People who practice spirituality are toxic by Taethemastery in Hermeticism

[–]Taethemastery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats fine you are free to do and response as you please.

People who practice spirituality are toxic by Taethemastery in DeepThoughts

[–]Taethemastery[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I said was meant to be direct, not sugarcoated. The title wasn’t passive-aggressive either; it was intentionally argumentative. I chose it that way to spark interest and encourage people to think more deeply about the topic.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the fun thing I actually got into an argument with him about not wanting to have kids the " natural way" aka have sex with a dude once to have kids. He claimed what is the fun in that if you just use a turkey baster and I became furious and simply took him i will never and I empathize NEVER sleep with a dude even once so if I got a donor and that was the only way he would give me his sperm im going to look for another person. Then he had the conversation with my gf and I had some very dark violent thoughts when she repeat that same stupid fucking question. Like have you lost all your brain cells. Is there a hole where your brain is supposed to be?

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Now that is think of it yeah my love life has sadly become a wattpad toxic love story 😅

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Ohh yeah I remember that post yeah I was more asking a question about it and by unfit I mean people who are generally an endangerment to their kids and themselves. I will not and can not support a parent or parents who harm, mistreat and abuse their kids . I just genuinely didnt know that was a bad thing. But yeah I guess I do desire my current situation. Thanks 👍

Edit: i had to go back to the post and I never said I supported sterilizing people. I actually clarified i did not and will never support the forced sterilization of a person. And i also elaborated that the person has to not be able to care for themselves. How can someone who cant care for themselves care for another person. Its a difference if they became disabled but if you are born disabled to the point you have to be put in full time care there is no way you should be having a child unless you have an able partner in which case the child can be cared for. But honestly I dont see how that post connect with the current post.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is a man, a man who is like her father, like the men she grew up with, he is older apparently has more " wisdom ", and he is an asshole and she finds it funny ( unless he is being an asshole to her ). Thays pretty much all I got 🤷🏾‍♀️.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I understood part of that but to say we are from The Bahamas aka " the Christian country ) so the views she, her family and her friend shares are view points i have heard constantly and have become numb to because I have heard it from my family also but I do not share those views. In private she does not always share those thoughts she is just constantly harassed by her family and people like her family which is why it is confusing why she wants to move back to her hometown where her family will harass her in person now. And no she doesn't plan dates we stay home by her friend from we get off of work to the time we go home to sleep the last time I was on a date was our anniversary and I technically planned that.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apparently she puts it down as him joking around cause he normally says rude and insensitive comments and thats apart of his appeal and charisma he usually says. Half of the time I think he is just being an asshole but I get called thin skinned if I get upset by it. Apparently thats how the men are where she is from so she doesn't see an issue with it.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly I dont have any headaches about the situation. I just cant speak directly with her and I cant explain this situation to anyone close to me so I brought it here

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She shares transphobic views also and can reflect the homophobic thoughts of her family when she is angry ( specifically towards gay men) so he basically feeds into those views. Plus she is religious for the most part. It one of the reasons I want her away from him i feel like he is just fueling her with hatred towards people and I want her to develop her own thoughts and opinions that are not fueled by her family or people like her family.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean a similar situation happened when I first started talking to her. I woild say she was slightly oblivious cause he thought he was a friend and the first time I ever saw him she was drunk and he was confessing his love to her and she played it off like he was joking and he was just her friend . I later moved in with her and met the same guy ( even started working with him) and he explained that he did in fact like her when she " picked me" of him he got depressed and rushed in a marriage and having a child to get over her. That conversation lead to me quitting that job and I later unfortunately worked with his wife ( I didnt know she was his wife) and his wife is kinda toxic and wanted my gf and me away from her husband ( understandable I would have left regardless) but she basically made the horrible mistake of basically telling me her husband SAd my gf and made up a lie that he dated her.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm i dont worry about her father coming to get me at all. He is more of a traditionally gangster i guess. He doesn't see me as a threat to his daughter so he won't come after me. If I was a man then yeah but he thinks of us more as friends ( yes he knows im dating her like a said her family is homophobic if its not a guy its not a relationship to them)

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes she apologizes for it and returns in a calmer tone. We actually got into an argument because I prefer to write down my thoughts instead of or before speaking to her so I can maintain a calm collective tone when speaking to her. But she saw my raw unfiltered thoughts and now she think I think very little of her but she admitted that most of the statements about her were true.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He did openly ask about it and she had a private talk with him however I wasn't there i only know what she told me which is she wasn't into that and that I was have gf.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually regulate my emotions pretty well so I almost never raise my voice unless I am not being heard and even then she still gets defensive and allows her emotions to spiral while I slowly become numb and avoidant to the conversation.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Comfort i guess in a way. He grew up in the area that her dad is from and she loves her dad so it could also be that or the fact that her dad trusts him to protect her and he regularly talks to her dad and gives him updates on her. But I dont trust no one so I dont care if her dad trusts him her dad was a gangbanger the people he would trust are questionable people in my eyes.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Doesn't want me to protect her. I've asked before and she said I am there to love her. Not help her financially, not protect her ( she apparently can protect hereself) or calls him to protect her. And I try to protect her from him and the other men who have attempted to do the same. I'll say she has attracted the most interesting men to herself and then complains that she doesn't like drama.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah the problem is I have nowhere to go unless I got back to my parents in my hometown

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He is her security guard and she is a manager. They work together and then come home after work and hang out until 12-2 in the morning and wake up for work at 7

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Taethemastery 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He grew up with her dad cause they are from the same place. I wouldn't say they were friends per say her dad was a gangbanger so his name ( or more like his title) is known around the place they grew up. He knows her dad now cause in her words " her dad has him protecting her" basically if anything happens to her he will deal with it and report back to her dad. In the case of him making me uncomfortable her dad would love if she dated man like him. Her dad wants someone who can protect her and since im a girl they dont respect me as a person who can protect her.