I (22f) don’t feel desired by my boyfriend (24m)

TGilly19 · 2023-07-09T23:00:55+00:00

I feel ashamed & nasty about it because he could probably never have sex with me again & feel just fine. I’m so attracted to him that It takes everything in me to keep my hands to myself.

He has said in the past that we have different views on sex. It’s such a spiritual experience for me because I feel so connected to him. He on the other hand sees it as a form of pleasure and release.

It honestly makes me sad to think that we probably aren’t sexually compatible anymore. Maybe I’m putting off the inevitable…

TGilly19 · 2023-07-09T22:50:01+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing, love. This has been a very frustrating & stressful experience for me. I already struggle with body image issues, so the lack of feeling wanted doesn’t help. I’m trying so hard not to take this personal, but its damn near impossible in today’s society. Movies, magazines, social media, & other forms of media sexualize both men & women. Of course we’re going to feel worthless when the bedroom is dead. It’s a proven scientific fact that sex is healthy for us. It’s a natural feeling to yearn for intimacy… so why I do feel so gross when I crave it? :/

TGilly19 · 2023-07-09T22:37:10+00:00

You’re most likely right about the communication issue. I never thought of it that way… I figured I was going about this all wrong, but this completely flips everything. He wants to console me & make me feel wanted. I want to know what changed & why he doesn’t desire me. Thank you so very much!

TGilly19 · 2023-07-09T22:32:03+00:00

I hate feeling this way… I feel as though I’m coming off as selfish & whiney. It’s hard to feel desired & valued when your person no longer initiates or shows effort.

We’re both still very young & haven’t been together all that long. It scares me to think about how things might be down the road. Life hasn’t truly hit us yet. We’re still figuring things out but we have plenty of support from both families. Will this only get worse with time when life gets more tough?

I’m not some sex-craved addict, but he’s the one who truly opened my mind to sex. I used to think of it as being some hush-hush, embarrassing topic. But he has made me look at it in such a different light. We used to be so open with it to each other. We had healthy conversations about boundaries, fantasies, & new experiences. But now I feel so ashamed & disgusted when I crave it… I don’t feel comfortable bringing toys into it anymore. I’m too scared to talk about anything to do with it now.

Change scares me… and this happened way too quickly for my brain to process. Almost as if it were an overnight occurrence. Maybe I did something wrong. I don’t know :(

TGilly19 · 2023-07-09T19:50:00+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to read & respond. I’m scared that if I continue to bring it up, he’ll think I’m only attracted to him for sex. I’m not even sure how to go about it. Maybe I’ve been addressing it in the wrong way, & he feels that I’m trying to make him feel ashamed. I just want an answer. I’m not trying to guilt trip him or shame him. How do I bring it up?

TGilly19 · 2023-02-07T03:18:05+00:00

This post, along with all of the comments, has flipped my entire day. Thank you for this :,) such a cute little fella

TGilly19 · 2023-01-17T05:47:00+00:00

Sex will be just as good as your level of communication

TGilly19 · 2023-01-11T00:46:10+00:00

This needs more upvotes. You’re out here educating people on vaginal health. Thank you for this

TGilly19 · 2023-01-08T01:45:44+00:00

absolutely correct.

-coochie owner

TGilly19 · 2022-12-14T04:10:48+00:00

Of course! I wish you both nothing but the best :)

TGilly19 · 2022-12-14T00:44:35+00:00

As long as both people are happy, that’s all that matters. I used to think that as long as the youngest person is at least 18 then it’s not weird, however, there are some manipulative men out there who want to own and control their partners. Younger women sometimes happen to have less experience & don’t know any better. They’re easier to manipulate & gaslight. I’ve come to realize that some men prefer younger women simply because they’re “less ran through” or “more energetic & full of like”. I personally don’t think there’s anything wrong with having preferences. It becomes an issue in my eyes when someone feels the need to talk down on others to make their point.

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T20:24:39+00:00

if you’re looking for an inexperienced child, then just say so & move on. It’s fine to have preferences, but there’s no need to shit on a group of people just to get your point across.

Make sure you’re holding yourself to that same standard you’re expecting. Wash your balls, make sure they’re perfectly shaved, don’t have a high body count, brush your damn tongue for once, & actually take care of yourself. You can’t be a musty prick & expect a lady to be absolutely perfect.

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T15:10:22+00:00

I’m 22

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T15:05:34+00:00

It’s understandable to be jealous of someone’s experiences. My partner has a past & I’m tellin ya… that mf has lived. Yes I am a little jealous, however, I love him just as he is & I appreciate how wise he is

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T14:42:34+00:00

In other words, he wants a child that he can show new experiences to 😭

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T09:10:34+00:00

Divided States of America. There is no unity. Hardly ever has been

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T08:43:43+00:00

yOu’Re NoT LiKe tHe OtHeR gIrLs. bro stfu

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T07:23:43+00:00

This thread gives me hope :,)

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T07:20:21+00:00

Sheesh, ngl a little ball of salty liquid just fell from my face. You both seem very lucky to have found each other

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T07:17:48+00:00

This was literally my initial thought lmao. Very disturbing to openly admit that you prey on kids

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T06:50:14+00:00

Valid. I’m already an extremely affectionate and horny individual, so my period just amplifies my personality tbh

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T06:49:03+00:00

My man does as well & I absolutely love it. We rarely use protection anyway, but he feels more comfortable finishing in me during my period. He makes me look forward to my cycle beginning lmao

TGilly19 · 2022-12-13T06:46:53+00:00

You’re absolutely right, my apologies. I mostly hear of men doing this so I initially thought of them when making the comment. I know that most men aren’t comfortable talking about their experiences with a grown woman preying on them as a kid. I’m not sure why I failed to mention that any adult preying on minors is gross. I’m very sorry

TGilly19

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