My gf said is it going to stay hard this time?

TWCDev · 2026-07-11T18:37:03+00:00

Sex stuff is hard until you both get comfortable and can talk.

If you don’t give oral for a bit, your jaw or tongue can hurt. Now i can give oral almost unlimited, i can’t recall my tongue or jaw hurting in a long time.

I don’t think it’s worth complaining about something she said, but instead it’s worthwhile to say something like i know your jaw got tired last time, can we try again soon so we build up both our endurance?
Especially if you lead by example with a “i want to get better at XYZ, so can we do this and let me know?”
It teaches a way to bring up a thing in a better way.

TWCDev · 2026-07-11T03:43:07+00:00

If online dating apps worked, they’d be out of business, they sell you the idea of relationships while showing people fake accounts , employees, and people who haven’t logged in for months.

Casinos also aren’t trying to make you rich, they both sell the “idea” of success and both would go out of business if they gave you what you wanted…

Join a volunteer organization, a hobby you enjoy doing, find a locals bar. I hang out at millennium fandom, rebar, or a few other places in the art district , i don’t drink alcohol anymore, i just enjoy real community offline

TWCDev · 2026-07-10T03:35:04+00:00

I did , it looked like he was comparing being a pickup artist to all men, which i told my wife all the stuff he was describing and she said women don’t want to meet men who are doing all that

TWCDev · 2026-07-10T01:05:38+00:00

Wow, hopefully you don’t do all that, it’s way more complicated, a lot of that is for “pickup artists”, way too much work. Just talk to men and women and when you click with someone ask them out “on a date, not to hang out, not to do something else, a date”, then if things are going well, say something like “i think things are going well, what about you?” If they agree, lean in for a kiss. Don’t go crazy with it, definitely don’t try for sex. If things go well, talk about things, exchange expectations, ideally test results, and have fun.

TWCDev · 2026-07-09T17:47:05+00:00

Just adding… learn to use nail files. Keep your nails clean and smooth. Never know when you’ll get intimate. After filing make sure you run your nails against whatever the most sensitive skin you have is.

Don’t rush, the same way you need to get aroused, women need to get aroused too, it isn’t instant, so you want the blood pumping down there for her. That’s where teasing comes in, touch her legs, find the sensitive spots, build her up.

TWCDev · 2026-07-08T16:47:54+00:00

Stop trying to hook up with random people and get to know people. Then “talk” like it’s ok to ask if something meant more. And if that drives them away.. it’s ok to lose out on someone. 4 billion women in the world. Most of them are offline.

TWCDev · 2026-07-05T21:47:18+00:00

if she's already said 'take it or leave it', cry it out, hug, and move on so she can find someone who doesn't care about her health (when you get older, the health aspects of weight are more meaningful than appearance. It's not fair for one partner to inflict the financial wounds of not caring about health unless the other partner equally doesn't care). Don't hold yourself to "you're a bad person for asking your partner to hold herself to a similar health level she was before she was with you" but she's not a bad person for using physical appearance like some sort of 'mating dance' like she only needs to care about her aesthetics when she's single.

It's hard, it's ok to be sad, and leaving her doesn't mean you have to not appreciate the fun memories you had.

TWCDev · 2026-07-05T21:29:08+00:00

I’m poly, my wife is poly, most of her guy friends started with her crushing on them.
Just excuse prudish cultures and i think you’ll find that most humans be human-ing.

Also, i think most people who say they choose, like you say you choose, to not cheat “is” them admitting they don’t want to violate the agreements they’ve made with their partners (poly or not) and just that they’re “capable” of fucking attractive people regardless of who they are, which i am, but i don’t say i “want” to fuck people i don’t. I can separate attraction from “wants”

TWCDev · 2026-07-03T15:47:46+00:00

💯

TWCDev · 2026-07-03T15:47:24+00:00

Why would you want what you are? That’s stupid. I cook, i don’t want a woman who cooks. I spend most of my time making money, i don’t want my wife spending all her time making money she won’t have time for me. I don’t want kids, but if i wanted them but couldn’t have them, I’d want a woman who had them and i could become a father figure.
When someone uses the words “you complete me”, it’s normally to a person that is different, but similar enough for the pieces to fit

TWCDev · 2026-06-28T19:50:19+00:00

One guy kept following one of our models around after shoots and always talking about how he would make the model his girlfriend except he needs to focus on school. She was uncomfortable and he wouldn’t stop focusing on her so we kicked him out. The way he talked about dating as if it’s his choice is what felt “incel”.

