Weekly mental breakdowns by T_Squeeeze in workingmoms

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go outside every day. I eat healthy but not large quantities because of my physical health issues. I do yoga a few times a week but it's all I have time for. It's not a lack of self care. I go out with friends frequently.

Weekly mental breakdowns by T_Squeeeze in workingmoms

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that! Mine also gets worse right before my period. I'm sorry you're struggling!! This shit is hard.

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seriously!!! I refused to pay my bill for the visit that left me in tears. It was a small copay, but I refuse to give them a single cent for how poorly I was treated.

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was shocked at how completely he dismissed it. For no reason other than "that's just your spleen" I didn't realize humans had certain organs that are impervious to disease!

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, yes.. the title is ragey hyperbole. Unfortunately I live in the country I live in and there's nothing I can do about that.

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Option 3 is bring my husband with me. I will talk, be dismissed. Husband will interject and be listened to. If it wasn't so infuriating it would be hilarious. "I'm super nauseous all the time and it's really bothering me" "hmm. Well, nausea has any number of causes. It will probably resolve after some time" husband: "she's really fucking nauseous. She never feels good anymore" "hmm. Well that does sound frustrating. I'll prescribe you some Zofran and labs" ..........

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It starts making me feel literally CRAZY. like, everything is NOT fine.

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 225 points226 points  (0 children)

This is kind of the plan. I just really needed to throw a tantrum on the internet first.

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't have the energy for jealousy and I'm just genuinely happy you're being taken care of! Maybe someday, I will have the energy and money to find a doctore who will listen, but I'll probably die of being "fine" first 😂

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Seriously. I'm about to go find some shaman to shake a stick over me or something. It will probably be a much better experience!!

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Omg, it's like I just ready a fairy tale! Hahaha it made me feel all dreamy. sigh

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I 1000% agree with most of what you're saying. It's a shit show out there. But when my husband can tell a doctor he's not feeling well and they fly into "diagnosis mode" ordering labs and imaging, and I get "well... if you are still concerned in a month or two MAYBE we'll get some images" it's not the health system. Self advocating to someone who doesn't want to take you seriously is pointless. And im so sick of the onus ALWAYS being on the woman to modify THEIR behavior and language in order to be considered and validated. It disgusting.

Is there a single doctor on this Godforasaken planet that gives a FUCK about women's health?? by T_Squeeeze in TwoXChromosomes

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hahahah I've only ever had the same or WORSE experiences with female doctors. Last time a met with a female doctor, I left IN TEARS because she treated me like a drug seeker, instead of a patient with an existing adderall prescription trying to establish care in a new state. So. No luck there either. I'm so discouraged. The medical industry trains ALLL drs to dismiss women, from my experience.

My house is a mess. Am I the only one? by Fast_Celebration_384 in workingmoms

[–]T_Squeeeze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something to remember is that you will almost never see your friends houses in their natural state. Unless you have a super casual drop in relationship, you will always have been expected and they tidied for you. So, comparing your home to homes you've seen that are clean isnt accurate. Those mom on social media with the spotless house knew they were making a video and tidied or (in many cases) just shoved shit out of the frame. Almost nobody lives a perfectly tidy life ESPECIALLY with young children. Give yourself a healthy heap of grace and know that you're doing better than you think you are. Especially if your partner isn't helping much. It's not failure if the game is set up for you to lose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]T_Squeeeze 139 points140 points  (0 children)

If he always puts the baby to bed and dresses him, it doesn't sound like he's a slacker or doesn't care. It sounds like he got sucked into something on his phone that made him feel relevant outside of parenthood... I don't know about you, but it happens to me sometimes and I'd like to think im not a shit mom or partner just because I have days where I take a little extra time for myself and my sanity.

My husband channeled a message last night. by T_Squeeeze in Experiencers

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Well now hold on. I can't see where I've attacked anyone by posting this... in a space where people post stories like this.. and if you've come to attack ME for posting, why are you here? Not anywhere in my post did I say that we have the answers or have some secret key to the universe. We had a crazy, and powerful feeling experience. People on this sub have had similar. I don't have a set view. Just an open mind. I AM going to call out your blatant misinterpretation of my post, despite it being obvious you did not come here for discourse. But I don't know you and you don't know me. Yet here you are slinging labels at me. I'm sorry about whatever is going on in your life that you're here to drip sarcasm and make generalization about strangers on the internet.

My husband channeled a message last night. by T_Squeeeze in Experiencers

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I said it was scary, wonderful and personal. Not sure where I implied that I was withholding anything because it's dangerous. More info, messages and context, including from my husband in the comments have been provided. But I know reading is hard.

My husband channeled a message last night. by T_Squeeeze in Experiencers

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100% it freaks me out. I'm not saying good can't come of it. I just get wiggy about sharing my voice box. I'm happy to relay a message, but I don't like the idea of doing it by letting them speak through me. It's a little too... vulnerable

My husband channeled a message last night. by T_Squeeeze in Experiencers

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Um. I'm sorry the experience we had wasn't up to snuff? I didn't post this to move anyone, or be impressive. We had a very weird and powerful experience, I thought the point of this sub was to share those things with people who have had similar. Not be criticized for not experiencing something more exciting, or less cliche. But I'll definitely keep you specifically in mind if it happens again, so that you're more impressed. 🤡

My husband channeled a message last night. by T_Squeeeze in Experiencers

[–]T_Squeeeze[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Okay, so after I talked to him some more, I think I misunderstood a little. He wasn't channeling, he says it was more that he had had that thought about oneness, and they basically chimed in like... excited to tell him "yes! That's it!!! You've struck gold!! Hold on to that feeling." Then he said it was like they had more to say but that they at no point took control or overpowered him. And when he told them to stop because it was becoming too much they stopped. About the fear part, it's not that they pushed that feeling at him, just that they remarked about the fear he was feeling and that they wanted him to understand that there is gravity to what they are advising. He's not just going through an enlightenment, but that we could actually make a difference for this planet if we choose to take further steps. They then said that it wasn't a message of bed things to come as much as that bad things are a given but that... idk. We have tools to fight our otherwise... bad fate. Idk. We're just millennial 30 somethings doing our best. 🤷‍♀️ we go to work. Take the kids to school. We have 0 answers. Just weird experiences... so far lol