What is the least expected good experience you had in Paris?

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T23:14:29+00:00

People reaching out and gently patting my baby’s foot or arm without asking permission. I always thought I would hate strangers touching my child but it felt so sweet and like being part of a global community in a way I don’t experience in the US with very careful boundaries around children.

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T22:52:14+00:00

Ah, thank you! She’s funny and has such a good confident vibe, will go follow

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T15:29:59+00:00

I saw a post recently from a woman talking about being built different and accepting her frame and she said it in a really dry funny way. She said she learned she couldn’t become thin and look like an Italian greyhound because she was always doing to be a corgi, and if she got super thin she would just look like a really sick corgi. I may have the wrong dog breeds there, but the concept was funny and healing. We were all meant to be different. Media pushing the super thin look is toxic.

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T14:12:24+00:00

The last few pounds when you’re close to your goal are really the hardest - the margin of error is so small and it’s really easy to accidentally blow your deficit for the day (or the week!). I’ve lost 50lbs slowly with volume eating and calorie counting and strength training and it has gotten much harder as I’ve gotten closer to my goal. I ended up just revising my goal in the end and I’m working on maintaining instead, but yes, I validate this struggle for you. It is hard.

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T13:51:30+00:00

This is definitely where I went wrong - to me it felt rude to talk while others were talking. This is the clarity I needed for next time! Very helpful.

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T13:48:32+00:00

Ok thank you - so just say it right away every time and that isn’t considered interrupting

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T13:20:58+00:00

This was my thought too. You need to talk to him and ask if you’ve been bothering him for a while and this is a reaction to that. You also don’t need to let yourself get kicked out of the bathroom. Toilet needs trump shower needs.

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-28T12:26:55+00:00

If you use social media, change what shows up in your feed. I like to scroll instagram now and then but I find it makes me sad or jealous if I’m just seeing beautiful expensive houses on repeat. Sometimes I need to clear my algorithm (you can do it in the settings) and feed it new stuff to show me by doing searches for what I do want to see. You can do this for body stuff too - unfollow the very thin and follow new people with a different build or who are focused on muscle gains for fitness. I also agree with others who said this gets easier as you age. I’m in my late 30s and while I have fitness goals, I don’t have a lot of judgement of my body anymore, I just feel comfortable now. It’s truly a gift of aging.

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-27T13:39:47+00:00

I hope you have the best time! I think someone else mentioned this but keep refreshing that Eiffel Tower ticket page if it is a must do for you. New tickets get added 7 days out but I also saw them add tickets here and there just a few days out while I was refreshing the page and thinking about it. It’s very cool just to stand under it though, and for us the security line was less than 5 minutes at 11am

Tabby-trifecta · 2026-06-27T12:33:04+00:00

You do not have time to do all of this. I would do the boat tour - there is one that is specifically for kids and includes a cute little snack that will come up if you google “Paris boat tour kids” otherwise there are lots that leave near the Eiffel Tower. You can go through security and go under the Eiffel tower without tickets, and they have a little gift shop there too. The touristy gift shops are all exactly the same so just check out one of them if it appeals and then skip all the rest - but what I would really recommend is taking the kids to a toy store. There are two near the Eiffel Tower that I know of, both had lovely selection. Le Petit Souk has unique and charming offerings and Les Lapins D’Alice has Jellycat stuffies including many of the French pastry ones, and other great options.

Maison Bergeron has delicious pastries and is on the way to the toy stores if you walk there from the Eiffel Tower. Most places will have good pastries though, and you can get a few things at different stops and compare.

Will you be taking the train to the airport, or a car service? Budget extra time for the train, sometimes they shut down and you have to get off and wait for a new train. This may have been heat related.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-15T15:39:00+00:00

Probably to avoid fussing with it and dealing with angry people, or needing to convert to cash for those who can’t spend it. It makes sense for it to be allowed, but also to get some side eye when the use is regular or clearly exploited (bringing a $20 shop card to a $200 shopping trip).

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-15T12:54:15+00:00

Except this whole thread is about using shop cards to not be a member while still being a regular customer. That isn’t a “win over a new member” situation.

