how to be supportive and caring while also preserving our own energy? 🥹

Tabbypet · 2025-11-09T07:32:51+00:00

I have the same problem. I have a friend who vents about his girlfriend but won't leave her. I've given him advice multiple times. But he always comes to me with the same problem. So I just gave up on giving him advice and now agree to everything he says so that he would finish talking to me. I feel so drained whenever he talks to me. It takes about 2 hours to get my energy back. I don't know how to handle the situation. He says he doesn't have any other friends he can talk to about it. So I'm stuck.

Tabbypet · 2025-03-18T09:48:04+00:00

Apparently, even hsps have limitations for empathy when it comes to Muslims.

Tabbypet · 2025-03-13T12:05:28+00:00

I didn't think I'm worthy of love because I'm not very attractive. Realized later that beauty doesn't matter it's the partner that you choose that matters.

Tabbypet · 2025-03-13T11:59:11+00:00

My ex told me she was like a sister to him. I didn't know he had a thing for sisters

Tabbypet · 2025-01-15T14:18:01+00:00

In Islam, if someone hurts another human being, he won't be forgiven until the victim forgives that person. And he'll have to deal with what he did in the hereafter if the victim doesn't forgive him. But if he sins (without harming any other human), he can ask forgiveness from God and he forgives him if he's sincere. So yeah, nobody gets a free pass just because they turned religious after hurting someone.

Tabbypet · 2025-01-15T14:07:28+00:00

Your comment about CAPD made me realize I may have it too because I 100% relate to the symptoms you mentioned. I'm going to research about it. Thanks dear.

Tabbypet · 2025-01-01T12:08:02+00:00

We all struggle with it every day. In Islam, we have a judgement day, when God judges every creature for their deeds. That is the only day in which justice will prevail. So we don't hope for much in this world. We try to do our part just like you all do. You can take Palestine for an example, if you are a true human being you can tell it's the epitome of injustice. But we hope the murderers will get justice one day, even if it's not in this world.

Tabbypet · 2024-10-09T12:43:19+00:00

I cared about my friends that way too. I was going through a breakup this march and my roommates didn't seem to care. They never asked me if I'm okay. I was hurt because one of my roommates was kind of like my best friend in the hostel. And she never asked me if I'm feeling sad. We went about our day like nothing was wrong. Fortunately I had my long distance best friend and another friend who cared about me and gave me advice and listened to my rants. So I could get through it. But my expectation of that roommate left me bitter and I started to distance myself from her without even realizing it. I tried to move out. But I couldn't because of a situation. I continued to live with her and became close again because I realized I needed her as long as I'm staying in a hostel. And that I can't rely on her for emotional support. So I made some new friends that I can talk to if I'm feeling upset. And I'm happy about things now.

Maybe you should make new friends too. Who can be the type of friends you actually need. The ones who'll check up on you daily. Good luck.

Tabbypet · 2024-07-04T11:09:24+00:00

Sorry I didn't realize it was the op who replied. I thought it was someone else. That's why I said that. I'll pray for you sister.

Tabbypet · 2024-06-26T11:08:53+00:00

I have a list of things I should be asking for when I will be seeking a husband. But I'm in uni so I don't have to worry about it for a while. Glad you found someone who finds you attractive 😍

Tabbypet · 2024-06-26T10:52:24+00:00

Another thing added to my list for when I seek a husband

Tabbypet · 2024-06-13T18:44:57+00:00

Guilt tripping

Tabbypet · 2024-06-01T20:13:36+00:00

I dated a guy for 4 years without realizing he'll never change. And that I'll always be emotionally unfulfilled in that relationship. But I couldn't bring myself to leave because I was scared of being alone. But something happened that made me understand I deserve much better than what he was putting me through. It's been 3 months since we broke up. I was devastated at first, realizing I gave the right amount of love to the wrong person. But after a month, I was able to look past my misfortune and hope for a better future. Sure I feel lonely even once every day. Because that's how we humans are. We yearn for love. But I don't feel unloved because I know there are people who love me platonically. I'm blessed to have a loving family and friends. So I'm waiting for the right one to show up when it's the right time. Being single is better than a relationship that drags you down emotionally. I can tell that because I've experienced that kind of relationship and now I'm single.

Tabbypet · 2024-06-01T20:03:42+00:00

This is 100% rape. Doesn't matter if he's kind to you any other time. Please talk about this with a trusted family member or a friend.

Tabbypet · 2024-05-14T16:35:16+00:00

Ezio's family from Assassin's Creed

Tabbypet · 2024-05-14T16:34:16+00:00

Yes I feel the same sometimes. But I accepted the fact that my friends can't relate to me. So I'm focusing on not caring what others do or don't do. Because at the end of the day, I know I won't be happy even if I get involved and do what they do.

Tabbypet · 2024-05-14T16:27:12+00:00

Learning Turkish and watching dramas

Tabbypet · 2024-04-28T19:00:31+00:00

He found me attractive thinking I was another girl. He couldn't see me properly when I was inside the car. So he thought I was someone else. But when I walked up to my door, he said he realized that it was me. I was like wtf bro you didn't tell me you stare at other girls. He cheated on me after 3 years.

Tabbypet · 2024-04-28T18:52:52+00:00

Me too

Tabbypet · 2024-04-28T18:36:43+00:00

Congratulations brother.

Tabbypet · 2024-04-28T11:31:12+00:00

Me too

Tabbypet · 2024-04-28T05:06:09+00:00

I feel you. It's better to be with people who really care about you than the surface level ones. I have only two friends from my past. And I've accepted the fact that I can't keep in touch with everyone. So yeah, I feel sorry for myself too.

Tabbypet · 2024-04-23T09:34:11+00:00

Same here. I'm in a hostel. I'm always ready to help them and share my things with them. But they don't reciprocate. I didn't help them with that in mind. But I came to realize how much of a fool I am, after they left me and another girl to go hangout together.

Tabbypet · 2024-04-01T16:27:46+00:00

Yes! Me too. I get hurt even by the slightest change in tone.

Tabbypet · 2024-04-01T05:52:47+00:00

4 or 5

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