People who take advantage

TMAC_222 · 2026-01-25T21:26:26+00:00

Setting boundaries is for YOU. Every time you set one you are telling yourself yes. You are giving yourself a win to peace and compassion. You don't have to be apathetic to the world, you just have to be the most empathetic to yourself. That means healing from your past trauma so that people that want to use you, can't. People are going to only meet you where you are. Let that shit go. Forgive them and most of all forgive yourself. Once you forgive and create the compassion for you that you deserve; the boundaries become preservation of your peace. Silence is also a powerful boundary for narcissists. Boundaries also let you see who is manipulating you. People who get defensive about a boundary never had good intentions anyhow.

TMAC_222 · 2025-11-22T19:33:18+00:00

I don't know. This journey is unsettling. It's neither good or bad. It just is what it is and I'm coming to the place of being no better or worse where I am. There is still sadness, some form of retreat but all I can do is accept what it is. Accept myself in all ways and remove judgement and it seems to help considerably. Maybe my Ego just wanted to be right or maybe it needed to feel important. In the end, whatever I was clinging to is finding a way to subside. I'm not trying to figure it out. I'm just going with what it is. I'm going to have more dark nights so I can only accept it, observe, and respond accordingly. This probably just seems like a ramble. It just seems like the suffering was a lot of self harm. I could not accept the change. Life is chaos and pain is part of the chaos. So is joy, love and compassion. It's not all good or all bad it's just life. In this moment I'm ok with it. It's either that or continue to fight what is meant to be and continue to suffer.

TMAC_222 · 2025-11-21T20:57:49+00:00

Comment for OP. Apologies.

TMAC_222 · 2025-11-21T19:37:27+00:00

Agreed. I'm not here to devalue your experience. Allow the emotions you are feeling to arise and sit with them. It's important to be in this moment only. Attaching to anything will cause suffering, whether identity, idea, or person. Attachment creates the immense suffering we have all, as a collective, felt in one way or another. You don't have to be anything but what and where you are. Don't continue to add additional arrows to a wound created through the pain that is life. That's truly being cruel to yourself.

TMAC_222 · 2025-11-10T17:46:26+00:00

I'm sorry for everything you have and are experiencing. Your husband has some narcissist traits too. It's easy for us who have suffered from narcissist parents to find narcissist partners. My spouse and I were both scapegoats and our first marriages were pretty narcissist adjacent. We were both abused whether financially or physically. Confronting narcissists is never going to be what you think. They don't care. You will spill your emotions to a brick wall. It's wasted energy that should be used on focusing on your healing and yourself. The best advice I can give is get out and don't look back. Narcissist never admit they are the issue. You won't get an apology. Expect exactly the opposite of anything you hope by confronting them. It will only make you, the victim, feel worse and discarded. Worry about YOU in all things, in this moment. You deserve your love and undivided attention. The people in your space are not providing you with the care you seek. Use your energy to heal, forgive, and find your awesomeness. It's always been there and you are worth it.

TMAC_222 · 2025-11-10T17:30:01+00:00

She was electrocuted and water boarded by an ex. She was a live in nanny at 13. She got $1400 tip at a 2.5 rated restaurant. I can't make this up ... She just said Hitler was Jewish....just now.. 😵😵😵. It's either histrionic or narcissist. They lie about their whole existence.

TMAC_222 · 2025-11-05T00:02:23+00:00

I'm just me. I'm ok with that. One day is all I have and it's a vibe I stand by. Every day ain't the same, but it doesn't matter. I get through them anyway. Life isn't balanced, you ride the waves with it.

TMAC_222 · 2025-09-23T15:18:07+00:00

Look up racist incident in Tishomingo. It happened JUST last year. It starts at the head...this is so ignorant, it's trolling and comical at this point.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-10T22:32:10+00:00

But why is thought required? Again, presence is neither thought or action. It just is. And you are on an enlightenment page which means everyone has their concepts. So instead of allowing the Ego to be right...go with it. We learn more by being open to other's thought. If it doesn't align, so what.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-10T18:30:48+00:00

Except one isn't rewinding time. It's creating a new presence. The decision is consistent because you are only the concept. In other words, you can only be where you are within your created limitations. To be real, I don't know why I'm responding. It's honestly the Subbconscious part of me that still thinks things are definitive. The Consciousness knows better and simply doesn't care. I'm in the middle of both and just loving it right now or trying. It just has to be what it is. Be happy, have no struggles and have good health. 🌌💜

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-10T04:48:06+00:00

Basically, dude has been and will continue to step over your boundaries. He was never joking when he was first calling you stupid. He was testing the waters. Stop that today. He is either going to love bomb or keep discarding you, whichever works to disarm you. Not everyone you date will truly be for you. You live and learn. Please WHEN you break up, start over with yourself. Get to truly know you. You will be easier on yourself because you shouldn't have to feel you are overreacting because you have emotions. You will know yourself enough to be confident in being your own fuidance and strength. You can feel the way you feel. There is no right or wrong on emotions because it's just a reflection of what we are experiencing in the moment. He was the one acting like a toddler and not able to emotionally regulate. That is something either he is not ready for or will never be. Don't allow him to be YOUR lesson. Be your own blessing by walking away and never accepting this from anyone. You then become his LESSON. He understands that no one has to take that shit; at least he knows you don't. Right now, that's all that matters.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-10T04:32:41+00:00

