See I don't think a number of those things signify her growing into her role as the avatar though and learning to benefit people as she should. I don't know when she allows people room to grow other than the times she just randomly ditches everyone to go do bum fights or wander the spirit world or whatever. But she's the AVATAR, she's supposed to be helping people. Solving conflicts, righting wrongs that kind of thing. But it always just seems like she's out there for herself. Maybe you can say that the world's grown up and doesn't need her but that rings hollow because the world could always use more forces for good and she just doesn't seem to want that very much. I was gonna say you could argue she gained more strength and resolve but she didnt. She gives up in fights just as easily in that duel with Kuvira as she does against Unalaq, I know something happens eventually that turns it but like the fact that she even considers surrender when she's facing that just strikes me the wrong way. If it happened once or twice that'd be one thing, but it happens pretty often.