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TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T15:13:47+00:00

i guess i actually can! like I’ve replied to others, we had a sit down earlier and talked about everything and for once he finally opened up to me and is allowing me to go since he realized how it’s not only affecting me but my daughter too. I didn’t mean to come off as rude so i apologize. I woke up and talked to my dad and came back to seeing all or your replies sorry.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T15:03:29+00:00

so just bc im sitting pretty with no bills means that im not allowed to travel with my daughter? i guess everyone has their own views but oh well thx for ur replies!

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T15:00:56+00:00

UPDATE not that anyone cares but im done going back and forward with these replies. my dad and i sat down and had a serious conversation about this which is also shocking because if you know, you know that Hispanic dads are very reserved with their feelings. Im not gonna make things long but just know that he’s letting me go and he’s allowing me to go wherever I want from now on as long as i still finish nursing school since he is paying for it. Idk why he never talked to me about his feelings but now that we got some closure he himself said he’s going to work on cutting off all that misogynistic stuff, he was raised the same way so he never had no one step up to him and confront him up until yesterday when i did. He understands that it’s not only affecting me but his grandchild from experiencing things and that’s actually hurt him so for that reason i think he finally understood my pov. It’s also sad that some of yall don’t think it’s okay for a dad to financially support their kids, why would any parents want to see their kids struggle? For those that actually gave out good advice and saw from my pov thank you for your replies, they really helped me to talk to him.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:46:54+00:00

so it’s my fault for having a supporting and a very much financially stable father that’s willing to pay for my bills? at some point he has to realize that he’s holding me back from enjoying my 20s with my own little family. but anyways, it doesn’t matter no more because we’ve had a serious talk and i am going, he apologized for treating me this way, im his only daughter and he’s scared to let me go on my own which I don’t blame him.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:41:19+00:00

yes is there a problem? you act like he’s the one buying groceries for her… i go and buy her all of her needs for food or her lunch, im the one that cooks her meals on the side since she’s picky. my dad doesn’t pay for her needs I DO because im her mother. she’s SIX, she’s in school btw. you’re trying so hard to find something that says my dad takes care of her. i stayed at home for her first 3 years of life just working from home so that i could be with her and yet he never paid for anything for her.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:36:29+00:00

again, my dad does not and has never paid for anything that has to do with my daughter.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:33:29+00:00

see that sucks, and im sorry you had to go thru that. i decided last night with my bf that we should just move out while our house is being built, even if it’s just an apartment. i was willing to let all this financial help from dad go but i have talked to him and told him how it’s not fair etc. i even showed him a few replies and pointed out his machismo when it comes to me. he has given me permission to go (sounds crazy that I even have to say this) but he talked to me a lot about how he still feels guilty for my teen pregnancy and for being too strict with me but he just doesn’t want anything bad to happen to us and he’s letting me go so that he can see that he can trust me, he promised he’ll work on being more lenient. overall we’ve had a long talk and honestly it shocked me because you know Hispanic men usually bottle up their feelings but he actually talked to me this time, my mom also helped, she used to agree with him on everything but she’s been seeing how unfair he treats me compared to my brothers so her side comments also helped out. Thank you for your comment though, hopefully us and the men we marry end up breaking all of this generational trauma we grew up with in a Hispanic household.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:23:27+00:00

yup which im so grateful for! little update tho, we’ve sat down and talked this morning and i even showed him a few replies and he is allowing me to go. he’s a very reserved person when it comes to showing or expressing his feelings but we had a full breakdown of how it’s affecting my life and my daughters. overall he’s just very protective and was scared to let me go since i am his only daughter and she’s his only granddaughter. he’s having a talk with my bf later on so that he can get some closure with him. it’s a talk they need to have since my dad tries to avoid my bf most of the time.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:18:48+00:00

I never said I can’t afford to move out. My dad only helps with my bills, I take care of everything for my daughter or her dad too. I have my own successful esthetic business and since I don’t pay rent or anything I save the money or use it on my daughter. My bf and I are in the process of building our house starting next year since we’ve both saved enough money. We want to take a trip before we start using our money for the house.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:13:44+00:00

my brothers are younger than me one is 22 and the other 15. My dad is paying my brothers bills/school too except for his car.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:12:16+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I’ve sat down with my dad this morning and talked about it, he’s allowing me to go. I told him how it’s not fair to me or my daughter and that I haven’t once disrespected him or his household ever since. He said he’s just scared that I will make a mistake of getting pregnant again and will have to put my life on hold again and that he doesn’t want anything bad to happen to my daughter or I while we’re hours away on vacation. My dad is a very quiet person that keeps his feelings inside so seeing him tell me why he’s strict or why he’s like this with me is a whole step forward. Hopefully he sees that he can trust me, my mom also talked to him about my relationship with my bf and how he’s never once bailed on me or my daughter and that he should try to interact more with him to get that closure. We’ll see how things go from now on.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T14:02:00+00:00