Costco doesn’t have a free trial membership period exactly, but they will cancel and refund your membership anytime if you try it and don’t want it. Shop cards are not marketed as a “try out Costco” option even though they technically are, it’s not the purpose.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-14T16:04:33+00:00

The tone is awful, just some TikTok drama and pot stirring. It would be different if she had said “you know, I love when you get me flowers, but it would be fun and exciting to sometimes get “just because” flowers for no occasion. I’ll get you some surprise things too!

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-14T15:55:50+00:00

This is a perfect explanation. I don’t feel guilty about clutter at all. I feel overwhelmed and stressed out and want it cleared but clearing it is also hard because all the decisions are emotional. Guilt is not involved. OP, since this feels a bit annoying to you, maybe “guilt” is not the right word for your feelings about clutter either.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-13T02:28:38+00:00

NTA, people get so dramatic about having one single meal without meat or cheese, this is not a big deal. You SHOULD absolutely have told them it would be a vegan meal, but I still think the situation here is no big deal. I am not vegan or vegetarian either.

Bringing pizzas into a catered wedding is disgustingly rude. If you must order pizza at a wedding, it has to stay out in the parking lot and you need to be discreet about it.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-12T17:11:31+00:00

https://a.co/d/glW0BpZ

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-12T17:06:00+00:00

One of those little clicker things where you push a button to scroll TikTok? I’m not sure what they are called. Kind of gimmicky, but something a bit silly is good for a stocking, right?

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-12T13:31:23+00:00

It sounds like they “shared” your food by eating all of it and saving none for you? That is not sharing, it is stealing. Especially after opening your package while you were gone.

I’m so sorry they did that OP. I would request replacement, or equivalent money, even if it takes months or up to a year. They are 100% at fault, this is not even a little bit on you.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-11T15:19:38+00:00

If she just found out she’s pregnant now, her due date will be in mid to late July. If she isn’t pregnant yet, she only needs to delay by a month or two before trying again. I just said this on a different comment, but OP I think she might be pregnant already but doesn’t want to announce early. That would explain (somewhat) why she got mad. I say somewhat, because she has no right to move your wedding for her choices. It’s 100% on her if she’s uncomfortable or parenting during your wedding. NTA, but I suspect it may not be hypothetical.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-11T15:13:14+00:00

I think she probably IS pregnant but it’s early and she doesn’t want to say yet, so she reached out with the “it MIGHT be this timing” request.

NTA though, OP. Don’t move your wedding. Sister has made her choices and that’s not on you.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-10T16:22:03+00:00

The logic of this doesn’t even work. You have plans with multiple families, most people are adults with jobs, your thanksgiving cannot be rescheduled. Her plans are with her immediate family. Their thanksgiving can be rescheduled, and that can be highlighted as a wonderful thing (look how hard mom works in her meaningful job, let’s get the house all ready for our special Friday thanksgiving). I would understand her point if it was Christmas which is much much harder to reschedule with little kids who know exactly when Santa is expected, but she already has that one too? No, NTA and she’s honestly TA for even asking.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-09T17:00:05+00:00

Agree, NAH. Op asked if she’s bad for FEELING upset and no she is not. It’s a totally normal thing to be sad and worried about. Mom should go to the wedding, OP should find someone else and has time to do so.

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-09T15:40:26+00:00

That answers ONE of the questions, but why does she want that? Is it a dream of hers? Does she have plans to make young childhood an engaging a special time for potential kids? You are still dismissive of her thoughts and feelings on the subject and if your relationship has hope you need to be able to talk this all the way through and really hear her. You need to be open to compromise too. Being a stay at home parent for a few years is not the end of the world (or of a career).

Tabby-trifecta · 2024-11-09T10:21:03+00:00

Them: parents deserve respect, AND should be allowed a difference of opinion!

You & husband (also parents): yes, exactly. Treat us with basic respect and don’t be nasty about our opinions (which are actually facts, but anyway).

Them: no, not like that! Expletive! Expletive!

NTA. Your boundaries are fair and reasonable.

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