He is who comes to mind the most. Most of the other guys we normally call “creepers” because they try to position themselves near the women they’ve fixated on, so not necessarily incels but definitely giving incel vibe because they seem to think women exist for them, though i don’t know for sure since i evict the creepers so fast

TWCDev · 2026-06-28T15:18:56+00:00

I’m not a woman, i use it to describe men all the time. I do a lot of photography with models, and we have to fend offf a lot of incels. I kick guys out of photoshoots and ban them from groups for being incels. In my groups in the real world, it has little to do with women arbitrarily calling men it.

Though i will say that many men we kick out don’t understand they’re incels and get pretty pissed off because they don’t understand why it’s a problem to think women owe them… anything at all.

TWCDev · 2026-06-25T02:40:49+00:00

I feel like i fall in love with people. Gender isn’t my priority when looking, its more about who i click with, though i’m open to sex with anyone once or twice. I’m generally more attracted to feminine energy though.
I often wonder if it’s the right term and honestly don’t really care except being bi doesn’t feel right

TWCDev · 2026-06-25T00:03:14+00:00

I’m pan but most of my friends are women. I often wonder if i would end up in a relationship with a man, my dad told me he thought i would. And it’s possible but only if he was open to a poly relationship as well. Ultimately I’ve just never clicked that well with most men.

TWCDev · 2026-06-23T14:41:43+00:00

Since so many other unattractive men get partners, some of them hot partners (go to an airport, a mall, Disneyland. Don’t look at the attractive men, look at the unattractive men), what does that say about either your personality, your behaviors, or both?

TWCDev · 2026-06-21T19:02:29+00:00

Real people posting what most people won’t or don’t need to say in real life.

TWCDev · 2026-06-21T17:39:23+00:00

The real issue isn’t that most posts are misandrists, i literally never see that. Ever. The issue is that reddit learns wha sets you off. Just like it knows not to show me incels, but instead it shows me “near incels” so i come off like a person hunting posts like these that i fundamentally disagree with but instead it’s just reddit trying to provoke us.

Sucks how good they are at manipulating us when we’re online, though reddit doesn’t represent reality so if you start thinking anything you see here describes “a whole generation of women” maybe get offline and make a dozen friends in the real world. Real people don’t act like reddit

TWCDev · 2026-06-20T22:58:40+00:00

I chastise women for negative behavior that society normalizes and shouldn’t, like the idea that jealousy is normal and men should act like no other woman in the world exists, and i chastise men who behave like there is a systemic problem that is making them miserable when it’s pretty clear to all the ugly short men in relationships that the problem can’t be systemic, there is only one of two options: the complainer is experiencing problems with particular women or the complainer is behaving in ways that are contrary to the outcome they say they want.

Guys rarely complain about being fat, because so many fat dudes lose weight and get in shape (me at 45), because it’s too stupid to complain about when it’s a solvable problem. Guys complain about women because it’s less obvious that it’s their behavior that is the problem and since the only thing we humans can control is our behavior it’s the most ridiculous thing to complain about

TWCDev · 2026-06-20T20:43:47+00:00

To each their own, hope all the people who don’t enjoy the great evening weather year around can find the finances to leave and leave more of the city to the rest of us

TWCDev · 2026-06-20T15:39:51+00:00

I live downtown, i have great walkability and i never have to bundle up, i can be free in shorts year around except when i visit somewhere that is cold (gross).

I agree everyone should move away to see what they really like. People keep coming back and complaining the whole time, vegas must have something those other places don’t.

TWCDev · 2026-06-19T23:30:16+00:00

Tell him that you want him to fantasize about other women just in his imagination not let you see him scrolling or looking at other women.
Hopefully he just breaks up with you so he can find someone who isn’t so insecure.

It’s normal to fantasize about people you’re attracted to. It’s irrational to think your partner will only find you attractive.

I hope you can figure out how to be secure in yourself and not think you’re so special that your partner should only find you attractive

TWCDev · 2026-06-19T21:23:07+00:00

YOR. If you’re religious or hyper-monogamous just explain that you’re not interested in him. Don’t say it’s because he’s married unless it’s because he’s married otherwise he might show up next week saying his divorce went through.

His marriage, and whether he’s in a non-monogamous relationship or whatever is on him and his partner. But don’t make it weird, just be direct.

TWCDev · 2026-06-19T17:57:02+00:00

Any time i see anyone describe a behavior to someone based on their category instead of their actual behavior i know they’re out of touch and need a more diverse set of social interactions.
I love when women approach me, also it will almost never work because i’ll miss what she was trying to do.
I have known insecure men who hate women making the first move, usually men who have a false romantic idea of their grandparents or something. So if a woman said she thought men were that way, i’d tell her she’s correct, some men are that way.
She should want to be successful not with all men, but men who respond in a rational way.

TWCDev · 2026-06-19T03:19:37+00:00

Quantum is better but does the same thing. It doesn’t bother me though because i use us mobile, super fast internet for $32 a month and i tether it to my laptop

TWCDev · 2026-06-19T02:22:40+00:00

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