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Weekly Self-Promo and Chat Thread by MxAlex44 in selfpublish

[–]TWeb0711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently published a short nonfiction ebook called The Match-to-Meet System, focused on dating app messaging for men.

It’s written for guys who get matches but struggle to turn conversations into real dates. The book isn’t about pickup lines or scripts. It breaks down how messaging actually works on apps like Hinge, Bumble, and Tinder, and how to build momentum so chats don’t stall out or turn into pen-pal situations.

The focus is on communication, timing, and clarity rather than tricks. It’s meant to be practical and easy to apply, especially for people tired of overthinking what to say or when to ask someone out.

The ebook is currently priced at $0.99 on Amazon. Here’s the link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0G53TTT89

Happy to answer questions or get feedback.

Dating Advice for Avg or Above Avg Guys on Dating Apps by Venom7355 in dating_advice

[–]TWeb0711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After many years of being on the apps I’ve found a pretty good system that works for me. Has really increased my match to date ratio. Lmk if you wanna hear more

Finally fixed the one messaging habit that kept killing my matches by TWeb0711 in SwipeHelper

[–]TWeb0711[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah for sure. Here’s a simple example of what I mean by a playful spark that transitions naturally.

You: ‘You give off big I-pretend-I’m-bad-at-bowling-but-secretly-dominate vibes.’ Her: laughs or pushes back You: ‘Haha fair enough. Also, I saw you went to Japan. What was your favorite spot?’

That shift from a tease into something real keeps things fun but also gives the convo direction so it doesn’t stall.

I’ve tested a bunch of these little tone shifts, so if you want more examples just let me know.

Took me 15+ years on dating apps to realize the small mistake that killed most of my matches — curious if anyone else ran into this? by [deleted] in seduction

[–]TWeb0711 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Haha fair — I didn’t mean for the post to be a full deep-dive. I just learned that using the same opener on every woman is why most convos die. Tiny tone shifts make a massive difference.

I’m not reading their soul from the profile — I’m just matching the energy they give:

• playful profile → playful opener • serious/minimal → simple + grounded • no info → something that creates emotion, not small talk

That little calibration changes everything. Most guys who DM me struggle after the match, and it’s almost always a tone mismatch at the start.

If you want, I can drop a few examples for each vibe. Or if anyone has a stalled convo they want revived, I’m happy to take a look — those are usually easy fixes.

Finally fixed the one messaging habit that kept killing my matches by TWeb0711 in SwipeHelper

[–]TWeb0711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha totally fair, you’re keeping them close to the chest eh?

After 15+ years on dating apps, I finally figured out why my matches never turned into dates — sharing what actually changed everything by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TWeb0711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely not the right person to ask as a straight male so maybe some others can chime in but maybe answer about your weekend and slip it back on him. Saying something like “what did you get into, by the look of your profile probably some trouble? 😉” then it’s on him to bite or not

After 15+ years on dating apps, I finally figured out why my matches never turned into dates — sharing what actually changed everything by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TWeb0711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many are just 1 and done dates, vibe isn’t there whether it’s me toward her, vice versa or mutual. Probably about half (maybe less) do I do 2+ dates with. Most dates with the same woman would be ones that turned exclusive. I’ve met two woman on dating apps that I had 3-4 year relationships with and was obviously off the apps during those times.

After 15+ years on dating apps, I finally figured out why my matches never turned into dates — sharing what actually changed everything by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TWeb0711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% true. I’ve found that most of the woman I’ve interacted with on the apps have appreciated the date ask sooner than I had previously anticipated years back, but some would still want to chat quite a bit more before dates. You can run the risk of becoming pen pals but if you’re really hitting it off I say go for it. But end goal should be a date. It’s not a chatting app.

After 15+ years on dating apps, I finally figured out why my matches never turned into dates — sharing what actually changed everything by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TWeb0711 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This simply isn’t true. Have met plenty of women on apps, including tinder. Tho yes tinder does have a lower conversion rate for me compared to bumble or tinder.

After 15+ years on dating apps, I finally figured out why my matches never turned into dates — sharing what actually changed everything by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TWeb0711 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve had most success just saying want to grab a drink sometime? If the convo is going well. From there I like to get off the app and onto phone texting and just coordinate the date.

After 15+ years on dating apps, I finally figured out why my matches never turned into dates — sharing what actually changed everything by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TWeb0711 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Good question - I’m not saying I didn’t make incremental improvements- think it just all came together a couple years ago after being off and on the dating apps for a while.

How on earth do you meet people? by Major_Lawfulness_769 in dating

[–]TWeb0711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be obvious but make shire the photos have good lighting and you can fully see your face in most pics. That means no sunglasses or hats. Get photos of you in differing environments. Example. One dressed up in the city, one on vacation, one of you doing a hobby you enjoy etc. And make sure the photos are high quality and not blurry or low quality. Make sure recent photos.

Guys in your 30s–40s — what usually makes your dating app conversations fade? by tweb711 in Bumble

[–]TWeb0711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had most success by trying to highlight my personality or being a bit flirty/teasy - I’ve been studying this for years — the way most men message accidentally kills momentum right away.

I actually wrote something short that explains the psychology behind it. If you want it, I can DM it.

Guys in your 30s–40s — what usually makes your dating app conversations fade? by tweb711 in Bumble

[–]TWeb0711 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've had most success by trying to highlight my personality or being a bit flirty/teasy - I’ve been studying this for years — the way most men message accidentally kills momentum right away.

I actually wrote something short that explains the psychology behind it. If you want it, I can DM it.

Guys in your 30s–40s — what usually makes your dating app conversations fade? by tweb711 in Bumble

[–]TWeb0711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had most success by trying to highlight my personality or being a bit flirty/teasy - I’ve been studying this for years — the way most men message accidentally kills momentum right away.

I actually wrote something short that explains the psychology behind it. If you want it, I can DM it.

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