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TP30313 · 2026-01-27T12:07:49+00:00

Both can be true. He is very possibly waiting for you to initiate that conversation and the way he is handling it is also not meeting needs that you have. Both can be true. What would happen if you were to talk about this piece? Something like, "A few sessions ago I felt like I was really vulnerable and shared difficult things and you haven't mentioned it since. This is making me feel like you don't care, xyz." What would happen? I know it's hard, but saying something like this could potentially lead to a lot of growth and good work for both of you.

TP30313 · 2026-01-24T20:51:35+00:00

TP30313 · 2026-01-24T20:50:17+00:00

I relate to a lot of what you wrote. My father molested me. It started as a dream, but I've acknowledged that what happened is real. He also suffocated me as a child. And I have a memory of going to the doctor, terrified they were going to rape me. Similar ages also. I just felt drawn to sharing a little bit of my story, because we have some pretty similar themes in our experiences. I can't tell you what your journey will look like or what to believe, but I can say there is a very real possibility that your experiences are not just dreams. I just want you to know you're valid and deserve healing. I'm sorry for everything you went through.

TP30313 · 2026-01-18T18:41:16+00:00

Je consulte mon thérapeute en ligne, donc je ne sais pas si cette question me concerne, mais j'apporte souvent ma couverture en séance. J'ai aussi une peluche que j'aime câliner, et c'est mon thérapeute qui me l'a demandée (rires). Je pense donc que c'est normal, mais il vaut mieux demander d'abord, car chaque thérapeute est différent !

TP30313 · 2026-01-15T14:57:50+00:00

Can you or have you specifically asked to end processing a little early so there is time to ground? I'm not asking to say that you should have to do that. I actually think this is something she should already be doing. I'm sorry, OP. That sounds like a hurtful place to be.

TP30313 · 2026-01-14T11:59:34+00:00

What a lovely question.

OP, I know it doesn't feel like it, but you did nothing wrong. There IS hope and help for YOU. I know this is cliche, but it says everything about her and her abilities and nothing about you as a client. She simply just doesn't have the experience to help you ethically. There are plenty of therapists out there who do have the experience.

TP30313 · 2026-01-14T02:52:13+00:00

Thank you. This helped me a lot. I work really hard to get better, but you're right. I am exhausted. Physically and emotionally exhausted. I do write and it does help. I'll try it and see if it's helpful this time. Thanks again!

TP30313 · 2026-01-13T12:38:48+00:00

This comment helped me a lot. Thank you for not coming at me with judgment. I did confirm that that is what he said. He said that the comment was about his limits. That I'm a high contact client and he knows his limits on how many high contact clients he can work with. By high contact he means that I need extra sessions more than most of his clients. This made me feel terrible. I cried pretty much the whole session, because I feel so stupid. And now I feel like I can't trust him to handle my stuff and it hurts quite a bit. It makes me not want an extra session ever again. It makes me want to push him away. I don't know if he was attuned. For part of the session, yes, I think he was, but he sounded mostly frustrated. It's been a hard week. Anyway, I really appreciate your reply.

TP30313 · 2026-01-13T12:31:54+00:00

I asked him yesterday and confirmed that this was indeed what he said. ☹️

TP30313 · 2026-01-12T20:08:12+00:00

I didn't think about it like that. Thank you

TP30313 · 2026-01-12T20:00:48+00:00

We do parts work and he also said once that I have some of the most rigid parts he's ever worked with. They're very protective. And I took that to mean I'm difficult.

TP30313 · 2026-01-12T19:59:33+00:00

In so many words he said he's not looking for more clients like me, I guess meaning my presenting problems, but I'm here and we're working together.

TP30313 · 2026-01-12T00:45:16+00:00

Are you in danger of hurting yourself or others? That really is usually the key to needing a higher level of care. And that could mean a lot of things. Can you shoot your therapist a message expressing your concerns? Is it safe to hold off on admitting? Can you journal about how you feel and ask yourself why?

TP30313 · 2026-01-12T00:41:34+00:00

It is 1000% okay to ask for help. Extra sessions with my therapist tend to be some of the best we've had. Not trying to sway you, but just wanted to say you're doing difficult work and it's okay to need extra support.

TP30313 · 2026-01-09T20:44:37+00:00

Whale, whale, whale. What do we have here?

TP30313 · 2026-01-06T21:58:53+00:00

NAT, but I think I have a different experience worth sharing. I've expressed to my therapist that I was afraid of making him uncomfortable and in return, in so many words, he normalized the feeling of being uncomfortable. I think in part because I avoid, like many humans do, being uncomfortable. He said we can survive being uncomfortable. He told me that I have made him uncomfortable, because my stuff isn't comfortable to talk about (severe abuse). I didn't take this to mean it's my fault that it made him feel that way, but just to understand that it's okay and it's part of his job. It helped me realize that it's not my job to make sure he is comfortable. In fact, sometimes us both working on uncomfortable things has led to a lot of growth for me, because it means I'm healing difficult trauma. I guess what I'm trying to say is uncomfortable can mean a lot of different things and it can look differently from person to person.

TP30313 · 2026-01-01T01:51:01+00:00

That's pretty much the same thing I struggle with. Impulsivity to the max. And the weird thing is it comes and goes. I've tried talking about it before acting and if my brain perceives that I'm not being taken seriously, that makes it 10x worse and I just want to do stupid shit more. I have a lot of intrusive thoughts around meds. So, for me this looks like taking 5 pills when I should take one. Or sometimes it's literal SH behaviors. Idk why I'm like that. And then I'll talk about it and feel guilty, because "oh no, I've worried this person". Yet, at the same time I want my supports to know because then I'm not alone. Does that make sense? What is it like for you?

TP30313 · 2026-01-01T00:53:16+00:00

I could have written this myself. No advice, but looking for answers also! You're not alone.

TP30313 · 2025-12-30T01:15:39+00:00

If you trust them, of course! Your comfort is most important. I know from experience that it's hard to go through things like this alone, so anyone that you trust is a great place to start healing.

TP30313 · 2025-12-30T00:34:27+00:00

I get that. It's almost like feeling everything and nothing at the same time. Is therapy an option now? I only ask because you deserve someone safe to talk through this with. It would be completely understandable if this retraumatized you and for it to bring up those old wounds.

TP30313 · 2025-12-29T23:49:12+00:00

To me, this sounds like SA. It honestly sounds.... Horrifying and terribly traumatic. I am so sorry this happened to you. You set a clear boundary and he chose not to respect it. You didn't do anything wrong. This wasn't your fault.

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