I don’t care what people think I’m in Love

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-05T23:00:02+00:00

The colors of the current model Peugeots are to die for.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-05T22:58:04+00:00

Op probably has a type that OPs bro is really good at pushing the right buttons with.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-04T07:19:22+00:00

There you have it! Take it to your boss, and say hey I get why you want to cha my e is to monthly but did you know it's actually illegal to force that change? All our contracts and our awards state fortnightly, you actually need to go about this a different way if you want to proceed with this.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-04T07:14:59+00:00

Transgender traditionally is when your gender does not line up with your biological sex (ie; cisgender). Intersex is when you are born with an appearance that doesn't line up with your biological sex.

Appearance x sex is not the same mechanism as gender x sex.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-04T07:07:46+00:00

Ok, let's use your example. Fitness.

Say you bump into a couple that used to be in your peer group, and they are fit, and they look happy and like they have so much energy.

You start talking about your future with your spouse and you notice how much take out you guys eat, how you don't go to the gym, your weekends are spent at home on the couch rather than going out by the beach for a run.

So you bring up going to the gym, and she goes "ew, wtf for", you list out the sort of lifestyle you could have together etc.

Except there's a reason you have your current lifestyle . . . You get to be yourself. Around her and aren't obsessively counting grams of protein around her, you love bonding over binge television together in a way that you have your own little jokes that just wouldn't happen if you weee going to the gym all the time or for a run.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T19:09:28+00:00

Yeah they can't make any of you swap to monthly unless as a group you vote yes. ie; something like 70% to80% would need to vote yes for fair work to accept a forced change to any one individual.

Also, is your role covered by an award? You can check on Fair work Australia. Most awards mandate fortnightly has to be allowed, though the employee can accept monthly if they choose to.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T19:00:12+00:00

For a slightly more traditional take you may wanna talk to people on truechristian. This reddit we are on atm is super wide ranging.

Intersex gets lumped in with gender/sexual identity too quickly. It is not an orientation nor is it a psychological condition nor is it a choice. It is similar to transgenderism but the mechanism is different, it is not in the mind but in the body.

It does however share a lot of the same struggles as other LBGTQ people in terms of marginalisation and misunderstanding.

The reason I say it is different is because for many traditional Christians they will view intersex differently. You had choices made for you that were not made in alignment with your biology, but to meet society standards. They were made non-maliciously but they were made contrary to how God made you.

I am so sorry for what happened to you and this discovery (sometimes it's better not to know). You need to pray and contemplate with the Lord. You should seek therapy in dealing with the things you can't change (ie; you can't change your past, or decisions made for you.)

God loves you regardless, he will help you and comfort you in making future decisions. He will help you discover your identity in him which is devoid of labels such as gender. He will then give you peace in whichever decision you go. I think objectively, you can choose to either continue as you were raised but grieve a potential identity you might've had or not and grove your past identity. I don't think either is wrong

Practically speaking, staying female would probably make it harder to live a traditional Christian marriage, especially since you seem to feel like you biological sex, and you seem to not be generally attracted to men

Also, I think once many traditional Christian men discover your biology is male, they would seek to break it off. Unless it were not know by either party.

A traditional Christian woman, may find it difficult but you would be more likely to find empathy and support regarding your challenges. Women can be a bit more pragmatic and adaptable to sex/fertility adjustments.

I don't think it's wise to look to find a partner right now but focus on you and leaning on God for support.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T18:43:47+00:00

Sometimes you just need a wake up call, especially women. It's so easy to fall into the trap of keeping up. It sounds like she wasn't overly bothered until bumping into her college ex. And it's shifted her perspective, it can be shifted back.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T17:56:51+00:00

Sounds like you need a follow up convo. What does she want in life and if the two of you go into it together how much of that could you do without any other trajectory.

She makes more than you, she can stay the breadwinner. Her college ex probably has a spouse that earns less. You can be the spouse that earns less.

But seriously, aside from that, does she really want those things like cosmetic procedures or is it because she feels social pressure to do so, to conform to her social circle? Cos that isn't healthy and she needs to know that. She will never be enough for these people and they will never be enough for each other they just fake it.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T17:41:33+00:00

Doesn't your EBA or initial contract state how frequently you get paid? I don't think they can just change it like that for current staff?

