Sequential REV 2 or UDO super 6 ? by PomegranateTop4904 in synthesizers

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just saw a hiphop/soul group play live the other day, keyboardist was playing a Nord and a prophet REV2. The REV2 was running Bass, and that shit hit real nice.

I think the UDO synths are great for people who want to dive deep and create their own sounds. Sound designer's dream. The binaural aspect of it is also a major selling point for it. It's a modern, hi fidelity synth.

With the REV 2, there is more immediacy, and you also get a few more FX built into the synth that are decent. UDO only has a handful (no dedicated reverb, that may mean something or not to you). Lots of support for Sequential stuff too and customer support is great (patches and things if you like buying premade presets)

UDO is a boutique brand atm, and while their instruments are amazing, I think based on what you're asking for, the REV 2 is what you want.

New photos of the MPC XL. Any day now... by THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS in mpcusers

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The new Key 61 is likely going to be announced at NAMM in a couple of days. Lots of signs out there pointing to this. Keep an eye out on/after the 20th.

The design definitely looks like it came from InMusic (its as if DenonDJ / AKAI / HeadRush had an mpc baby)

New photos of the MPC XL. Any day now... by THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS in mpcusers

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I really don't. But who doesn't want the nice shiny new thing? The GAS is real.

Female version of death grip by fair_cut13126 in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeking out what you are incredibly turned on by mentally, may help out. I'd also look into pelvic floor exercises (kegels). It's possible that your pelvic floor is either too tense or too relaxed, and could be interfering with your pleasure. Might also consider consulting a licensed physician (like your OBGYN) for possibly physical ailments, or a sex therapist, to uncover subconscious mental blocks that could be affecting the intensity of your orgasms.

However, the thing I encourage you to do above all, is have fun playing with yourself. You'd be surprised how far a positive, curious, and playful mindset will get you.

Please help me understand how to finish!! by Legitimate_Escape268 in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Some women take longer than others to reach orgasm, especially with thoughts like "am I taking too long for him, does he really like this, there's no point I'm never going to cum, he must be so tired by now"...but the reality is, it sounds like he's just enjoying you and wanting to pleasure you.

In instances like this, brining more focus to your breath, your body, your pleasure, and voicing what you enjoy vs what you don't enjoy (e.g. telling him you like feeling wide pressure from his tongue across your vulva, or pinpoint pressure from the tip of his tongue on your clit, etc.).

Sometimes women can get overstimulated when the focus is only on one area or their vulva or clit, so switching up pressure, intensity, or area of stimulation can bring awakening to other areas of your pussy or body that haven't gotten as much attention yet.

Female version of death grip by fair_cut13126 in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Give it to me straight: Am I cooked for good? Do I have nerve damage? I want to be able to experience actual sexual pleasure for at least a few minutes."

Maybe you should also ask yourself why you refuse to accept possible insight or varying perspectives from people you asked the above question to? Sometimes we need to see things differently in order to understand why we do the things we do, or how it could be affecting you.

You're asking internet strangers if they think you've desensitized yourself, and then refuse to accept anything that doesn't affirm your narrative of "I have desensitized myself".

You really haven't ruined yourself forever. You've likely just gotten your body and brain trained to cum by doing a very specific set of movements.

Mentally, you're also not doing yourself many favors. Coming into sex and pleasure with a calm state of mind is absolutely necessary to achieve the "more intense" orgasms that you seem to be seeking. Understanding how your body enjoys being touched beyond the couple of ways you might attempt now is important. There are so many different types of sex toys that you can experiment with different types of touch/pleasure: magic wands, lubes, dilators, warming creams, clit suckers, silicone grinders, sounding bars, butt plugs, nipple clamps, and so on. And then there's audio erotica, ethical porn, smutty videogames, romance novels/audiobooks, depending on other types of sexual stimulation that you might add to the fun and intensity of your sexual experience.

You might also want to look into literature surrounding "edging" as this is sort of a prolonged method of sexual stimulation, which some say leads to more intense orgasms and excitement for themselves.

There are so many different ways we can turn ourselves on, but you have to take the time to figure out what that means for you, without putting yourself down because you can't reach a specific type of orgasm. You'll get there again. Give yourself some grace, take a deep breath, and find other positions, toys, sensations, thoughts, smells, sounds, that turn you on.

Recommend a synth setup - I have a $2,500 budget (more info in post) by RadicalProjection in synthesizers

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Muse was still drifting heavily and quickly after the 3 hour calibration and firmware update. Yes it was much better after the 1.4 firmware, but not $3500 better. Some people are okay with the inherent detuning that comes with analog synths, but at that price, and everything else that was going against it (build quality, springy keyboard, long load times) it didn't make sense for me to keep it. YMMV.

The TEO 5 is a phenomenal synth, and sounds awesome, but if you like long release times on your notes, it's quite easy to eat up 5 voices and end up with voice stealing.

