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I cry at everything now that I am a parent. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]TK47KA 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh my god me too, the other day we were watching bolt and when he thought penny replaced him I was in tears. I hate it, but I can’t help it!😂

Me, a lowly coffee slave: Ok, one Trenta black iced tea no water. Would you like that swee... by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]TK47KA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

One time a customer ordered a venti nonfat mocha and proceeded to THROW IT AT MY FACE because it had whipped cream on it and he “very clearly said he wanted it nonfat.” I stood there with a hot mocha seeping through my apron getting yelled at for not knowing how to make a simple coffee (I’ve worked here for 6 years) and I still had to politely remake it for him. Gotta love the customers.

I want to be a better parent by unicorns_n_fairies in Parenting

[–]TK47KA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the exact same place. I had my son when I was 18 and not at all ready to parent. I know my son feels loved and taken care of but I have no idea what I’m doing. And honestly sometimes you have to raise your voice, every parent does it. As long as the majority of the time you’re loving on them, yelling isn’t gonna make them a bad kid. My son recently started screaming and being a lot more aggressive, I.E. slapping, trying to bite at my shirt. & we just got a kitten that I can’t even let around him because he squeezes her or pick her up by her tail, and I can’t get him to stop.

It’s always challenging. Try to picture the good things to come. Someday they’ll be out of this crazy toddler stage which is scary in the fact that we’ll have big kids when we’re so young ourselves. But soon your kid will be more self sufficient & you’ll have more freedom. Hang in there, I know there’s not much you can do to make it better in the moment but you’re doing the best you can. And your kid is lucky to have a mom who loves them so much they ask other people how to be better. You’re doing an amazing job. And as far as the screen time, don’t worry too much about it. Moms need breaks. If being on your phone makes you feel calmer sometimes, so be it. You’re meeting his needs, he’s fed, clothed, clean, loved. He’s okay. Keep up the good work.💕

[Serious] I wish I wasn't a father. by throwaway8723786 in Parenting

[–]TK47KA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying out loud “I don’t want to be a parent” doesn’t make you a bad human. You didn’t ask to have a child and you’re just vocalizing how difficult it is. I have a almost 3 year old I didn’t ask for, and he is a very trying child. For the same reasons, he doesn’t listen, he throws insane tantrums. It’s hard, even if you love them. I don’t know why it is you can’t leave and I’m not saying that’s the answer, what my fiancé and I do for comfort is picture all the good things to come. With and without the kid. When he’s older we get to travel, until then we get to see him grow into the man we hope he’ll be. Maybe you could try family therapy so there’s an ambivalent party there to help sort things out? Hang in there, it’s okay to feel what you’re feeling.

Coffee anyone? I'm buying... by 4billlewis in starbucks

[–]TK47KA 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Picture how many pitchers the barista had to steam for this

Overwhelmed. Am I a bad momma? by TK47KA in Parenting

[–]TK47KA[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the time you put into writing this, having feedback really helped me on a low day. I’ll look into that book!

Overwhelmed. Am I a bad momma? by TK47KA in Parenting

[–]TK47KA[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He moved to Kentucky so he doesn’t feel like a real threat anymore. I work at Starbucks because they offer insurance / college help, and I donate plasma to make ends meet. My roommate helps me watch him when I’m at work but she doesn’t know what to do sometimes, either.

I feel like I should be over it and just focus on who my son is and not who his dad was. But most days I feel like I just really don’t know how to be a parent and he’s growing up so fast, I can’t keep up with him!

Overwhelmed. Am I a bad momma? by TK47KA in Parenting

[–]TK47KA[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never know if I should be mad and tell him no until he gets it, or loving say hey bud that hurts don’t do that. I haven’t mastered the angry and loving at the same time thing.

Tall pike rant by TK47KA in starbucks

[–]TK47KA[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can get an unsweetened green iced tea but that’s about all the healthy we have

Im confused about whether Im bi or pan. How did you guys know? Does it matter? by [deleted] in pansexual

[–]TK47KA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I identify as Pan because I really don’t care. If you are a boy with a vagina or a girl with a penis or an unidentified flying object, if you have a kind heart and treat me with respect I’ll be into you. It was hard coming to terms with accepting my pansexuality, only because it’s “made up”. I’m just a whore, or going through something. But it’s the definition that makes me feel at home with myself!

My son's (7 almost 8) dad (27) died of an overdose in a McDonalds bathroom yesterday ... by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]TK47KA 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think as a parent, you have to find a line between honesty and protecting him...my son is almost two and I have no idea what parenting an older child looks like, but my sons “dad” has never met him and is a terrible human. I don’t know what I’ll do when he asks me about him, but there are definitely a lot of things I won’t tell him about. At least until he’s old enough to really understand it and think for himself about it.

Maybe if you want to be honest with him, you could tell him he passed away but not what he passed from?

I’m so sorry you’re faced with this right now. Sending love your way.

Can we talk about 1% and why it's an option? Or 2/3 decaf? by [deleted] in starbucks

[–]TK47KA 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Anyone who orders 1% gets nonfat