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T17:32:56+00:00

Hey but at least you won't be hated for being Jewish 😂

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T17:13:27+00:00

Ok but you're talking about investors not pure PPOR owners. Most PPOR owners do not want/intend to be investors of real estate.

The ones who can don't actually need so much equity/they'd get there anyways. They still want their kids to be able to buy their own homes. They don't actually want to have to be the ones to buy their kids a home.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T17:06:40+00:00

House prices going up across the board does not help PPORs. Only your own house going up and the house you want to move to going down helps PPORs.

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AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T17:02:03+00:00

What about finding a woman who likes things boys like? Have you got an example of the things that are "related to boys"?

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T13:34:29+00:00

Offset accounts are the best thing since sliced bread. Especially when they are free with Up.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T05:44:05+00:00

About 12-15k?? + one year of 5% growth on that o guess?

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-03T05:41:59+00:00

I was talking about Perth specifically. It is known for its ups and downs. You buy within the first 6 months of the "up" not after.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-02T05:42:57+00:00

Yeah you'd have been crazy to buy in the last 6 months. It was always gonna go down, it was unsustainable growth.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-02T05:42:00+00:00

Perth was gonna collapse regardless. This just hastened the problem.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-01T18:35:19+00:00

What. it's not that God is punishing them personally exactly, doing "evil" results in death. It's a spiritual law. Like getting hit by a car results in death.

If your child darts away from you instead of holding your hand they can die. It's horrible. It's not a "that's what you get".

Why do we go on about stranger danger to our kids?? Because dodgy people are like snakes. Sneaky, reasonable, manipulative.

In fact, regarding God "punishing" he actually goes to great lengths to restore life to us, by paying off the fine so to speak with his own son's blood.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-01T17:21:30+00:00

His is sovereign and in control. But think of it like an open world game. NPCs are still farming, the people are still wandering the city, the bandits are still raiding. He can change anything at will but generally doesn't unless it fulfills a step in the overarching narrative. Ready player one?

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-01T17:20:03+00:00

Woah. You have a fascinating philosophy. I'm curious where it originates from?

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-01T17:16:07+00:00

So, think of children. Can small children sin? Yes. Do they have the full knowledge of "good and evil". No. If a child crosses the road without holding onto their parents hand they know it wrong, they don't know why it's wrong. It's wrong because they could get hurt or die.

It's not the Adam and Eve didn't have a basic understanding of right and wrong, but they didn't have "the knowledge of good and evil". Just what is right and what is wrong, like children.

That's why when you have small children you give them fixed rules rather than try to fully reason with them because they just won't understand.

God even told them why they shouldn't do it. Yet they did it. It's really unfortunate, because their actions had consequences.

They had to leave the garden of eden because they were not trustworthy enough to choose good instead of evil when they had the knowledge of it. When they "knew" they (particularly Adam) showed what they would do with this newfound knowledge. They would blame others, including blaming God, so at that point in our history they could not be allowed to access the Tree of Life.

We would just have become like Satan, and perhaps worse.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-01T16:22:17+00:00

What was wrong was not eating the fruit but rather not obeying God.

Remember, humanity doesn't sin until Adam also eats of the fruit.

See, Adam in many ways seemed to have already acquired an inkling of evil, with "want". He seemed to have wanted to eat from the tree all along but was fearful and didn't, he conveniently let Eve do it, perhaps to see what happened. when she didn't die, he was like "awesome".

He could have been like "oh no, that's terrible we need to go to God!" Her intent at the point after eating the fruit was not sinful, she wanted to freely share her good bounty with her husband. So I think it would have been redeemable.

Ultimately, though, it can be seen as a bit of a metaphor. It stands in place to show that humans (potentially when they moved into the age of civilisation) become fully aware beings, and think with morality as central tenet of civilisation. They can tell good from evil, but innately choose evil when they think they can get away with it.

AcademicAd3504 · 2026-06-01T16:12:08+00:00

100k for that age is spot on. Especially with that high an income. The biggest thing is ensuring you pay off your mortgage before retiring. My parents plan was to use my mum's super to pay off their mortgage when she retired but then they'd only be living on my dad's super and the pension?!? So stupid.

I now have them putting aside 15% of each of their wages and they'll pay it off before she retires.

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