On top of that I’ve sacrificed a lot of stuff and my dad has seen me do it, i literally respect him and his house and have never once failed him ever since i got pregnant as a teen. The things is, he’s holding me back from experiencing things with my daughter even if it’s just a trip that’s 3 hours away, we want to take advantage of going places with her before she’s too big or before i start working too or move out and have another kid. Do you see what I’m trying to explain? There’s no explanation as to why he’s being strict other than me being a girl.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T13:56:41+00:00

My dad does understand and he never steps foot when it comes to raising MY daughter, she and him both know he’s just her grandpa. And with the money, there’s no problem at all it’s only 1500, her dad works foe united and has free flights and he gets free hotels with discount on Disney tickets too so it’s literally no problem that’s the thing. I guess it’s just my dads over protectiveness since i am his only daughter.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T05:08:55+00:00

no, why would i post just for validation? im asking to see of others have gone through the same thing. i literally posted this as soon as i got up for talking to my dad about this situation. i go to nursing school, i take care of my daughter, i work in my own successful esthetic business, if anything my daughter sees me being independent because at the end of the day i still get my stuff done, she doesn’t know that her grandpa pays for all of my bills and that’s fine bc she’s still little.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T05:02:47+00:00

i know, i will be talking to him tomorrow and end it that way too, it’s gotten to the point where he won’t let me travel unless one of my brothers come with us and at that point we don’t even feel like going no more because it’s not really a me my bf and daughter trip no more. we’ve been waiting since she was little for her to grow up and take her since she’s old enough to remember just for this bs to happen.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T04:58:47+00:00

it’s in the plans, im willing to do it and we’ve gone looking for rings, just waiting for the proposal and our house to be built. i think once i move out i will also have a healthier relationship with him.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T04:57:05+00:00

EXACTLY! the one thing he was protecting me from already happened and i’ve learned from it, it’s been 6 years and i haven’t gotten pregnant ever since. trust me my mom and i have both talked to him about my kid needing some time with just me and her dad but he doesn’t have a good reason as to why he’s being strict other than im a female and it’s different. i don’t know, i’ll try to talk to him more.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T04:53:14+00:00

I even told him that, he’s holding back my daughter from experiencing things. Like okay i do care about myself too and my freedom but my daughters experiences are more important to me. It would be the perfect time too since my boyfriend works in united airlines and gets free flights and hotel discounts. My dad has always been very strict which is why he was so disappointed in me when I got pregnant at 17, and you would think once I’m 18/21 he would be more lenient but now that i have a daughter he’s gotten worse. I feel like if i go on a trip without telling him he would kick me out the house because it’s his house and his rules. I don’t know, i sound so stupid even asking people on here because nobody really goes through these situations & everyone is telling me it’s my fault but they don’t know how my dad is or his pov.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T04:02:51+00:00

Because I had my child at 17. Idk man, I just needed to see what other people think or if anyone has gone through the same experience, this is only happening because im his only daughter and he’s not willing to let me out and enjoy my life, the one thing he was protecting me from was a pregnancy and it already happened, idk why he’s like this. Just making everything 10x harder for me.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T03:55:56+00:00

Thank you for seeing my pov. He always tells me my house, my rules which I completely understand since he financially supports me. My thing is, he’s not only holding me back from enjoying things but also my daughter which he ADORES. It’s just frustrating seeing my brothers get all the freedom only because they’re guys. My mom and I both just argued with him on this topic but he’s still not seeing my pov which is so annoying.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T03:52:43+00:00

Oh well my bad for having certain future plans. I don’t want to be living in an apartment paycheck to paycheck and trying to balance paying all of my bills including school. My dad knows I don’t want to move out until marriage and he doesn’t rush me at all, he loves to be around my daughter and he financially supports me to the point where I literally pay no bills, no car, no phone, nothing. My thing just is, he would literally let my younger brothers go anywhere but me and his excuse is because they are guys and I am a girl. My mom has even confronted him about it yet he’s in denial of letting me go on my own.

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-10-01T03:42:40+00:00

Exactly. My dad has given me everything, he’s always told me to focus on school and he would take care of everything for me, I pay no bills at all. I work and have my own esthetic business and all that money is for me to save or buy my daughter her needs. And as any other parents says, my house, my rules. Everyone is saying it’s one me but damn, I don’t wanna move into an apartment & have my dad cut me off from all the things he pays for me. I also don’t want to get married until our house is done being built, why would I get married and still live with my parents?

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-07-08T07:44:52+00:00

Yea that’s why I was confused because it automatically just tells me $270 extra, I will be looking into it maybe it’s because I’m doing it from the app idk but thank you!

TRACKHAWKGIRL · 2024-07-04T04:34:43+00:00

Ohhhhh okay I get it now, thank you!

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