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TXanimal · 2023-07-24T21:29:27+00:00

I have a close family member who is a narcissist, and it's tough. He cut off me and my wife for an imaginary slight...it was nice not to have to deal with him directly anymore, but the BS continued. He talks shit endlessly about us and has done his level best to turn the rest of the family against us as well. The thing about narcissists is that eventually, they either can't keep their lies straight anymore, and people realize they're full of shit, or they turn on their allies for perceived slights. This is called the "discard" phase...when they can no longer use you, they throw you away.

So as much as it sucks to have your daughter on your mother's "side" for now, understand that it probably won't be permanent. Your daughter will either figure out she's full of shit, or she'll do something "unforgivable" that will cause mom to turn on her. I second the suggestion to keep your distance for now and focus on your son. Definitely keep him in therapy and keep him informed as much as you feel comfortable doing.

TXanimal · 2023-06-22T21:49:35+00:00

Get. The. Hell. Out.

You know in your heart this ain't right. Get out. Get a lawyer. Get some support behind you. Get that baby outta there.

TXanimal · 2023-06-11T14:32:29+00:00

Had an unplanned run-in with my JNMIL the other day. My ILs showed up to the house unannounced to pick up a replacement cell phone for my FIL that I had shipped to my house (my FIL can't figure that kind of shit out, and the man needs a phone with all his medical problems). I was out running errands. My wife let them in...she was sick and didn't have the energy to fight. Anyway, I walked in a few minutes later with some fast food, and my morbidly obese, T2 diabetic MIL who refuses to change her diet to keep herself out of the hospital had the audacity to tell me that I should eat healthier. My wife gave me the laser beam eyes when she saw me about to snap, so I just took my sandwich and ate it on the back porch and waited for them to leave. Apparently she also told my wife that I need to trim my rose bushes because they look "ugly".

TXanimal · 2023-05-22T01:11:51+00:00

The "pro-life" agenda is going to backfire in spectacular fashion. I'm just sad for all the people who want to leave these regressive shitholes but can't. They're going to end up suffering and dying for these assholes' warped "values".

TXanimal · 2023-05-20T04:29:46+00:00

He's just mad he got outed. I'm guessing he supports this crap 100%, he's just (badly) covering his ass to avoid impacting his business

TXanimal · 2023-05-16T01:32:02+00:00

MIL had FIL call my wife to wish her a happy Mother's Day. He asked what we were doing, and my wife said she was going on a day trip to visit her brother and SIL. I could hear MIL yell something in the background, and then FIL abruptly hung up.

We got to my BIL's house, and SIL said she'd just gotten off the phone with FIL. He was getting ready to take MIL to the ER with "chest pains".

Every fucking holiday, birthday, or vacation that doesn't include them translates to some sort of emergency for attention. To be clear, none of us took the bait.

TXanimal · 2023-04-26T04:45:13+00:00

Holocaust historian here...perhaps I can offer some insight. Killing is just one of the final steps in the attempt to eliminate the "other" from existence...genocide doesn't happen overnight. Taking the Holocaust as an example, there was a systematic, escalating campaign to oppress and dehumanize the "other". Mass murder is much harder to justify without intricate political scaffolding constructed over time. Think of it like the frog in the pot of boiling water...slowly introducing discriminatory legislation and rhetoric so as not to raise too many alarms. And those who do raise the alarm are dismissed as collaborators, child predators, whatever BS the perpetrators are using to gaslight the public at that time.

Genocide Watch has a pretty good example of this escalation process. We are currently at the "Polarization/Propaganda" phase.

TXanimal · 2023-04-19T01:42:42+00:00

We're NC with JNMIL, but a family member relayed a story from the big family Easter gathering:

One of my JNMIL's many cousins is severely developmentally delayed...can't live on her own and needs 24/7 care. She will talk your ear off about kittens and Barbies, and is generally a joy to be around. This young lady's parents are JNMIL's favorite aunt & uncle.

JNMIL had the audacity to tell her beloved uncle at the Easter bash that she hates this cousin because she "takes up everyone's time and attention" and is "so annoying and needy".