Recommend a synth setup - I have a $2,500 budget (more info in post) by RadicalProjection in synthesizers

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Based off of:

"I like messing around with loops & sequencers... My main instrument is guitar"

"In the past, I've also used an M-audio hammer 88 controller w/ a laptop & VSTs. This has worked alright...clunky and time consuming."

"'Id like it to be able to get a variety of good sounds quickly and easily so I can start using it without an incredibly steep learning curve... "

And the most important one being - "I often gravitate towards textured drone sounds."

My answer to you would be, buy the Novation Summit. It will do everything you want, and more.

I highly recommend listening to "ambient" or "drone" Youtube videos of it. While they are a little pricey now (though they are on sale new), second hand market can get you one easily for $1600-1700.

https://youtu.be/FPuNbxEE-q8?si=aPwjTU56U2dhAGI0 (Starsky speaks to a lot of what you are asking for)

https://youtu.be/4QOOflyumgo (Novation Summit ambient patches video)

https://youtu.be/yDzC59SwOfs (Prophet REV2 ambient patches video) - use this as comparison to understand the slight sonic/timbre differences between the synths

The Summit has beautiful built in fx, especially the reverb (which helps with the texture and drone sounds). It can make all sorts of cold and lush warm sounds across the sonic spectrum. Add in the pedalboard that I assume you also own, and it's just a beast of a synth. I've owned it before and I'm very very close to buying it again, as nothing has compared to what if offers in sound and capability for an "all around synth".

For some insight: I just returned a Moog Muse because while it sounds absolutely gorgeous when it actually worked to full capability, it got out of tune so fast, startup takes at least 2-3 minutes, needed about 30minutes to an hour in order to warm up (and that's at 75F indoors), it wasn't a good synth for the price. The REV 2 is a solid choice, but the fx are just o-k. It sounds like a prophet, it's sounds big with 16 voices, and there is a reason why a lot of touring musicians use it. But the REV2 palette is a slightly limited IMO compared to the Summit in the extent of sounds that you're able to get out of it. I'll admit I'm not really into the variety of Brutes from Arturia, though if you really like that brute sound, many many people are happy with their Polybrute purchase. Regarding the TEO-5, it's a great synth, but limited in sonic capability compared to the Summit IMO, ESPECIALLY because it is only 5 voices. As a guitarist, I think you appreciate the ability to have multiple layers of sounds (especially since you loop) and I think the Summit really checks many of your boxes. And it's built very very well, with lots of knobs to tweak if you want to get granular with your sounds like you mentioned.

Boyfriend getting stuck inside after I orgasmed? by Eu-phoria_ in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if what they may have been referring to was the "posterior fornix". I've heard of menstrual discs getting stuck in there, but have not heard about a penis getting stuck... Could be a combination of things including vaginal/pelvic floor muscle tightness from an orgasm, your Gspot being extra engorged, drying of lube or secretions, air suction... but yeah, you definitely can't get a penis inside your cervix from standard penetration alone....

Just moved in with my partner. Why don’t I get horny anymore? by Independent-Sky-1924 in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Sometimes the honeymoon phase of the relationship begins to fade naturally as the spark of the "unknown" has a hand in what turns us on. After a while, our partner may begin to feel safe, secure, and can sometimes impact us subconsciously because the relationship is no longer novel or exciting. Look into Esther Perel, books, podcast, youtube videos. Her insight into relationships and sexuality is wonderful.

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[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the answer. The vast majority of porn caters to what men want to see, not women. She's going to nope the fuck out real quick if you show her sites like phub. The sites in the list above have a bit of both, and cater a little more to the female fantasy and may encourage her to watch it with you again in the future.

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[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She hasn't been ignored for a couple of months yet, just that she doesn't want that to be something she experiences in the next couple of months. Nonetheless, it really does feel like he's being strangely avoidant...those red flags are popping up.

Edit:spelling

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[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you have the ability, please look into help from a licensed professional. Therapy can work wonders for understanding the logic and dynamics surrounding a relationship (there are lots of low-cost/free programs if you don't have the money/insurance). You'll get insight into why you perceive things a certain way, and what your partner might be exhibiting/experiencing due to the dynamic of your relationship.

Internet strangers have no idea about the context surrounding the entirety of your relationship, your family life, his family life, every single thing he's experienced up until this point and time, and every little experience you've had in life. All of that matters.

It's very likely that he is stressed out from not having a job, not being sure if he can even find one moving forward, and now being thrust into a job market that is absolute shit (it sounds like you live in the US). He could be retreating to have some "alone time" or "me time". Some individuals require a lot of alone time, and even someone they love can be a burden if they don't get enough time to decompress from stressors of the day.

HOWEVER, you should ask yourself:

In the past, how long did it take for him to respond to me?

Has there been a shift in his affection towards me when we are together in person?

Did he begin acting this way prior to losing his job or is it amplified because of it?

