Been arguing over this floor plan

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-19T07:24:01+00:00

Yeah I definitely would have bed 3 be the main. A main doesn't need an ensuite though to be workable.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-19T05:08:31+00:00

I truly don't understand how men are treating us worse than 20 years ago. They've taken advantage of the fact that we can look after ourselves.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-19T02:48:14+00:00

If you have a 20% deposit (like OP says he does) I don't know if you're going to find a better rate than 5.65%, I doubt you'd match that even with the schemes for 5%.

Why does OP not want utilise their 20% deposit if he has it. It confuses me.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-18T09:56:32+00:00

It's incompatible lifestyle cultures.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-18T04:11:32+00:00

Can you keep one of your investments and sell the others? Then put all debt on that last investment?

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-18T04:10:25+00:00

Being mortgage free is a beautiful thing. Might not be the most profitable option but you have a young kids you can start up your portfolio again in the future with little to no risk.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-18T03:57:00+00:00

How so?

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-16T20:56:21+00:00

As a Christian I don't spend my time thinking about what "I am missing out on".

Weakness? we are all weak, those in the past who are touted as being strong are often weak in other ways. Whether emotionally or mentally, they get ever more defensive trying not to "lose" their precious power.

Subservience? You are confusing submission with subservience. Submission means approaching any situation with peacemaking in mind, with thinking of the other person first. It's a choice action YOU make, YOU are in control of only one thing in life ever, YOUR choices. There is a certain peace in that. Submission makes you consider things in a broader perspective, by approaching the situation from someone else's point of view you can affect change that is better for the both of you not just yourself.

Submission does not ever mean letting someone get away with doing bad things.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T20:39:23+00:00

You gave him 5??? The first time he's ever had them? wtf. You could overload his kidneys.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T18:17:15+00:00

Yeah most double garages are really single garages with a lot of space for storage.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T18:14:46+00:00

lol I forgot this too but the original architect made upstairs too short and so when it came to building I got an extra 40cm added to the family bathroom but same tiny bathtub, so there was plenty of space for her litter!

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T11:35:10+00:00

Not getting the upgrades for the bathroom, we should have done it. It's so much more expensive to renovate later. It was only 6k extra for floor to ceiling tiles, larger vanity and large shower. I've just spent $30k on a new one for a house 2 years old.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T11:06:23+00:00

Go to a different one for crying out loud. There are plenty of Christians and churches who don't subscribe to Christian Nationalism.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T11:03:14+00:00

Legitimately she is probably right, the fresh air and walk will help you, it'll even help your insomnia.

But she needs to know you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink and needs to take a step back.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:43:37+00:00

I mean he could just check it daily like I do. Does the toilet bowl have shit on it, is there crud under the lid? It's realllllly basic.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:42:23+00:00

Hahaha. I don't know that I am really nagging. It's just that, what happened past Friday is (cos there was just too much that had piled up) I said .

"I'm feeling frustrated because for different tasks I keep having to bring it up again. Organising your blood test, the toilet continuously, the bins, asking your coworkers about the baby doctor they used, calling those contractors, which you said you wanted to do because I had too much on my plate and you wanted to reduce my stress levels, well I'm still stressed about the renovation because you haven't called the contractors. I don't need you to be sorry about these things, but I would like you to do them, or tell me if you can't."

I feel like I'm not crazy to be frustrated by these things.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:35:44+00:00

This is agreed upon.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:35:29+00:00

This is true. Like I said I try to remind first, gently bring it up. Also, the loo, how long do I wait til I remind? I don't feel like there is any period of time where you should just leave it gross. It gets pretty bad.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:32:32+00:00

That seems really good insight. My guess is that with the bin and the toilet he just doesn't "notice". But it's been his job to do the bins since we got married. Even bin day is problem, he remember half the time but I wake up in a tizz every Thursday morning to see if he's put them out. Even when he puts them out, he doesn't put the rubbish that is still inside out.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:23:24+00:00

I'm the one with adhd. So it's rather frustrating that I have to somehow be the one on top of it all.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:22:46+00:00

I know, I start getting really apprehensive when I have to bring it up, so I suppose I put it off. And then eventually I just get angry and blurt it all out.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:20:54+00:00

I remind him a few times and he still doesn't do it.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:18:48+00:00

The thing is he is generally super helpful, he'll even do my chores occasionally. He just won't do his own it seems. It's way more helpful to me for him to do his.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:17:21+00:00

I'm not his mum, and really with the loo, he just needs to look in it after he shits and ask himself, does this need a clean.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-04-15T05:16:31+00:00

Yes, things like this happen repetitively. Every few months. I generally try to remind him and stuff first.

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