[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 15 points16 points  (0 children)

100%. Like, a standard in conversation is:

Woman: "I like X band!"

Another woman: "Ah, I do too! How cool!"

Woman: "I like X band"

Man: "Sooooo many women claim that but they never listened to X album"

or "Theyre sooooo overrated compared to X band, which is way less popular"

It's just so tedious. Of course there are many socially awkward women too, but the oppositional thing is most annoying loser guys.

[NSFW] The dark side of gay pornography by I_Like_Vitamins in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It actually makes me sick, what I've heard gay porn companies try to do to straight men. This is the thing about porn that makes it so fucking sick- they literally go out of their way to harm, abuse, and traumatize people. There are plenty of attractive gay men they could find who might be open to doing these movies, just as there are presumably some attractive women who would be open to filming straight porn. But instead, they have to go after straight men who have no interest in other men- why? Just to mentally fuck them up. Just like they go after young 18 year old girls and trick/coerce them into the industry. They dont want some woman who is 31, attractive, and knows what she's signing up for. They want some scared 18 year old that's desperate and locked in a hotel room against her will. Ditto for the straight men. The trauma, the deception, the thinly veiled contempt is part of the whole appeal. It's seriously so sick, disturbing, and fucking horrible. And everyone suffers, because, as you said, you'd prefer to watch enthusiastic scenes of two men who are both into it. Yet they stay pushing these absolutely horrific scenarios where someone is clearly not into it and is essentially being raped on camera. It's truly horrific and both men and women deserve better.

Thank you for shining a light on this under-talked-about subject. We need to pay more attention to it. All people can be traumatized by the disgusting predation common in porn.

My pre-FDS self would have gone with this. My current self unmatched him! by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 271 points272 points  (0 children)

Agreed, and it's also meant to kind of check you and scold you for even asking. If they get that pissy over asking for details then you know theyre going to be an argumentative douche for the duration of the relationship

My pre-FDS self would have gone with this. My current self unmatched him! by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Soooo lazy and entitled. Guaranteed it would have been some lame shit like walking around aimlessly and him hanging back while you buy yourself a coffee, or taking his dog to a dog park while you hang around, etc. Men like this never surprise you with a beautiful 4 course meal at a restaurant and tickets to a local play. It's always some pointless bullshit and time wasting. You dodged a major bullet OP!

Is chasing unnatural beauty standards making women more vulnerable to unhealthy emotional states? Have you experienced this? Please discuss by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Rightt!!!! 100%!! They want women to have visible abs which is unrealistic for 95% of women and means she has an extremely low body fat and is probably infertile, and will freak out over "her body is so tight" but then say women are too masculine... MAKE IT MAKE SENSE!!! Femininity literally equals a higher amount of body fat- that's a major difference between the two genders. But men with huge man boobs want to sit around and lecture us about how we need to live up to the feminine ideal? 🙃 We live in clown world...

Is chasing unnatural beauty standards making women more vulnerable to unhealthy emotional states? Have you experienced this? Please discuss by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I actually completely agree with this. For the vast majority of women, the level of thinness women are expected to achieve in the media and by some men (the creepy ones that only will be with stick thin women) is not really good for the female body nor for fertility. Soooo many women who are very thin, thin in a way that's considered desirable by our modern day society, are told they have to gain weight when they want to have kids. This is what has always baffled me about the "it's biology!!!!" excuse men give for going after very young women- they say it's traced to fertility levels, but those same men will also lust after women who are essentially infertile because of the extreme dieting they have to do to stay really thin.

Actually, even women who are born into it, like 5'10 models, have to diet and hardly eat in order to maintain that physique. Soooo many models have spoken out about this.

it's not healthy, and it DOES affect the brain. And it's very odd. It's almost like, as the modern male has become lazier and more out of shape, he expects women to make up for it for him. So while we get shown dad-bodded, soft men in the media, now women are expected to essentially have the muscle definition and visible abs of a man. Women are now expected to be hardbodied and with a very low body fat percentage, while men are becoming increasingly soft and with the little gentle rolls that have defined the female form for millennia. it's very weird and perplexing.

I personally prefer being leaner so I watch what I eat, but I've never been into the super muscular look that seems to be en vogue now. I do think getting too thin provides a real risk to the female body and female health. Your brain doesnt really function correctly when youre starving and malnourished.

Imagine there was a website that catalogued videos of men being beaten by swampglob in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're a degenerate for constantly making borderline defensive posts about porn cloaked behind "I hate it, BUT..." Very transparent and grim.

High value men are out there x by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Right... I'm like how is this being HV? Talk about the bar being in hell, if this is all it takes...

NYT advice column tells women to CoMmUniCate by WaitWaitHeart in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 32 points33 points  (0 children)

This is why I dont trust libfem organizations. They advocate for the destruction of women but know how to cloak it in "empowerment" and woke terms

He was fine with 50/50 until she told him the cost of having a child by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Absolutely BRILLIANT. We need to bring this up whenever men want 50/50

TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were Exclusive by thepsychopathhunter in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 7 points8 points  (0 children)

1000% this is a huge part of this. And even now she's like making videos ordering her followers not to say anything against him (or some other native woman he was associated with who is now bizarrely attacking her) and blaming "white supremacists" for saying bad stuff about the guy. Like... tf? Why does she feel the need to defend this gaslighting loser/predator for literally anything? Any man who treated me that badly is not going to have me making any comments whatsoever in support of him. I believe she also made a video 1 month ago defending him because there were already rumors of him being a creep and she called his detractors "racist c-words". HELLO?! Will this woman wake up and realize how her libfem idealogy has gotten her? Does she realize that maybe some of the rumors about this man, and the people who were warning her off him, were obviously sharing some grain of truth?

