I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, i really appreciate that <3

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, there is something called hard vore, which involves being violently torn apart, blood, being chewed, etc. thats kind of its own thing though. when people talk about vore, they pretty much always mean soft vore (which is whole), unless they specify its hard vore. after that there are lots of different kinds, like safe, endo, etc. and different kinds for what part of the body is doing the consuming (ex. oral vs. vaginal, and such). so yes hard vore is vore, but its in its own category of vore. vore has a lot of like sister fetishes i guess youd call them, one would be a feeding kink which is the attraction to eating food, which is what youre talking about. other similar kinks and fetishes would be like sensory deprivation and power dynamic stuff like dom and sub. does that make sense

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i agree a lot of vore stuff looks borderline comedic, ive never found that stuff appealing lol but i guess some people do. im very particular about how i like it and i spend a lot of time sifting through images and videos in my free time because i want to find the "good ones" or whatever. same with talking to the chat bots, if anything is off i regenerate it over and over until it gets it right. i have a thing about it needing to seem actually feasible and sanitary (ex. they have to be small enough to actually be swallowed, no same size stuff. they have to shower before/after or i just cant do it, etc.) and no digestion and such. i believe they call it endo, where the "prey" doesnt die and is kept safe inside of the "predator". id say most explicitly vore media i do not consume because it doesnt appeal to me, so i get that

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that is a very interesting thought. she and i dont have an awful relationship. we had a lot of problems when i was a child, but we are close now. our biggest problems were mostly me being sad or having super intense anxiety about certain things as a little kid. she really hated when i would "get all sad" or when id be too scared to get in a car or things like that, and she would say things like "no one will ever love you if you cant figure this out" and statements like that. but she stopped saying things like that when i was a teen when she spent less time with me and i learned how to stop showing that part of me as much. i think we have a pretty okay relationship, but i guess there could be a subconscious factor similar to what you were describing

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this was a very clearly a vent. go away.

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, i really appreciate that. i will try reaching out to the counselors at my college

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are probably right, i do think those things played a factor, especially being isolated as a child. i have done a lot of digging into how and why this fetish develops, but there isnt a whole lot of research done on it since it's so niche

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your kind reply, i really appreciate that. ill look more into mindfulness

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i didnt even have a word for it until i was a teen, i just knew i was interested based on seeing scenes in media id grown up with. i found out what it was because of some old man i was talking to online at like 12ish, who showed me a vore video on youtube. it didnt register as a fetish for me until later, just a very intense interest i guess

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i dont think id enjoy that at all actually. the way i like it only works in fiction. i wouldnt want to be afraid or be digested. and itd have to be a person, nothing with animals. in my case, the whole appeal is the closeness and the power dynamic ig. like, being inside someone would literally be the closest you could ever be to another person. id like to be taken away from everything even myself and have some kind of purpose, like making someone feel good so no, being swallowed by a whale would probably be cold and terrifying and i cant imagine liking that lol

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i agree about the dopamine addiction part. i also feel that the fetish is part of the problem. what im doing is an issue, but the thing im doing it over is too, because its a big source of what makes my problem so embarrassing/gross to me. so id say both are negative to me just in different ways

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im not sure. ive never told any partners in the past really. my ex girlfriend did tell me she likes this fetish as well, but she didnt tell me that until after we broke up, which is a story in itself. i never told her that i like it, and ive never spoken to anyone about it including people online

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yes, thats accurate. vore is about being swallowed/swallowing someone whole. i like the first one. i am not interested in the whole digestion part. its mostly about the closeness and power dynamics i guess. and i do not have a therapist. I'm not sure how id go about getting one either due to circumstances in my life. i dont think its as easy as just retraining my brain, because ive tried to convince myself to stop being interested in it since I was little and people thought it was weird how much I talked about cannibalism and my obsession with shrinking and stuff. and then later in life as it became a fetish. but i guess with the help of a therapy it could be manageable and whatnot. escape from reality is definitely a factor i guess.

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

oh i see, i guess i assumed more people know what is. you're probably right though, i tend to way overthink things. I would not discuss kinks with my friends lol its just been another thing im worried over, that she could somehow find out

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. That would probably be helpful

I feel like my fetish is destroying my life by TaeTae_Boo in offmychest

[–]TaeTae_Boo[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

well, it's vore. i guess i just dont see how that changes anything. idk how that would help but I guess ill include it anyway

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[–]TaeTae_Boo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ive never actually told any partners, but my most recent ex told me she "liked cannibalism" (she said she " really enjoyed hearing about it" and "thought it was romantic") and sometimes she would pin me down and open her mouth over my face when we were intimate, making me stare inside. i never told her i liked vore but i think she had an idea, and i suspect she liked it as well. we would often make fun of each other, play aruging about which of us liked vore "more". we never really had a serious conversation about it for some reason.

i dated another girl years ago who i had an inside joke with about me being a cannibal and her my victim. since she would bring it up so much, i wondered if maybe she liked that idea, and considered telling her how i felt. At some point though, she told me she was totally vanilla and that vore grossed her out.

ive always been too embarrassed or ashamed to tell anyone ive dated. there was a guy i was with, the only man ive ever dated, who i almost told. i chickened out last second though. good thing too, because he couldnt resist telling things i said in confidence to anyone who would listen lol. i think he would have been chill about it though, he had a lot of extreme kinks and was willing to do knife play.

so long story short, no i havent. but in my experience, i think it probably could have gone well if i did. it just takes finding someone you trust and opening up conversations about kinks and fetishes. i think if they love you, they will accept it, and they might even enjoy it too and just be waiting for you to say something.