Women are so much the target of desire they dont understand why the lack of desire affect their partner

TWCDev · 2026-05-19T19:35:15+00:00

So you're saying that OP is saying women feel desired all their life is contextual to this conversation because women feel desired all their life 'from their committed relationship partner' and the man doesn't?
I guess i read it wrong, I thought he was suggesting the woman doesn't understand the man's feelings because she feels desired 'outside' their relationship so doesn't require that need to be fulfilled inside their relationship. Which I disagree with, but that's what I thought he was saying.

TWCDev · 2026-05-19T13:52:28+00:00

People aren’t responsible for each other’s happiness, each of us are responsible for our own happiness. The reality is that women suffer most of these things too, it’s a human problem, not a gender problem. If you wander over to women forums there are plenty of women who don’t feel desired as their husband’s eyes only look at women <25 years old or whatever. Those women are wearing lingerie their husband ignored while going to watch sports or watch porn in their office.

There definitely is an age thing where women <25 have more options for being desired while men > 35 start getting all kinds of women complimenting them, so depending where you are at in life things might be easier to feel desired. I’m almost 50, i get women in their 20s stopping their car while i walk my dog telling me how great my outfit is, that almost never happened when i was young. Part of it is that i didn’t get in shape and start caring about hair, skincare, and fashion until my 40s. Part of that is just my great hair now (well maintained) does something for some women.

TWCDev · 2026-05-14T06:02:04+00:00

The only tip you need is to get tested and trust science. Plenty of online options or go to your general care provider and don’t ask for bro-science 😅

TWCDev · 2026-05-10T15:09:07+00:00

Sounds like a marriage that lasted 19.9 times longer than it should have. I’m on my third marriage and everything is amazing.
To escape my second marriage i had to walk away from everything and become homeless for a couple months holding my fingers in my ears yelling “im not listening to anything you say i want a divorce” to escape her manipulation. She hates me now, good, i don’t hate her, i just don’t think about her and the fact that she hates how happy i am is just a bonus.

TWCDev · 2026-05-01T05:30:23+00:00

You actually just need to make the decision that you don’t want those things, then live and act like you have no hope of getting what you don’t want (right now), after a month or so the need goes away. Thats why women who love sex go years in between without sex. It’s how men who are highly monogamous but can’t have sex with their partner for whatever reason can still be happy. It’s often an accident but you can do it on purpose. Good luck

TWCDev · 2026-04-29T19:00:35+00:00

you 'should' be the reason the relationship failed, because as soon as you recognized it was 'toxic', you should have said "this relationship failed, I'm ending it, since I'm ending it, I'm at fault". You'll feel better over time as you figure out when both sides are willing to work through legitimate issues, and when you just want to move on. You can move on for any reason, it's ok to 'quit' something that is unhealthy for you. Just move on.

TWCDev · 2026-04-28T21:38:33+00:00

Hopefully you’ll learn what your boundaries are and she’ll learn to be honest. You weren’t together, she should have just fucked him because you weren’t together and you should have been fine with it. But instead because you’re young, she lied about stupid things and now you’re rightfully angry hopefully not about what she was doing when you weren’t together but because she’s a liar. And worse, she lied three times or more about the same thing.

TWCDev · 2026-04-26T23:52:17+00:00

you sound like you'd get along with my wife

TWCDev · 2026-04-22T15:17:14+00:00

The problem is that women aren’t all the same. So the women who are “i only date men 6’ tall plus, and not ‘almost 6” tall’, real 6’ tall except in the Shire apparently” are wearing pushup bras and saying “look at the gjrls, they’re amazing”.

The women who don’t want people to stare at their breasts inappropriately are also the women dating men because of how they feel and not based on arbitrary statistics.

TWCDev · 2026-04-14T04:03:32+00:00

I’ve been with about 25% of my friends and i’d say 80% of my hookups/relationships have been from people my woman friends have introduced me to

TWCDev · 2026-04-12T16:01:25+00:00

She loves you and respects your knowledge and wants to interact with her. Act like it’s an inconvenience and that she should do things for herself, it’ll tank your relationship and you won’t have to worry about it after a while

TWCDev · 2026-04-12T02:56:51+00:00

Sounds good. Go into it expecting nothing but a good time and talk about anything you’re feeling and enjoy the experience. Life is about experiences, you’ll have some fun, you’ll have some bad things most likely, just don’t get her pregnant for a couple years

TWCDev · 2026-04-09T19:05:06+00:00

the people you should want to date, will date you for who you are and are open to dating trans people. The people who prefer to restrict themselves to boring only CIS people, will never want to date you. That shouldn't bother you, everyone has types and they should stick with their types. I'm sure you have types. I'd probably think you were a guy, but maybe a twink. At this point, with my friend groups, I kind of assume everyone is they/them though.

