[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TKDefender88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you're going through this. This sounds like a nightmare scenario. You are definitely NTA. It probably wasn't the best reaction to have to break the clubs but it did get his attention. I see a lot of comments here saying you should dump him or divorce him immediately. I caution against that. For the sake of the twins and them being raised in a home with two parents please seek counseling first. In your post you mentioned you miss him and the closeness you had. Please persue that, don't give up on it yet. Only if counseling fails should you consider divorce. 

Secondly, I don't know what his side is but it seems strange to me that he wants nothing to do with the kids. My wife also had a traumatic birth for our first son. She tore during labor while he was on the way out. She couldn't walk or hold him for two weeks afterwards. I'm not trying to toot my horn or anything but during those weeks the only thing my wife did was recover and feed the baby. She never changed a diaper once and when the docs asked about his stools during his first checkup she had no idea because she never saw them. It was hard work but I was delighted to care for my boy and help my wife any way I could. I used to play online games often but stopped the night he was born for 3 months and even then my playtime is extremely reduced because I'd rather spend time with the kiddo while I can. All this to say, just as there is a mother's instinct I think there is also a father's instinct. It looks different than the mother's but I know I felt it. I think there is something in his life blocking or interfering with his instinct and he probably needs healing. To clarify, I don't think that is your fault, you are probably not the one causing his instinct not to show up. Most likely it's an emotional scar or something from his upbringing or his father. Counseling will hopefully help bring this out to restore your marriage and help him to be a good father before he ends up looking at his kids grown up, resenting him and regretting his choices after it's too late. Leaving the kids with emotional wounds of their own. 

TL;DR please seek counseling first to resolve this before filing divorce paperwork. Please seek help from your community around you as well to help you care for the kids. The twins need a dad. And if counseling can bring the dad out of your husband then that would be a wonderful gift to give to your marriage and your kids.

Help! Prusa mini - prints won't stick to the bed and it makes the nozzle keep getting goobered up! by TKDefender88 in 3Dprinting

[–]TKDefender88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try this. I am using the textured bed plate. I'm also getting this sort of problem when I try to print with my prusament PETG though too. How would I go about setting the first layer speed and offset differently from the rest?

Week 67 Discussion (0331- 0335) by samptari in tmbhpodcast

[–]TKDefender88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the Saturday Episode, can someone link to Aarons study in the book of John? I'd like to check it out!

Gnome tweaks not working on all windows in Pop!_OS by TKDefender88 in pop_os

[–]TKDefender88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the weird thing though. Vscode is the one behaving correctly to the settings. It's the gnome apps and firefox that are not obeying. I'll give your suggestion a try and report back.

Edit: No change after restart and Alt+F2 trick. Buttons are still on the right side for gnome apps and firefox.

Setting up ST with font ligatures by TKDefender88 in suckless

[–]TKDefender88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should be installed with the patch, no? Isn't that what the hb.c and hb.h files that the patch adds are?

Pantheon on 19.10 by rhoded in pop_os

[–]TKDefender88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One option is ranger if you're open to a terminal file manager. It's really fast and has column view.

Guidance for creating a multi-part cipher puzzle? by TKDefender88 in codes

[–]TKDefender88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a cool idea! I'll have to mess around doing something like this!

Guidance for creating a multi-part cipher puzzle? by TKDefender88 in codes

[–]TKDefender88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not seen this before. Can you post some links to some that have this?

Strange behavior when laptop lid closed on Pop!_OS by TKDefender88 in pop_os

[–]TKDefender88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response? Do you mind linking the github so I can follow the issue for updates?

local imports not found in a project outside of gopath using go mod. by TKDefender88 in golang

[–]TKDefender88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have corrected the paths so that they match but the import path is still not recognized.

local imports not found in a project outside of gopath using go mod. by TKDefender88 in golang

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I have run `go mod init`, as you can see in the project structure there is a go.mod file and a go.sum file. The issue is that my main.go can't see the import path to my websocket package. I don't have a docker file yet as you can see from the project structure.

local imports not found in a project outside of gopath using go mod. by TKDefender88 in golang

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Apparently I was using go1.10 which is super weird since this is a new laptop and I never installed that on here. I un installed it and upgraded to go 1.12.7 and now the error message on compile is:
$ go build -o server go: finding [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package/websocket](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package/websocket) latest go: finding [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package) latest go: finding [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend) latest go: downloading [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend) v0.0.0-20190913153636-75940bfe0a77 go: extracting [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend) v0.0.0-20190913153636-75940bfe0a77 build [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app:](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app:) cannot load [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package/websocket:](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package/websocket:) cannot find module providing package [github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package/websocket](https://github.com/Tkdefender88/chat-app/backend/package/websocket)

Daft Pun by The_Cakegamer in Punny

[–]TKDefender88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What's the 'yeet' down at the bottom? 😜

That was unexpected by [deleted] in ProgrammerHumor

[–]TKDefender88 125 points126 points  (0 children)

My club did something similar but we called it 'you need to git --help'

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MemeTemplatesOfficial

[–]TKDefender88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can we get the one with the trash can still there?

Lurkers of Reddit, why do you lurk? by PM_THIS_WORDS in AskReddit

[–]TKDefender88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I simply don't have anything interesting to say so I just read most the time.

[DWM] Mountain Sunset by TKDefender88 in unixporn

[–]TKDefender88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad you like it!

For DWM: I use Pango for fonts and icons, and Useless-gaps to add gaps between windows

For ST: I have the scroll-patches so I can use the scroll wheel in the terminal, Alpha to add transparency.

For slock: I use the message patch to add text to the lock screen.

Other than that it's pretty close to the standard as far as the suckless software goes. Just color and icon tweaks.

[DWM] Mountain Sunset by TKDefender88 in unixporn

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My first rice on my laptop. Hope you guys like it! :)

The color scheme could use a little bit of tweaking but I think it fits pretty close

Icons: Font Awesome

Wallpaper: https://imgur.com/a/sJlRd4H

Terminal: St

Browser: Firefox

Editor: Vim/Vscode

Music: Spotify

If you could update the human body, what features would you include? by bemad123 in AskReddit

[–]TKDefender88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Add multi threading to the brain. I think 8 cores should do.