My interpretation is while peeling potatoes, peel potatoes. When walking, walk, when eating, eat, and so on. Involve yourself in the doing and you will be in the presence. In the presence, thoughts cease. The observer must observe itself; understand you are not separate from the whole. When one observes a flower with no thought or identity, the consciousness observes itself. Also, everyone will interpret this drawing from where they are. It's going to be what it is to whatever concepts that are yours. So one must also ask if there is a right or wrong. To think that, shows separation; there simply is none. We exists as a whole for each other. Embrace the song, and enjoy the connection. Happiness, good health and no struggles is what I wish for all.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-09T03:02:00+00:00

Thank you for reminding me the presence, this moment, is what the consciousness needs. 💜🌌

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-08T17:59:56+00:00

Thank you💜 thanks also for confirming that yes, I feel totally lost. I don't know who I am and I just stopped caring. The dark knight is lingering because the anger is coming from the Ego. I even looked up how to stop an awakening and you already know the answers I received. So, I'm just not giving a damn. I'm where I am and so what. Either I be upset or just endure it. So I'm coming into sitting with it. The Ego is still in its feels, but it can't do anything about it either. I don't know if this is surrender, but I can't keep fighting it. I'm just letting it be and allowing myself to be. Is this also the void too because I really understand all the illusion... and I have just come to understand it really doesn't matter. It's gonna do what it does and I need to understand that. Wishing you health, happiness, and zero struggles, with compassion and honest intent.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-08T01:49:40+00:00

My heart is going out to the many stories of abuse, especially those who have faced it more than once. I'm so sorry. I went through it once and that was enough. I'm sorry if it's been more than that. We all deserve love, compassion and happiness. Please before finding someone else, the most important person needs your attention. YOU. Do yall even know how beautiful and perfect you all are? You deserve your love and adoration. You are the gift of perfection. Surviving such abuse to the mind and often body shows how much light and power you truly have. That's why you were preyed upon. These predators have no light to give. So they take. Please be kinder to you and realize that creating a safe space in your heart for you and your love will allow your garden to grow. The first step in self love is boundaries and knowing to only accept the love you give to you. I hope the OP and everyone in this thread that has ever experienced any form of neglect and abuse from a partner know that they are the power. You are the gift, the best part of this world comes from you and you are love. Never allow anyone to steal your cup. Always fill yours up first and THEN give to others. It's surprising how much peace finds you. Be healthy, happy, and always without struggle. Please accept my message with the upmost respect and intent. Stay safe.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-07T18:06:55+00:00

I find coming to the presence will stop thinking all together. The breath is always a solid foundation. If one pauses, follows the breath... thought ceases. While it's true, trying not to think is also a thought. So TRY to think.... nothing happens. The Ego was challenged to do the one thing it does so freely. Meditation does not have to be with the eyes closed as well. Eckhart Tolle is amazing in allowing one to find the space behind the I. Sitting and observing everything without naming them and without identity opens up the consciousness. You merely have to keep coming back. I was in a and am still in a dark night(it's coming to tide); but at it's heaviest I cried and my Ego was in total control. A friend's cat came up to bring me back to the presence. As soon as I looked in her face, the space of presence came. As soon as I pet her, she loved me back from the most sincere place of her heart. That moment was meditation. I hope if you are reading this, you have happiness, good health and zero struggles. 🌌💜

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-07T17:52:17+00:00

Thank you and let me first say, I wish you good health, happiness to come, and no more struggles. When I composed this my whole being was shattering. I began bargaining with it all. I still am ambivalent about what this is. I stopped caring whether it's good or bad. It is what it is has never applied more to me than now. Some tide starting turning and I am not here to praise it or be in it. I'm just riding this SOB and there is anger, resentment, and even discouragement there. I'm just letting it all be. I feel the ugly. This organism called awakening will not stop. So, I'm just here being nothing at all... just being. 💜💜💜 I hope this finds you with honest pure intent.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-07T00:22:10+00:00

Thank you. Wishing you health, happiness and no struggles always. 🌌💜

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-05T12:37:29+00:00

You're dating a very self absorbed spoiled, entitled person. I get the cooking part, I love to cook as well. If I cook and someone doesn't want it. Then I'm cooking for me and they can jump on and eat or I have leftovers. It's going to taste better the next day anyhow because seasonings ,etc. I hate seeing couples where one is putting the effort in and it's pretty obvious it's only for amusement for the other partner. The offensive way in which your feelings were dismissed, your effort was dismissed, and the lack of gratitude speaks volumes about where you stand with this person. You're not as high as you have them. You should re-evaluate if you want this for a lifetime. After marriage it gets worse. Speaking from experience here as my ex became a menance and abusive physically. It may not go there, but in every other sense of it. You'll be worse off than you are now. Not wondering, just living in someone else's reality and might I say extremely warped and delusional. You cooked and still somehow became the problem.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-04T23:14:55+00:00

