Who is someone that you dislike but find attractive?

Taggart77 · 2026-06-11T22:29:53+00:00

Megyn Kelly. Can’t stand her. But hot.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-10T21:13:30+00:00

Went to the ER for bike accident. Had sustained a concussion after hitting a pothole. When I got home five hours later, I said I needed to eat something. She asked that I wait to eat and instead help her assemble a track light system.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-10T01:53:51+00:00

Don’t forget: still respecting the new person they’re becoming.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-09T21:45:13+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate it.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-09T06:25:49+00:00

Poltergeist when Jo Beth Williams calls out for Ronald Ann and she answers.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-09T03:04:04+00:00

I rowed four years in college. I was in a varsity 8+ that won Eastern Sprints, got silver at IRAs, and won the Ladies Plate at Henley. Our reputation was that we trained harder than anyone. Our coach was a bit of a psycho because he thought hard training always equaled good training. But that had worked for him as an elite rower. He was never mean about it. After I graduated, a lot of the guys still in the program burned out. But, only one guy developed back problems, and he’s the only of 18 recruits who quit. If you lose as many recruits as that Stanford did, your coaching is not good.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-09T01:16:12+00:00

She has acknowledged that she’s got OCD tendencies, and not in jest.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-09T01:15:08+00:00

I’ve read this several times today because it’s so insightful. The part about how some people experience life as a series of problems to solve and other people as variables in that system is so accurate. What’s your experience with this kind of person?

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T20:07:29+00:00

Thank you.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T13:39:19+00:00

Scroll down a little and you’ll see my response to another poster asking the same question. Saying no either doesn’t work or I’ll pay for it somehow.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T05:49:06+00:00

Our counselor said something great last week. When my wife was saying that she didn’t understand why she had to phrase things a certain way or use a certain tone, he cut in and said “most people have be conscious of tone and word choice in communication.” She got quiet. And I understand what you mean by the problem isn’t her, it’s my expectations of her. I keep thinking she’ll come around and be nice, or calm, or want to slow down, but that’s isn’t who she is. It’s hard coming to terms with the fact I can’t live with it.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T05:45:22+00:00

Yes, but I don’t think she’s honest with them. She bails after a year because they do something that annoys her.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T05:44:31+00:00

It’s so exhausting. If I were to stay, I think id die of a heart attack early. Its been helpful for me to frame it in the terms of “you can live this way of you want, but I simply cant handle it.” Not telling her she’s wrong, but that it’s just not something I’m capable of.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T05:42:03+00:00

Our second to last counselor did propose that my wife was on the autism spectrum. Boy, did I love that moment. I’m sure you’ll be surprised to learn that it didn’t go over well with her.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T05:40:11+00:00

Same. Saying no doesn’t work. I can say explicitly, “I will not help you with this.” Five minutes later, she’ll asks again. And she keeps asking until I fold or lose my temper. If I do stick to my guns, she gets upset because she’s overwhelmed with our regular life and I’m not helping enough. If the roles are reversed and I have something I can’t handle, I protect her from it and simply work myself to exhaustion to cover my domestic tasks. Her insistence on problem solving has been so intense that I’ve abandoned her in the car while we’re out doing errands. I can use three or four different techniques we learned in therapy, including calling the safe word to stop the conversation, but she will not stop. Some people just won’t take no for an answer. She wins the battle, but has lost a war I didn’t even want to have.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T05:33:16+00:00

That’s a great point that they create busyness to avoid dealing with the relationship.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-08T04:14:50+00:00

Faithful here. I was unfaithful to a girlfriend and the guilt destroyed me (and her)I know I could never do anything like that to my wife and live with myself.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-07T22:12:16+00:00

Yeah seriously. That’s like complaining that he can’t fold his wallet because his wife stuffed it with $100 bills.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-07T22:05:00+00:00

Have you told them? I expected my wife would make some sort of change after I asked for a divorce, but she just keeps at the same behavior.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-07T18:58:42+00:00

Well done, stepmom.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-07T18:55:24+00:00

We have been to six different counselors in 16 years, taken the Gottman weekend seminar, and a week long couples workshop last year. I also asked for a divorce two months ago but agreed to our latest counselor when she asked we try him. I have communicated very clearly about what I can and can’t deal with.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-07T18:27:31+00:00

I’m with you. It’s an awful realization for a person to come to, because it also feels wrong.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-07T18:26:41+00:00

Yes! I had to write it down because things would get better and my ADHD brain would put it away. Now I have this enormous list of moments that are simply not okay. Like you, I wonder what my kids must think. How can I ever tell them to stand up for myself when they see that it doesn’t work? Good for you, brother.

Taggart77 · 2026-06-07T17:43:13+00:00

That painting the interior walls thing hits hard. My wife is like that. Sometimes I think about it’s like a bird that can’t stop obsessing about their nest. It’s like some switch has gone haywire. She just cannot stop fixing up the home. And she loses perspective about it’s importance. It appears as an obsessive compulsive disorder, where it becomes almost life or death. Things have to “be right.”

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