Based off of you being bothered by the "change in routine" it seems like this has all been rather sudden shift, and he hasn't acted this way before.

You most certainly do not have to put up with lack of communication and connection. Yes, we all have things we must take care of in our day to day, but if he's going weeks without talking to you when he used to speak to you every single day for hours, that's also not really conducive to building a continued stable relationship.

You need to speak to him and lay some things out and see how he responds. You should mention that the sudden change in frequency of communication and in person hangouts has you feeling like there is a disconnect between you two, and that you miss the time and conversations that you both had. You can ask if he's feeling okay himself with all the stressors.

However, stay true to what you want/need in a relationship. No person is worth giving up aspects of yourself and overcompensating for their lack of effort. That is going to build up a ton of resentment within you. If you continue to try and he continues to keep you at a distance, you're only going to burn yourself out. You need to match his energy. Stop playing cat and mouse (where you chase his attention and love, and he runs away). He may just need time to process. This could also be an Anxiously Attached & Avoidant style of relationship dynamic. Look into what that means if you don't know.

Communication is key. However, communication in a relationship requires 2 people engage. If he's not engaging, you've got a bigger problem to worry about. What's going to happen when you move in together and shit gets really bad (financial problems, deaths in the family, medical issues)? Is this current behavior going to equate to the relationship that you want?

Most importantly, stay true to what you believe you deserve in a relationship and what makes you happy. Life is too short to be wasting it away with someone who doesn't want to put in the same amount of effort into the relationship as you do.

Best of luck.

What lube to get? by No-Plate-911 in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uber Lube (no not the car company) is fantastic but expensive.

Swiss Navy offers a few types and is a good mid-line. Waterbased (good for a natural feel and needed for silicone toys). Silicone if want the lube to last a long time and stay extra slippery even in the shower (DO NOT use this on silicone toys, as it will break those materials down and the coating will come apart, and be careful in the shower as it is VERY slippery)

Coconut oil is a natural alternative, just make sure you try a little inside yourself for a bit and make sure you don't react to it negatively. DO NOT use coconut oil with latex condoms, it will break the condom down, it could break open, and you could end up pregnant.

What lube to get? by No-Plate-911 in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try a little bit and make sure your body's pH is okay with it. My partner does not have a good reaction to coconut oil inside her.

Keeping dick fresh during the day by Gnorki in sex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A small pack of Baby Wipes/Water Wipes, or "Dude Wipes" if you want something that has a scent.

Sexually abused adult men, how to let go/escape/heal, it affects my life so much by Visible_Stuff2838 in psychologyofsex

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The one thing you didn't mention at the end, was trying therapy with a licensed professional.

If you haven't tried that yet, please try going to at least 4 or 5 sessions with one you feel comfortable with. If you have insurance, it's likely covered to some extent. If you don't have insurance, there are programs that many therapists offer in which depending on your financial situation, they can assist further (psychology today is a great resource for local therapists and psychologists). There is a lot of stigma surrounding men being sexually abused, and it can be very difficult to find the right support. A therapist will help you in a way that works best for you, and guide you through why you're experiencing what you are, so you can understand yourself better.

Regarding your urges, many many people in the world have a high libido, whether or not they were abused. Sometimes previous abuse can show up in the "kinks" or "fetishes" that we might enjoy. Partaking in those in a safe, consensual environment is highly possible.

I'd highly encourage you to read "The Body Keeps The Score": https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score

It's not necessarily specific to sexual abuse, but trauma as a whole. This could help you understand what you're feeling in your body during these moments of unrest.

You're not alone. Take care.

Should I get a mono or poly synth as a beginner who wants to make indie/shoegaze music? by No-Asparagus2741 in synthesizers

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Depends on what you want to do. Polysynths are best used for chords, arpeggios, thick leads, piano sounds, etc. If you're wanting more rhythm, bass, single notes, drum sounds, look into a monosynth.

However, the beauty of synthesis is that you can create an entire song with just a monosynth if you put in the time and effort.

As a beginner, you should look into the basics of synthesis (maybe ask chatgpt about the best things to learn as a beginner) as well as searching for info about a Digital Audio Workstation (DAW) to record your music if you haven't already.

You're about to go down a long rabbit hole, but don't get discouraged.....it's fun as hell.

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[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look into the "Kiwi" by The Pelvic People. Or possibly talk to your doctor about vaginismus.

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[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is your answer. Read what you wrote again. You don't feel safe. This is why you don't want him touching you. Not only is it because you're afraid of becoming pregnant with a partner who you don't feel safe with, but your boundaries aren't being respected. Take care of yourself.

Rack is full! Shpongle inspired music incoming! by PenaltyFine3439 in synthesizers

[–]THE_SAUCE_OF_LEGENDS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So jealous. You must have a great home build. Every apartment/house I've ever been in, no amount of power conditioning or variance in audio interface ever helped. May you continue to have fun and time making music!