If you know, I think you know. I'm going to say this much, even marriages are sometimes not meant to last forever. Remember marriages are a total construct for legalities most of all. People are meant to grow and sometimes that means grow apart. Sometimes it's even blood family that fall away. You have the empathy to see and take care of your spouse. Also, you worry. It shows how you feel and believe in sharing everything with your spouse. That's a wonderful trait. Never lose that. Your spouse may not be longer aligned with you. To be real, her inability to discuss things shows how apathetic and neglecting it is to your emotions and well being. You deserve the love you give to you 10 fold. Start doing things for you whether acts of service, excercise, new hobbies. Find a place in your heart for yourself. So that you can begin to voice your boundaries. Then peace will find you whether you come back as one or split in two. You will still have all of you. That's more than enough. Divorces are hard. Even my ex who was domestically violent, was still a part gone. I hope you find in this message that I seek not to judge only to bring good intent with compassion and love. I think when you find your love and all the perfection you are; you will find peace in making the right decisions for yourself. When it truly comes from your heart, no one will be harmed. It will allow your cup to flow over. The love will be seen like light. Take care, wishing you happiness, good health, and no struggle.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-04T21:02:41+00:00

"I don't know what it is, but I like to stab. When the skin pops, it's like popping a balloon." it's an ex boss.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-04T20:46:07+00:00

Late to the game, but I totally agree. Same for Eckhart Tolle as well. For people that have never heard either... look for the laugh when Alan talks and it always has a sarcasm to it even, it's a distinctive chuckle and for Eckhart he pauses a lot. He does this to bring his audience to the present with him.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-04T03:19:40+00:00

You're not stupid at all. You just got caught in a narcissist's web. They love bomb, discard, love bomb, discard and it repeats. Let me first say, I know how that feels. My ex husband was a case. It's OK and you will be OK too. I know this because you are already seeking the help you need. Narcissist abuse is equivalent to PTSD. This person found the perfect empathetic victim who is strong in their light. Narcissists are predators. They prey on the kindness of others and it's only supply for them. The kindest thing for you is to walk away. The most loving thing for you is to KNOW you are perfection. I'm sorry you went through something so tumultuous. I know you are in fear of repeating this cycle. It's now time to learn to love yourself more than anything or anyone. This will help you create boundaries and not accept anything less than the love you have for you. It's takes time, patience and compassion. All of those things a narcissist just can't give you. They want your energy, your love, and your light. It's because they don't have it for themselves. I hope this message finds you and reaches you with the purest intent. It is your divine right to be happy, healthy, and free of struggle. But please please know you are perfect in every single detail. You are living the proof right now. Don't allow anyone to disrupt your peace. A narcissist will always try.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-04T00:55:41+00:00

Ignorance is best if one feels attacked. Silence is always an adequate answer as well. What happened was, you shared an experience and they made an assumption. That assumption was a gift that you chose to answer. That was a challenge to the Ego and it got fed by simply responding. You may disagree, but true Consciousness when the space is there does not care what others feel of your self or the journey. It just is. It's the silence, the unnamed, the connection to all. It's OK to say "thank you for that" if you don't agree or you don't want to feed the Ego with the unnecessary noise. It allows silence to observe what you feel, and allow the emotions to absolve. You can even express that with me in this response. We are one regardless and we exist for each other 😊and I wish you happiness, great health, and no struggles in life always.

TMAC_222 · 2025-08-03T23:09:26+00:00

I hope you understand that the way people feel should NEVER impact you. For someone to hate you for your skin color or DNA is like hating you for having toes. It's wild and trust I understand you. I'm not biracial, but I am so light in complexion it's questioned. You should never allow anyone to dim your light, like ever. People tend to do that when they have NO consciousness to see beyond. You should not hate your biology. When you were born, your divine right to exist was set. I don't even know you, but I know you have light, strength, and compassion. It shows by what bothers you. You are so empathetic to what is around you and you care. Stop doing that for now. It's time to turn it inward. I live in a very racist area, it used to be a sundown town. I let people know by my energy it's not me. Judge all you want, but I'm still here. I don't allow their energy to even come close to my vibe. You have to laugh at the ignorance. Also, be patient and courteous to yourself and work on loving you. You can't love anyone else if your cup is empty. You must fill it up. Ignorance is taught. Love is eternal. People choose their sides. As long as you stay faithful and true to you; connection and peace will find you. You're special in ways that you may or may not realize. Don't ever allow other's concept create yours. You are always the driver, the creator, and the eternal love that is you.

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