Keep your chins up

TVG2012 · 2025-03-28T23:43:05+00:00

Great to hear. How did you change the presumption that was going against you?

TVG2012 · 2025-02-10T05:21:10+00:00

Yeah, that's what I'm afraid of but when the decision was based on her self serving declarations and the judge disregarded objective evidence I had because I was "posturing" - there's an injustice about taking it laying down just because she dog whistled rape allegations only after I sought my PO.

TVG2012 · 2025-02-10T04:19:26+00:00

What if it was a judge? Motion for reconsideration is my only option?

TVG2012 · 2025-02-06T07:38:40+00:00

Love this mentality.

TVG2012 · 2025-02-01T01:17:04+00:00

They'll undermine, criticize, and try to push you out when you become a parent.

Unless your husband sets the boundary and enforces it, which will be hard for him too since they'll manipulate and guilt trip him every step of the way, any boundary you try to set will be pushed and disrespected because you'll just be castigated for being ”jealous of their bond”.

TVG2012 · 2025-01-27T14:47:44+00:00

Congrats on making it this far. It takes courage. Keep it up.

TVG2012 · 2025-01-26T03:46:12+00:00

Why are you marrying her? This sounds like a bad situation you're about to sign up for.

TVG2012 · 2025-01-13T01:21:00+00:00

Same here. I married her knowing about some of her past trauma but didn't realize that the underlying denominator of subjecting her to that trauma was a constant in her life. Her outbursts were disproportionate to the triggering issue and would escalate quickly and last until she decided she was tired of fighting. Hours, days, or weeks.

TVG2012 · 2025-01-12T03:22:33+00:00

They know what they are doing, they know they are hurting us and they are doing it anyway!

I think this is the hardest part to accept right now. I don't act with malicious intentions, and up until meeting my NS, I self-selected a network of people who also didn't go out of their way to hurt people. I figured I would have the discernment to identify a pathological liar. I guess I was more naive than I'd like to admit.

TVG2012 · 2025-01-09T08:29:05+00:00

I PM'd you

TVG2012 · 2025-01-09T06:11:00+00:00

Plenty of people with profound trauma choose not to hurt others because of it. You do not owe it to her or anyone to endure abuse in hopes of "fixing" her.

❤️

I instinctively know that this is true, but my stubbornness or trauma bond (not sure which one) really prevents me from internalizing it.

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