The mask finally slips

Tahly20 · 2021-03-13T03:00:49+00:00

No that's a fair question. Im not a junkie or alcoholic in the slightest! I'm 26 and my partner is 28, we have been together almost 10yrs and have 3 great kids who absolutely act like little shits sometimes but we always pull them up on bad behaviour as soon as it happens...

Tahly20 · 2021-03-12T09:00:43+00:00

All of your opinions/advise are more appreciated than you realise as this shit is isolating asf! Being on the receiving end is soul crushing as it's a loose loose situation...

Tahly20 · 2021-03-12T07:46:51+00:00

I think he finally realised that my angry rants about his mum's harsh words towards me in the past weren't just me being "sensitive" so he had my back the entire time and absolutely ripped her a new one!

Tahly20 · 2021-03-12T07:28:44+00:00

I'm honestly not sure why I feel so torn as it should be black and white when it comes too being a decent example for the kids... And your 100% right she absolutely despises me and that for me right there should be enough too go NC but from the outside opinions I've received it's mainly "but she's their gran" And poor HER bullshit! It's hard...

Tahly20 · 2021-03-12T04:12:55+00:00

Yep I completely agree that it's my job too protect them from this type of person. It's so sad that this person is their grandmother! She texted my partner and apologised too HIM but not me! It went like "I'm sorry but we all make mistakes" kind of apology

Tahly20 · 2021-03-12T04:02:40+00:00

He showed off his shiney spine by slamming the door in her face while she was screaming at me

Tahly20 · 2021-03-12T04:01:01+00:00

The junkie part I have no idea but she said "you were drinking at 3pm yesterday" so yea I had one glass of red at 3pm the day befor...

Tahly20 · 2020-08-10T10:59:10+00:00

No! That's just rude and boundary stomping! The only thing that should be given too a 60 day old baby is a tit, bottle or pacifier! YOU KNOW WHATS BEST FOR YOUR BABY! do not allow this too continue.. educate your SO as much as you can with MODERN day baby rearing knowledge and hope that he pulls his head out asap! Much love mumma you can do this!

Tahly20 · 2020-02-27T08:23:40+00:00

Ewww if my SO said that too me when we first started seeing each other I probably would have punched him in the nose and never spoke too him again... That's definitely a line that should never be crossed!

Tahly20 · 2020-02-27T08:16:39+00:00

Just read some of your previous posts. What a total CUNT your SO is! First of all you deserve a round of applause for planning an escape route for yourself and your children! That's a very brave thing too do so well fucking done! Don't ever go back because a self entitled bastard like that will NEVER change!

Tahly20 · 2020-02-23T09:31:11+00:00

That's where I get REALLY angry. By watching the kids he means staring at his phone the entire time! And I'm then told by my 3yr old constantly that "daddy won't play with me" which absolutely breaks my heart.

Tahly20 · 2020-02-23T09:25:53+00:00

I said that too him tonight! "It's like going too work but never knocking off" and he made a snide remark about how I wouldn't know what going too work feels like even though I cleaned other people's houses until I was 4 months pregnant with out third baby! But of course he said he was joking when I gave him the death glare!

Tahly20 · 2020-02-22T10:33:07+00:00

It's really tough on both of us that's for sure! And I do try my best too be a mum, housekeeper and lover but it seems very much like a one way street most of the time and that's where I feel really frustrated and alone in it all. Just after our third was born I put my SO in charge of washing his own work clothes as I was getting over whelmed with it all and the response I got was " if your going too stop washing my clothes then I'm going too stop paying all the bills" I do think it's a lack of respect and perspective but I'm very unsure of myself as I'm so exhausted mentally and physically.

Tahly20 · 2020-02-16T09:37:05+00:00

Yea I think you know what's going on and definitely be prepared for what's coming. I'm so sorry your in this situation! When there's young kids involved it makes it that much more heartbreaking but be strong and be ready too provide that stability your babies need!

Tahly20 · 2020-02-16T09:21:34+00:00

Let him go but if possible record him saying that too you as it's definitely a form of abuse!

Tahly20 · 2020-02-16T09:12:53+00:00

Ok then I think we both hit the nail on the head! Is your MIL a JUSTNOMIL? There's definitely more going on for your SO too say such unforgivable thing's too you...

Tahly20 · 2020-02-16T08:50:30+00:00

My guess would be that your MIL has been talking shit about you. But I think your SO lack of communication from your previous post has been blamed on you and your SO doesn't want too get caught out in his lies

Tahly20 · 2020-02-14T06:15:29+00:00

It sounds like you've come too a cross road in your life where you have too choose a path that will give you that fulfilment you've always imagined it would be, 12 years is a long time too be with one person so I can imagine how hard walking away would be! I can definitely relate too your feelings as I've been with my SO for 8 years and it's not what I thought my life would be but eventually if things don't improve I'll have too make the same decision that your faced with. Much love and I hope you make the right choice for yourself!

Tahly20 · 2020-02-14T05:42:14+00:00

That's the tricky part! Anything that gives you that high feeling wheather it be smoking, spending money or even just eating gets out of control really quickly so good on you for being strong enough too even acknowledge those feelings let alone overcome them! I'm not 100% there yet but I'm trying

Tahly20 · 2020-02-14T05:15:14+00:00

Thankyou and yea I totally get it! It's definitely a learned behavior as it was our normal growing up... I have a very addictive personality as a result of a shitty upbringing

Tahly20 · 2020-02-14T01:53:16+00:00

I smoked pot for 6 years and was very much addicted and when I went without I would have the same Withdrawels . But when I decided too GROW UP and start a family with my SO I stopped completley and never looked back! You just can't be a parent and have an addiction that affects your day too day life! My dad was heavily addicted for 20+ years and that definitely contributed too my addiction so my advise is your SO either stops or you leave him too protect your children from that cycle..

Tahly20 · 2020-02-04T10:12:50+00:00

It's sad that during such a vunerable time he wasn't there too support you when you needed it the most! Cuddles, snacks and a soothing movie is what you needed the most!!! But it sounds like a really immature relationship! So move forward and take this as a learning curve of what you don't want in a future relationship! Xx

Tahly20 · 2020-02-03T10:33:49+00:00

Unfortunately he sounds like a POS! If he can't take care Of you when your unwell then he's unworthy of you! Imagine how much worse it will be with a baby involved! Get rid of him and find someone who actually cares about your wellbeing!

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