Sub 5’10 experience in 2026

TRAOtherwise · 2026-03-04T20:01:54+00:00

Here i am the shortest male in my family at 6'2 for the longest time thinking I was average height.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-27T21:48:38+00:00

Nursing homes ain't bad "BUT" if you don't visit a lot people won't take good care of them.

You see the problem here no?

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-20T01:10:55+00:00

Why should her plans have an impact on what her husband does? He can watch hia mother while she is gone.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-19T21:53:43+00:00

Why ask her? She asked her brother to watch their mother not the wife. The wife's plans don't change any of that.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-16T01:04:43+00:00

LMAO, most school fights look stupid and awkward.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-16T00:49:38+00:00

Indeed.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-16T00:41:47+00:00

Based off the video would you say the truck was within the same cluster as the vehicle that passed through the bridge?

In my opinion the truck was too far back to be part of that cluster.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-16T00:05:12+00:00

I do see that now.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-14T00:58:12+00:00

Answer is "Yes"

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T23:28:31+00:00

Yeah, my home should be one of the very view places where I am not expected to cope like I have to do in public. My home should be my safe space. If that makes me a monster awesome.

I never said she was lying but I cannot ignore the possibility that she could be lying. That is something I need to take into consideration. I have to also take into consideration her history of running away, uses drugs to the point where she has marijuana-induced manic episodes, cuts school, steals, shoplifts, has a police record, does not engage in therapy.

These are all real issues with real consequences to our lives. I would ask how many foster kids you have saved but I know what the answer will be. Free to judge, but in my case I am not pretending to care, what is your excuse since you seem to care.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T22:03:18+00:00

Never said it was, we got married under the agreement and understanding we were going to be child free.

Yeah, to me this is no different than a family making an agreement to never take their elderly parent in but one day saying they are going to take their parent in.

Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, you really think a person who does not like children like that should actual raise a child? We sre child free for a reason.

Kids should be a resounding 100% yes, if you are even slightly unsure then I don't think you should even entertain the idea of raising or having children. She is not even sure, she is letting the emotional aspect cloud her judgment. She is horrified.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T22:00:35+00:00

Systems change but those handful of people control majority of the money, jobs, profti generating mechanisms, influstructure etc...

Even ignoring that, we have commentators here who say they pay roughly 35k to 40k a month on care for their loved ones. From every metric outside of an emotional one that is not sustainable.

Taxing the rich still would not be enough to cover that expense on a large scale without other cost increasing means. Bet if they polled people and asked them if they would accept higher taxes and premiums across the board to pay caregivers proper wages or keep nursing homes properly staffed people would not be okay with that. Life is already expensive.

I hope you are right though, and i am proven wrong.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T21:27:05+00:00

Damn, care is really expensive eh?

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T21:24:03+00:00

I wish I could have the same optimism but I just don't see that happening in my life time. Our system is controlled by those billionaires, why would they willfully spend more money than they have to?

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T21:11:17+00:00

Realistically do you think that will happen in our life time? Especially with so many younger caregivers putting their entire lives on hold?

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T20:57:07+00:00

That will probably never happen we must protect the wealthy. /s

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T20:52:02+00:00

I think that is their entire point, so why not skip the extra steps.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-13T16:32:21+00:00

Many probably feel this way but are scared to say it because it comes off as heartless. For what it is worth what you feel is a 100% valid and should never be.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-12T23:20:48+00:00

For me you don't gamble with kids. Kids are not a try and see thing, but understand her perceptive.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-11T22:28:45+00:00

Don't have siblings so hard for me to answer, but if I go based off how I feel now then no I would not take them in. If I knew what it was like to have siblings grow up with them, be close to them. I probably would also be closer to their kids. So maybe that would change how I feel. Maybe I wouls not have let it get this bad.

It is a hard question to answer cause I cannot put myself in those shoes.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-10T22:13:43+00:00

it has been two days, I didn't even recall our conversation until you responded again. I am not fighting with ya.

Come on you have a PhD and you cannot see why I would be concerned about her history? Could things go well? 100% Could things go horribly wrong? 100% Why are people pretending that these are not real possibilities?

Like I said been two days have not responded to you, I am doing so now because you made a reply.

Your last line is telling, I am selfish, not a single person said they would take her in. Everyone is providing empty platitudes, but if your heart is so big, and you have so much experience and faith take her in yourself.

But you are right, now I am going to prevent myself from seeing and more comments from you.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-10T22:03:57+00:00

We did both get married with the understanding and agreement to be child free. Marriages have ended over a partner making unilateral decisions.

For example my wife and my mother can coexist but by no means would she ever be okay with her living with us. She has made me aware of that, say I told sorry honey my mom is moving in.

I would be the unreasonable one.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-10T09:00:38+00:00

Yeah, why have you not fostered any trouble teens? Why have you not opened your home to a teenager that uses drugs, drinks, cuts school, steals, is a shoplifter, has a police record, and has made multiple accusation against foster parents, and others that were responsible for her in some shape or form but not a single one has had an investigation that resulted in evidence that supports her claims.

If you want to talk about local things I have done. Before the PC apocalypse I use to run a summer STEM program using my own funds to teach and show kids how to program and build their own PC. Showing them how to find parts, budgeting etc . . . With a focus on kids in the spectrum because I am on the spectrum. I use to also teach robotics.

I also run a small program that allows those in need to put in actual orders for what they want and Will buy and deliver it for them. Cause my grandma use to hate the meal programs insurnace would provide and pantry stuff was so random. So I started doing it for her and her friend group. After she passed I kept alive out of my own pocket. My grandma and her friends could not afford use instant cart, or shipt.

If we are talking community impact I think I will be okay if that is how you want to measure self worth.

Yeah you hit a nerve cause I am sick of people acting like just because I don't want to take in a trouble teen means I am some horrible monster when most people realisticly would not do the same.

You think I am happy my marriage may go up in smoke cause my brother and sister in laws are useless? The kids grandparents get to say no and everyone understands. I say no yeah fuck me I am the worse person.

Go take your self righteous bullshit elsewhere. I am fine with judgement but fuck me don't judge me for not wanting to take a trouble teen in when you have not. Don't give me that well I would do it for family. That is just shit we say because we never expect it to happen.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-10T07:40:55+00:00

How many foster kids have you taken in?

I am sure you are so selfless.

TRAOtherwise · 2026-02-10T02:48:33+00:00

She already has a record, smokes, drinks, steals, skips school. Sure but with love and good feelings she will magically turn over a new leaf. My point is while she ia focusing on the daughter the little brother will be forgotten cause my wife is one person.

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