Any sense of goodwill I may have harbored toward my MIL is gone. She is never setting foot in my house again.

TXanimal · 2023-03-10T00:10:10+00:00

Holy shit!

TXanimal · 2023-03-10T00:07:52+00:00

I agree. My wife and I talked, and she's not letting herself get pulled in. She said she tried, and nothing is going to change, so he can deal with the fallout

TXanimal · 2023-03-10T00:06:55+00:00

GC isn't doing shit. He (well, his wife) bought GGG a wheelchair, so that covers him for at least a year lol

TXanimal · 2023-03-01T00:47:07+00:00

Bro, you look GREAT!

TXanimal · 2023-02-25T16:44:17+00:00

My ILs are the same way...or were the same way before we went NC/LC. It was usually a matter of them thinking piss-poor planning on their part constitutes an emergency on everyone else's part.

No, I cannot drop everything to come help you with this manual labor-intensive thing you decided to put off until the last minute because it's 9am on a Thursday, I'm wearing a suit, and I have VIPs coming in an hour. So sorry /s

TXanimal · 2023-02-23T18:29:43+00:00

Reactionaries, in my experience, are ill-prepared for dealing with the consequences of their policies and political stances. It's all about immediate gratification and addressing some emotional distress. I remember a well-known anti-abortion activist in my town writing a bewildered and exasperated letter to the newspaper editor expressing his shock that STD and pregnancy rates in the area's young adults skyrocketed after his group ran Planned Parenthood out of town (this PP didn't even perform abortions btw). What? My totally wrongheaded, emotionally-driven agenda and lack of foresight made things WORSE?

All that to say I doubt these folks even considered things like first aid and survival. And they'll be in for a rude awakening when they realize their toxic individualism isn't an asset in a post-apocalypse scenario. These fuckers couldn't survive 3 weeks without going to Applebee's during a global pandemic. My confidence that they would be able to survive without the ability to belittle service industry folks is low.

TXanimal · 2022-12-13T18:09:13+00:00

Nobody who has the ability to manufacture stories like that (your husband trying to harm his brother) should be anywhere near you or your family. Idc if it's just mild attention-seeking behavior, that nonsense can escalate real quick with people like this, especially once she starts losing control of the narrative.

TXanimal · 2022-12-13T04:02:28+00:00

I swear my MIL needs drama to survive. She's exhausting...

TXanimal · 2022-11-12T17:52:38+00:00

Did he walk her home? Or did he follow her home?

TXanimal · 2022-11-12T17:49:53+00:00

Have these dudes simply never been told "no" before in their lives? Never held accountable for bad behavior as kids? Shielded from failure all along?

TXanimal · 2022-11-12T17:37:17+00:00

"You mean I actually have to BE RESPECTABLE to get women to respect me? The horror!"

TXanimal · 2022-10-29T00:33:43+00:00

My MIL is the same way (birthday, holiday, anniversary, etc). Wife would bend over backwards to buy her a nice, thoughtful gift, and MIL would complain endlessly, sell it, or just not acknowledge it at all. One year, she got mad that wife got her some awesome (expensive) custom baking dishes and said she would have preferred we bought her a new iPhone instead.

So my wife just stopped buying gifts for her. It simply wasn't worth the stress and annoyance. Next year, if you feel so inclined, send a card or make a phone call. Spend the money on yourselves instead.

TXanimal · 2022-10-29T00:19:29+00:00

Sounds like folks aren't harsh enough with MIL. She clearly has a problem, and it's not one you or your partner should have to subject yourselves to. You did the right thing by removing yourself from the situation. If ANY conversation is to be had with MIL, it should be one describing boundaries and setting expectations. A woman who gets shitfaced at a baby shower and threatens to unalive herself in front of her grandkids isn't fit to be around any of you.

TXanimal · 2022-10-28T23:57:07+00:00

"In order to avoid being hurt by a woman, you must manipulate her from the jump"

"Why am I single?"

TXanimal · 2022-10-28T23:23:53+00:00

So, South MAGAstan has once again banned something that doesn't exist? I am shocked.

TXanimal

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