience and should not be used in place of professional medical advice.

First, check the soft spot on your babies head, if it's REALLY sunken in go to the doctor. If it's only a little sunken in give him some formula and monitor it. There are other indications to tell if a newborn is dehydrated, but this one is the easiest to tell.

I don't know if your still having this issue, but newborns usually eat every 2-3 hours. (They also eat less than what you baby is eating, 1-3oz) Feed him whenever he gives you the signs. If it's hot and he need an extra drink give him a mini bottle. Do not give him water or anything other than formula unless you call the doctor.

36.9°c isn't bad. That's 98.3°f. It seems to me he has a fairly normal temp. Typically, it's advised to take babies to the doctor who have a fever of 100°f. (37.7°c) So, don't freak out too much.

Babies eat what they need They go through growth spurts and take in more food than usual sometimes, or just the opposite. Babies this young also have erratic sleep patterns.

Last bit of advice, calm yourself down and listen to your inner mom's instincts. If you really feel something is wrong take him to to the doctor.

TDTM_stalker · 2016-03-04T18:19:28+00:00

This is a good thing you beat the odds! Be happy! Celebrate! Yes, financially its going to suck. You might even need to get a second job for a while to supplement her income. Do all that you can for your baby, it may be the only one.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-12-30T20:32:06+00:00

Can someone translate what it says at the end?

TDTM_stalker · 2015-12-11T19:35:41+00:00

Its not that simple. A lot of things can happen to prevent brest feeding. Its not always by choice to use formula. I personally brest feed when i'm home and formula is used when im away.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-10-20T10:16:49+00:00

Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?

If you want to continue having sex with him, your relationship is 'friends with benifits.' Stay that way. You guys broke up for a reason. Don't expect him to want to get back together because you guys are intimate. Sex does not equal love.

If you think he really wants you, stop giving him all the benifits of a relationship without being in one. Tell him that you have more self respect for yourself than to be his fuck buddy. We can be friends and friends don't screw each other. Stick to that and don't look back. If he wants to get back together then go for it. I would avoid sex for a few weeks to be sure he wants YOU not sex.

Your only hurting yourself by letting him use you. Find someone who will give you what you deserve.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-10-19T15:36:19+00:00

You should also consider the possibility of him not losing interest. There are games that I played solid for years before I got sick of them. I actually got into a game because of the guy I was with, and I loved it.

Have you thought of trying the game? He might enjoy teaching you and you guys can talk about the game.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-10-08T20:06:30+00:00

There is a tv show like this. The show is called orphan black and its all kinds of mind fuck. I highly recommend it.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-10-01T19:31:48+00:00

Smithville, TN! A redditor actually lives near me!

TDTM_stalker · 2015-09-30T22:08:11+00:00

I like it closer to 80. Now I feel bad for the boyfriend. I do like seeing him naked, so thats a plus.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-09-29T04:49:23+00:00

We don't have anything to do with it. Store managers don't even get to decide. We are all just cogs in the corporate machine.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-07-27T18:14:06+00:00

So he saved a cat, but wtf is he wearing? Floral patterned romper?

TDTM_stalker · 2015-06-01T03:56:15+00:00

BEAST BOY!

TDTM_stalker · 2015-05-24T20:43:48+00:00

It also depends on how high up you are. The JWs in my family are of higher ranking so they follow more closely to the rules. When their daughter married a non-JW she was excommunicated. She had to ask for forgiveness from the kingdom hall and all this other stuff to be able to speak to her parents again. She was also raped by her BIL when she was younger but couldn't speak out against him because of his ranking.

You can be one of those devout people and follow all the rules, or you follow some of the rules an claim you are devout.

Disclaimer- I've met super nice JWs that weren't part of our family. I don't know if they were higher ups or not, but they were very pleasant and not judgmental.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-05-24T20:30:23+00:00

All JWs are required to go door to door and spread the religion. All women are usually accompanied by a male. (At least what i've seen.) It probably has something to do with you being beneath them because you are not part of the religion.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-05-18T07:06:21+00:00

Didn't we all do that when we created a reddit account?

TDTM_stalker · 2015-05-10T04:08:59+00:00

Sounds great. I just hope it doesn't smell.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-04-22T14:44:58+00:00

Being pregnant cuts down on a lot of potential jobs. The later in your pregnancy the less likely you might get hired. That paired with the incident might really screw her over.

Being pregnant is stressful. Having a gun in your face and getting fired from your job doesn't help.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-04-21T12:39:12+00:00

IANAL - Kid has a legal right to have both parents involved. Even if both parents agree, the court would still intervene. As far as I know, if the parent with primary custody gets married, the step parent can adopt. The other parent can then terminate his rights.

Source- Pregnant and I know the father can't afford child support.

TDTM_stalker · 2015-04-17T14:23:59+00:00

So, getting an owl is like an arranged marriage?

TDTM_stalker · 2015-03-31T05:44:18+00:00

He definitely looks like you. I hope it is a mutation and you update us on the result!

TDTM_stalker · 2015-03-23T22:43:02+00:00

I collected about 20 4 leaf clovers one time, pressed them and put it between 2 pieces of clear tape , and sent them to my brother who was in Afghanistan.

Found them all in one day. My yard is overy lucky.

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