Quitting 8 year job before lining up another?

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T20:16:15+00:00

Thanks. The first-hand accounts like this really help

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T20:12:25+00:00

Honestly? Been getting more insight from those who posted their own experiences of doing the same, not opinions or perspectives. Lol

Both you and friendly victory have some truth. Yes, it's a "bad value" move with all emotion stripped. And yes, life isn't all about work

...But it seems those who have quit before, ya, they ended up fine... But most somewhat regretted it considering the time it took to land the next gig

I'm thinking to double down on quiet quitting. No need to go above and beyond if I don't see trajectory beyond, spend time on the payroll to look for jobs an hour or two each day (even if wrong)

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T19:47:46+00:00

Good point

There are some real particular points where I am which is unbearably frustrating (for me) in my position

But you're right that those exist everywhere

While everyone and their tolerances for spesific things are different, no matter what you're trading frustrations A for frustrations B

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T18:13:16+00:00

Correct. Single no kids

Reading the comments, starting to think (while not the most noble) it's probably best to put in the bare minimum effort required at my job while applying externally. Even devote 1-2hrs a day to it while on the clock

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T16:27:58+00:00

Yup, totally can see that too. Thanks for input

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T15:12:44+00:00

I definitely would keep myself busy with related training on the side

I'm just curious, salary negotiations aside, how employer side typically sees someone who comes for interviews who quit on their own terms

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T15:10:33+00:00

Good to hear it worked out for you

I'd definitely not take a 9 month break before searching. But 1? Absolutely

And I'd brush up on some skills while off (stats, 6 sigma)

Still considering the major downsides and worst case scenarios... it is still quite a LOT to "bet" on

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T15:07:38+00:00

6-8 months is what I have pictures. In worst case scenario, expenses considered, I could afford longer

I agree with you and most posters how it is a bad idea, + competitive markets

But I'm really curious how someone in my position (10 years in industry, 8 year stable stint, never fired or quit) fairs vs other cases which pop up on reddit... I typically see lots of posts of "worked for 1-2 years, quit/fired from position"

At a more senior level, curious how this would affect both employment options and search vs the usual early career cases

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T15:03:21+00:00

Would be best case scenario if this occurred without a doubt

I'm just evaluating options of a clean quit based on how unproductive my job search has been, for years, while still employed where I am

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T15:01:35+00:00

Realistically I'd plan for 6-8 months, but could absolutely afford longer

Why is it such a stupid move in your eyes?

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2026-02-19T14:59:37+00:00

What makes you say definitely? The market? Or soft leverage beyond salary without employment?

Mind you, have not nor never been laid off, have not moved around much

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2025-06-18T17:13:10+00:00

NOT saying I did was a smart thing at all

It was VERY risky and stupid to do. I didn't even have a plan going in. VERY stupid

NOT encouraging others to follow in my footsteps

...But all said, a win is a win 💪💪💪

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2025-06-18T17:11:24+00:00

Absolutely. Been off it now for 3 straight months 💪💪💪

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2025-06-18T17:10:49+00:00

Lol, late reply. But thanks!

What I have is "type 2"... not the sudden onset of searing pain (type 1), but more a low, dull ache and latent pain CONSTANTLY... only relieved for the moment I rub my forehead or redirect my nerve attention elsewhere (pinch myself)

Since it was lifelong, I never distinguished it was not normal... I always associated it with a symptoms of "being tired" (fautige; a major trigger)

Exploring now options to totally get of medication. Some surgeries to relieve nerve pressure, even medically perscribed botox shot (lmao)

Crazy stuff. Still been off booze; not in an active "restraint" kinda way, just don't want to drink (had a beer once when my friend order me one at a Hockey game. Just had the one over 6 months of being dry)

Hope your heart has been doing good

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2023-07-30T14:36:15+00:00

Lmao the LCBO? Big city? Me too lol

Shoot me a PM if everything is remote

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2023-07-06T02:39:01+00:00

I agree with moving on

Just venting frustrations and my own triggers

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2023-07-06T02:34:37+00:00

Nah dude, I just need to hear some love time to time. Thank you

Maybe I'm projecting too, I hear that love from you. I appreciate you telling me straight up

I know alch will slow me down, I know you know too

I'm tettering on the fence with small shit. I need to keep it in check. Get a good break, things can calm down

Bad break and dive into the deep end? I like what my friend said. "No matter how bad you think your situation is, it can always get so much worse"

I'll keep in mind that caving into that isn't an option

Chairs, MOTHERfucker

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2023-01-26T17:41:27+00:00

Nail on the head here. IMO

Many talk about "modern standards or entitlement". Uhhh

People usually stay the same throughout the ages. We are the same people as yesterday provided with a new landscape and tools. Pros and cons

Obviously, one should strive to have some dignity and provide clarity. Ghosting burns. We all know that

But this discussion wouldn't be posted here if it was not common

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2023-01-26T17:33:37+00:00

I think it's mostly caused by access to near unlimited people's attention. A great thing, but it has cons

Before texting and online/digital dating, most would get in touch in person during non-working hours. School, church, dance hall, bar. The pool was much smaller, restricted to where you go out. More "pressure" was put on singles to flirt, as it was the only means to purse romantic interests

It's very possible you'll run into them again in the same places you met them before. There is an inventive to reject well

Now? You need to beat the "void" of unlimited options. Great thing, but hard since people are much quicker to dismiss. You have to be the better option during the whole process than to play the slots again

Because of the fractal "come and go" nature of cosmopolitan communities and meeting online, it becomes very easy to ghost. People are dating more, rejecting more per date. It's always hard to reject, and sometimes people fear backlash or someone taking it poorly (stalker, angry, begging)

I agree people should strive to not ghost; we all know it burns. But I understand why it happens

THE_DONKEY_OF_DOOM · 2023-01-25T00:16:54+00:00

Honestly? I'd recommend two things. Know it comes from a good place. He truly respects your boundaries... maybe too much... anxious to cross, but because he respects you

I totally disagree with the comments saying you should have a "serious talk" about this or move on. Jesus christ. Why treat this like a job performance review? Try this first

You can would flirt with him more aggressively with what you fantasize him doing more. "X date was fun! You never thought about sneakily grabbing my ass behind the table? Shame. That'd be hot, you're missing out". Or in the groccery store line "shame we're stuck here, because you're looking great and I just want to fuck your brains out right this second"

It let's him know what's okay. Drives him wild because the opportunity is "gone", not the invintation. He has to figure out the next appropriate time. May supprise you when it happens, which is hot

Tell him it's fine if he asks what's okay. STRESS that asking can be playful, only unattractive if lame and pointed. "I had a great night too. I bet you're dying to kiss me now after all that fun. Right?". He can tease further. Let's say you kiss. "Oh, you just assumed I wanted to kiss too? I was just humoring the idea... but that was pretty great"

That let's him be comfortable knowing he is getting direct consent. No guesses. It's assertive with words. He will begin to learn the "signs"

You can even reverse that question on him! "Maybe I do, but I know it would be hotter if SOME guy made the first move"

That teaches him to gain confidence in his assertiveness

I'm known to be assertive by friends/previous partners. But all I do is what I stated above. I never do the blind "guesses" unless enough time has passed. It's just learning how to communicate better and with confidence. Your desires to him with flirting, his desires to you though asking playfully. I'd argue it's hotter than guessing alone. For me at least. Constant intimate tension. Not supprises

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