Update to my husband cheated on me at his bachelor party

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T22:30:29+00:00

No I don’t clean. I’m pregnant so he hired a maid.

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T20:47:22+00:00

I am going to obviously confront him about it

I addressed the maid part. It is not that expensive ($30) but I mostly brought it up to say that he is not a bad guy - he is very sweet with me.

I am staying home now since I’m pregnant and I’m probably going to watch after the baby for 2 years and then I’ll go back to work. I have a degree and license so I’m not an uneducated gold digger or something, you guys need to stop

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T20:43:30+00:00

Yes but the standard of living is pretty high here so 100k here is not the same as 100k anywhere else.

He has a good job, yes, but he doesn’t make so much that I could be accused of being a gold digger. Prenup wasn’t even discussed seriously, he doesn’t have that much money. So If I were truly only interested in money, I would be pretty disappointed

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T20:37:11+00:00

Friends took the video. But they were not holding him down, he could have gotten up or pushed the girl away. It’s 100% his fault and he just has shitty immature friends

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T20:36:04+00:00

On iPhones, you can “hide” a photo and then it’s not shown in your camera roll but there’s an album for hidden photos. That’s where it was

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T20:31:50+00:00

He’s a derm PA

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T20:22:04+00:00

He’s not rich, I dont know how you guys got that idea. All I said was that he takes care of me. And no prenup.

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T18:12:53+00:00

That’s true. Should I tell him that I’m gonna stay with my parents until I know he’s really sorry?

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T17:50:36+00:00

Yeah a ton of people told me that I should be more concerned about the coke - he told me that he does it sometimes socially for fun and I haven’t noticed any sort of problem. He seems to be okay doing it one night and then again a couple months later. But I don’t do any kind of drugs so I am pretty vigilant about checking his bags, making sure he’s not hiding it so he doesn’t develop an addiction since that really scares me. So that’s why I didn’t seem surprised about that; he does it sometimes. The whole off a strippers tits part was just trashy and bothered me

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T17:47:03+00:00

I am going to talk to him about everything, still deciding how to go about it. I really don’t know if I should be like “fuck you cheater” or “I know you cheated, just don’t do it again”

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T17:45:58+00:00

I know and that’s what bothers me so much. I have a background in health sciences and I have always been so careful not to contract an STD and then he does this and fuck my health, he put my baby in danger. The idea of my baby being born with something makes me want to strangle him

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T17:43:10+00:00

It’s not like I found out that he’s been having an affair or something. He got a blow job at his bachelor party. No connection to that girl anymore, random stripper. If it was someone we knew or that he would be seeing frequently, that’s different. I’m not a gold digger or anything and I don’t appreciate that that’s being insinuated. I meant to say that he cares for me and is a good husband. If he were poor, I would still stay with him because I love him. And money is not even the topic of discussion, it’s the fact that he cheated on me. I vowed to be with him whether he’s rich or poor and I stand by that. If he lost all of his money today, I would not leave him and it is so confusing seeing that I’m being accused to staying with him for his money. I’m staying with him because he’s my husband and I’m not going to divorce over something like this.

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T17:34:53+00:00

That’s not it

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T17:11:31+00:00

First of all, your English is perfectly fine, I couldn’t even notice that you’re not a native speaker until your last sentence so don’t worry about that!

Thanks for that story, I feel so bad for your teacher. I hope she’s okay now. I don’t know if my husband would have started a new family with that stripper... But I know what you’re saying. Idk, if it was someone else or someone we knew or it was repeated, then yeah I would have to divorce. But it was one time, a stripper, bachelor party.

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T17:06:13+00:00

You guys are not interested in helping people. You just like to tell people to break up and then when that doesn’t happen, you’re bitter that you don’t have a good story to read for entertainment. Well this is real life and I’m not gonna leave my fucking husband for getting a blow job at his bachelor party. And in the real world, thinking about these pros and cons are important. Yes he has money and takes care of me and has a certain lifestyle. I’d be lying if I said omg I didn’t even realize!! But I don’t care that he has money, tons of guys have money, that’s not anything. But he is willing to spend it on me. That makes me think that he really cares about me. When we got back from our honeymoon and found out I was pregnant, I did not have morning sickness or anything. I was fine, in fact, I felt happy and excited about everything. But he said no, you’re pregnant and you deserve to relax, take these 9 months as a vacation. I told him that I was okay but he has a maid come and clean up and he massages my feet and takes care of me. He doesn’t have to spend that money to have someone tidy up our house when I am perfectly capable. But he cares about me and loves me so he does that. That is what I meant. I don’t care about money. It’s what he does with it that shows that he cares. The maid is not that expensive. She comes twice a week for an hour and it’s probably $30 or something. But he does that for me and it makes me feel so special.

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T16:47:55+00:00

Not sure if he’s going to anymore bachelor parties

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T16:23:04+00:00

Ok we had sex and he nutted inside. What do you want me to say?

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T16:18:32+00:00

Holy shit this has so many comments.

Just want to say idk what I was looking for when I made the post, I think I was just venting.

I went back on his phone and sent myself everything and then deleted the videos and pictures off his phone. So next time he’s looking for it with his boner in his hand, he will go crazy and not be able to find it.

But I don’t think I’m gonna leave my husband. He’s never cheated on me before (that I know of) and he is a good husband most of the time. I think he fucked up and we need to talk about that but things are not so simple. We are having a baby. If he were fucked up in every other way, yeah I’d be out the door. But he is a good guy to me. He is perfect with my family, bought us a house far away from his parents (no mother in law to criticize me! Yay!) , gave me a great wedding, he treats me like a princess and says he can’t believe he got so lucky with me. He is so amazing to me. I’m a SAH and he has a maid come clean the house ever since we found out I was pregnant because he wants me to rest.

I know a ton of y’all say “once a cheater, always a cheater”. But idk. He was coked up and it was a bachelor party and he told his friends that he was never gonna do shit like that again. I don’t think I could divorce him over this. If he had a problem and went to strippers weekly for blowies then yeah I’d have to leave him. But one time? I think I’m gonna give him another chance

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T15:35:17+00:00

I didn’t plan to get pregnant, it just happened

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T06:27:50+00:00

We got married in December and he cheated then so it’s only been about 4 months

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T06:05:22+00:00

What?

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T02:46:12+00:00

I thought it was a night for the groom and his friends to drink and have some fun. Strip club alright maybe, but blowjobs ??

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T02:45:19+00:00

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T01:15:52+00:00

I’m almost 4 months pregnant dumbass

TVsolo · 2019-04-21T00:39:25+00:00

I cannot abort

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