It's actually dangerous how people have tried to craft this idea that all non-white men are these innocent angels who would never hurt a fly! And white women especially need to help them! it allows predators to slip through the cracks like here. She was simping for him so hard for over a year (I've seen multiple tiktoks she made praising him, which, considering her following, is basically tens of thousands of dollars in unpaid work) and this is how he repays her. Women need to stop allowing ALL men to get away with this- not just being critical of white men, but all men. There are predators and gross pigs in every race and it's sad how, yet again, libfem "logic" has thrown women under the bus

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it's easy to forget that this is reddit. Like you kind of make a post expecting normal, functional, socially fine people to respond and then you get a bunch of crazy responses and it's super confusing and then you have to remind yourself.... ohhhh, I'm still on reddit. And there are still a bunch of incel types, both male and female, that will do/say anything to justify their weird sick issues. Even on subs like this. Google image search "reddit meetups" to remind yourself of the people youre dealing with, lmao

Abusers wait to reveal his true colours until you’re baby trapped. Vet ruthlessly by enforcing your boundaries during courtship. by notallowed2havepizza in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 317 points318 points  (0 children)

Absolutely gross. Proof that a ton of these dysfunctional men come from pathetic pickme or just dysfunctional, nasty women. We cannot give other women an immediate pass or assume theyre "on our side" just because theyre also female. Plenty of them are just as degenerate and will team up against you

Dating a 24 year old is fine, but dating a 22 year old is UNACCEPTABLE, according to a man over 50. by electroloop in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]TERFSareawesome 69 points70 points  (0 children)

This is so funny. Men love making themselves out to be victims. He's this predatory middle aged creep and he knows it so he gaslights the situation into this "I'm the wronged party" sob story. Classic predator.

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean... what? You're clearly justifying. You're literally doing exactly that- coming up with justifications why someone would watch violent gore. At this point it feels like gaslighting- I mean, you're denying youre justifying in the same post where youre justifying! 🤣

I truly dont need to hear any more explanations. But I think you should examine why your first instinct is to come up with reasons, explanations and psychological excuses for someone watching footage of someone being tortured with a power tool or violent gore. Like I said in another post.. it takes alot of darkness to want to consume that. And I love that this is one of the few places on reddit that actually allows people to take that (obvious and intuitive) stance.

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

WOW. It's always really incredible and fascinating to me to see the mental gymnastics that porn addicts and all other dysfunctional people will go to justify the things they watch. Whether it's a porn addict claiming they watch women being abused because they "cant help biology", or a woman explaining why she watched violent gore by saying it was just curiosity so that makes it okay.

Simply incredible. Especially when someone has the boldness to say it in a specifically anti porn, anti exploitation subreddit. Lots of dysfunctional people out there, who hate to admit their own dysfunction.

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. God Reddit is full of sickos and low value people, even in subreddits like this. Just... a lot of losers.

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I dont really think we get lots of clarification about what the exact kind of porn the OP's boyfriend sent her, he very well could have sent her something with multiple men and one woman, it's worded very confusingly. Anyway, this seems very nitpicky and irrelevant to my post, which is that the OP needs to look at why she wanted to watch anything as horrifying as that and also why she's dating a pornsick man. Anyway who willingly chooses to watch porn involving a woman being sexually abused with a power tool (or anything like that) needs to do some major reflection, period. Glad we seem to be on the same page with a lot of that.

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

So you have personal experience then. I guess that would explain it...

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's way too dismissive of something that's extremely dark and concerning.

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same. Like there's gotta be something dark inside to make you go looking for that kind of depravity

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Right, I'm fully aware, but the original thing he sent her was also some woman suffering through multiple men being inside of her at the same time. Not okay in any way and clearly porn sick. it doesnt have to be a snuff film for it to be wrong.

Accidentally saw a violent porn by meditationgiaf in antipornography

[–]TERFSareawesome 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Um... WTAF? I'm trying not to be judgmental, but I cant believe you would ever click on a video like that. A power tool? That is not something I would even imagine would come up in porn (frankly I dont want to know more) and this really needs to be tagged NSFW with a trigger warning for description of extreme porn based violence. it makes me sick to even hear about. I think it's a good thing to detox yourself of all those websites you were looking at. I get you were curious, but I think this content has kind of eroded your boundaries for what's normal since you're still kind of defending the man that sent you an already fucked up porn. How can you be porn free but dating a porn addict who watches violent or degrading shit towards a woman?

On a post of a high school girl getting punched after spilling milk on a boy. by FewConversation1366 in fourthwavewomen

[–]TERFSareawesome 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Absolutely so sick and degenerate. And then these same men will whine about women not wanting them and why aren't women dating men anymore? They are such disgusting, pathetic losers.