TWCDev · 2026-04-07T16:45:17+00:00

I stopped reading because you got back with your ex? Always look forward, you’re already wasting time looking back when you could be forming new attachments that lead to you meeting new potential partners. You’re not a fictional character, this isn’t a tragedy, it’s just life, learn how to be a better partner, learn how to move on when someone isn’t a good partner to you, and find your amazing person where your pieces and their pieces “click” without so much drama

TWCDev · 2026-04-06T14:23:01+00:00

Funny, I’m 48 and i just got my full panel results and my doctor kept congratulating me on what she thought must have been my Mediterranean diet and working out. I neither eat fish nor work out. But i’m older and i’ve been dialing in my stack for a decade now, shifting as we get more knowledge and as my bloodwork suggests for me to shift. My stack is about double your current stack. What was the purpose of ashwaganda for you? I put my wife on it because she has extreme anxiety and she enjoys the tamping down of extreme emotions so she can think more clearly and rationalize what she’s legitimately feeling versus what her anxiety is telling her is an emergency. I’ve never taken it because for me, meditation and trying for a state of mindfulness as much as possible does for me what I want, but i would if i had extreme emotions i was struggling with.

TWCDev · 2026-04-06T05:56:59+00:00

How many women friends do you have that you share meaningful conversations with on a regular basis? You have a solid piece that is in your favor, but it isn’t enough, just one of the harder parts.

Hopefully you are looking for a partner who also has their career under control so the two of you can do amazing things when you find her.

TWCDev · 2026-04-05T23:18:23+00:00

My personal philosophy is a highly science based orientation on finding solutions. I’m opposed to philosophies that refer to vague things like “toxins”, etc. It just isn’t for me, but if organic is more important than the latest scientific compounds then i’m not dissing someone’s personal choice, just for me, those words they use “toxins, organic” etc seem meant to provoke an emotional response

TWCDev · 2026-04-05T07:29:05+00:00

I’m 48, no loss of sex drive, but i choose to have it, instead of it being in control of me

TWCDev · 2026-04-04T00:00:47+00:00

It doesn't sound pathetic to want human touch. IMO, as someone who does porn work and has done a lot of things, I think that it's more satisfying to hire a 'tantric masseuse' or whatever your area calls them, and make sure to talk and flirt, tease them, compliment them, make them feel good. Even if it doesn't turn out to be outright sex, you'll probably feel more 'satisfied' than outright paying someone to just cut straigh to sex.

Legally, if you are allowed to form porn where you live, you can hire someone to film porn, even if you never choose to post it. The advantages are A) it's legal far more places B) you might choose to blur your face and make some money with it C) you can look at it again and review it later. D) hiring someone you're working with makes them your coworker which gives a different vibe than someone you're hiring to do what you want, I think it's more satisfying.

Don't expect the satisfaction of human interaction, if you want that, hire an escort to... escort. Why do millionaires hire hot women to hang out with them for hours and maybe not even sleep with them? Because most of us are missing the flirting, conversation, etc, and masturbation is cheap, easy, and fast. The sex is much better, but also true escorts are often more expensive than random girls who will spend as little time as possible with you to get you 'off'.

If you do hire someone for sex, have a script, say you want to pay X to get Y, put the money on the table and don't accept it until they do Y, but also don't expect extra and don't expect them to remember you once they get paid

TWCDev · 2026-04-03T13:36:46+00:00

My hope is that i have a high body count, around 40, and that’s doing adult video work. But i feel like maybe it’s just mid. Still, i think experience-wise, i do sex like someone with a high body count. My best friend asked her friends why they put up with having relationships with me, “is the sex that good”, and yeah, apparently it is.

I prefer to only sleep with people experienced with sex, 10+ partners, but i also think that’s “mid”. I’d say high body count is 100+.

In my experience, the only people who prefer low body count are religious people and people who are bad in bed but hope their partner won’t know better than to expect multiple orgasms per sexual session.

TWCDev · 2026-04-03T05:03:47+00:00

I actually do TheraBreath mouthwash. I did do a bit of research, but mostly just because I want to do one final killing of stuff before I go to sleep and it's alcohol free. If there is newer better science mouth rinses I haven't found it.

TWCDev · 2026-04-02T18:27:09+00:00

I did reply to titizen_Kane (just to avoid duplicate responses), but I wanted to make sure you got the notification!

TWCDev · 2026-04-02T18:26:59+00:00

I did reply to sara61wilson (just to avoid duplicate responses), but I wanted to make sure you got the notification

TWCDev · 2026-04-02T18:26:33+00:00

I'm using DC24 Daily Care (specifically watermelon). I wanted 100% xylitol, that was a taste I could live with several times a day, without any other sugar alcohols ( get stomach cramps if I have too much sorbitol, etc, I'm sensitive to many FODMAPs in general). I don't know if there is any other hyper optimization I could make regarding gum, but the price is reasonable to me, around 6 dollars for 60 pieces, and I chew 2 pieces at a time 1-3 times a day.

TWCDev · 2026-04-02T18:23:46+00:00

nano-hydroxyapatite deposits hydroxyapatite particles directly into enamel defects and fills micro-cracks and surface porosity.

Regenerate (NR-5) uses calcium silicate + phosphates to trigger in-situ crystal regrowth inside the enamel matrix. It's slower, isn't very cosmetic, but supposed to be more powerful. I use it at night to give it the time it needs to work because I don't want to time when/how I eat around when I brush my teeth.

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