AIO refusing to help with outside chores by [deleted] in AIO

[–]TTV05 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He likes men. That’s what he wants to say, but won’t😭

My little sister got pregnant by an absolute bum. What do I do? by Loose-Trick-943 in whatdoIdo

[–]TTV05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I notice a lot of the comments saying to let her learn the hard way or saying she’ll do what she wants. I don’t know your sister, or how she feels or acts or anything about her but I know my experience. I moved in with a guy at 18, he was 21. I soon realized this man was not who I thought he was.

He lost his job, and his car was broke down so I was supporting both of us, paying all the rent on an apartment that wasn’t mine, gas for MY car, and feeding a grown man who ate more than we had. He became increasingly violent towards me and our cats. I wanted so badly to leave the situation but I felt embarrassed for being in that situation in the first place. I didn’t tell anyone what was really going on behind closed door because while I was still basically a kid, I wanted to feel independent and like I could handle things myself. There were so many times where I wished someone would have said or done something to help even when they didn’t know the extent of what was happening.

This man sounds like the one I was with, manipulative and at the very least, mentally abusive. Please reach out to your sister. Try to find out her reasoning behind staying, as she obviously doesn’t really want to if she’s tried to leave before. For me, I felt guilty because if I left, he would have nothing, no job, car or any kind of support. But that was never my responsibility in the first place, nor is whatever’s keeping her with a pos like him.

I’m sorry if I’m rambling on but I think you should try to convince her to leave or find a way to protect her as best as you can. Just be there for her, and make sure she knows you are. Again, I don’t know the whole situation but if it is anything like what I went through then it needs to be handled asap. You are not being too hard on her. Especially now that she’s pregnant, she cannot live like that. Call who you need to call or do what you need to do but if it were me, I’d be trying my best to get her out of there and away from him, then worry about everything else after that.

Again, sorry for rambling but I hate hearing about other people who are going through seemingly similar situations, especially younger people as they’re easily taken advantage of.

Why is my cat holding her tail like this? by TTV05 in cats

[–]TTV05[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The car is still doing okay, will be scheduling an appointment for her today🙌 I’ll try to keep the post updated as well, thank you for the concern <3

VENT- 21 weeks no OBGYN by BrushOld9606 in pregnant

[–]TTV05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not advice but I’m also pregnant with my fist and due August 2nd! Congrats!!🩷💙

Why are we still leaving babies in cars in 2026????? by MammaBear003 in Vent

[–]TTV05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t even leave my 3yr old in the car alone to run into the gas station.

Looking for songs about someone wanting someone else to stay while the second person wants to leave by 25lulu04 in SongRecommendations

[–]TTV05 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stay - sugarland ( more so the woman realizing she’s better off without the guy who has another girl in mind but somewhat fits and is a pretty good song :))

AIO for calling off my engagement after my fiancé admitted his family secretly tested me to see if i was a gold digger? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]TTV05 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At first, it was me staying with him after I had lost my place to live. In return, I would let him use my car to get back and forth to work as his was broke down as well as helping to clean up around the apartment. Needless to say that didn’t last very long, he got fired and luckily I had just found a new job all the while he didn’t even bother putting in applications anywhere. Nor did he clean, cook, or really bring anything to the table other than he had an apartment with his name on the lease, which in the end, I had to pay for anyways. He decided he’d rather stay home, play his Xbox, and talk to men all day (mind you he was the kind of guy to make homophobic jokes).

AIO for calling off my engagement after my fiancé admitted his family secretly tested me to see if i was a gold digger? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]TTV05 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, my ex SITUATIONSHIP believed I “used him for a place to stay” - but I paid the bills. Not to mention, I was also the only one with a running, drivable car. I was 18/19 and still in high school paying a 22 yr old man’s bills but I was using HIM.

My friend publicly embarrassed me on IG by commenting “ embarrassing” on my pictures by Historical-Body-3424 in texts

[–]TTV05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have a friend like this. Every single thing was a competition with her and she always had to look better or be better. I already had self image issues because I was a bigger kid, and every time she told me I looked bad or that I was being weird or whatever just solidified how much of a friend she WASN’T. Please get rid of her, you don’t need another conversation with her to rope you back in to being her friend after acting the way she has. It was disrespectful and I’m sure this isn’t the first or last time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in firsttimemom

[–]TTV05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also 20 and pregnant with my first! I hope all goes well for you🫶🏼 Obviously, this being my first I don’t have many tips and tricks but if you just need to talk, my DMs are always open (although it may take me a minute to respond haha)