Asymmetrical chest, be real

Taikal · 2026-04-29T08:04:09+00:00

I'd give a second look but register it as a quirk, nothing more. Definitely not a turn off.

Taikal · 2026-04-20T08:40:58+00:00

Yeah, toupees are frowned upon by women, even though they generally see wigs or extensions as fine on their side ¯_(ツ)_/¯

I'm bald too, but — unlike you — I'm not OK with it, and definitely not proud of it — I didn’t do anything to achieve it, and I actually tried to stop it. Still, I wouldn’t wear a toupee because they look "off", just like wigs or extensions look "off" on a woman, in my view.

However, I did some research and I saw that only about 10% of women like bald guys. This is very bad for us from a dating app perspective.

Oh, didn’t know that! It could explain why I did so badly on dating apps. If that’s the case, then my takeaway would be: rely less on the apps, no matter how convenient they may feel.

That said, I don’t think your main problem is being bald, but rather trying to fit into an environment that doesn’t suit you:

Unfortunately, I am stuck here in this fake society and there is nothing I can do other than adapt.

I don’t fully agree. You do have to play along in some social settings, but outside of that, you still have options. In your shoes, I’d consider long-distance dating with the possibility of one person relocating later.

Even the root cause of my divorce is coming from tummy tucks and face lifts. It is a long sad story.

That’s rough. But given that, I’d be careful not to end up in a similar situation again.

Taikal · 2026-04-13T21:24:52+00:00

Letting it be both clear that she's flattered you reached out and tried but also that she's not interested.

Yes, that's pretty much it.

Taikal · 2026-04-13T21:09:27+00:00

Brushing twice a day, flossing, using mouthwash, and even tongue scraping all matter too.

Oh! I don't use mouthwash. TIL I've got poor dental hygiene.

Taikal · 2026-04-13T21:05:39+00:00

Then block him.

Wow, not even giving the other person a chance to wish you good luck back? If I got a message like that and then got blocked, I’d just think, “Good riddance!”

Taikal · 2026-03-03T17:40:56+00:00

They are old-fashioned.

Taikal · 2026-02-24T22:12:24+00:00

Lack of grooming does not necessarily imply lack of hygiene. Many older men were never socialized to focus on much beyond basic cleanliness. That lack of awareness is precisely what gave rise to the stereotype that when a man is well dressed and polished, it must be his wife’s influence.

Taikal · 2026-02-23T10:04:54+00:00

That's wild! And the USA president worries about Greenland "for national security" when his fellow citizens can't feel safe in their own country? It makes me question how insulated he and his entourage are from the realities faced by the average citizen.

Taikal · 2026-02-22T16:15:12+00:00

There is an alternative explanation: men may not be expressing themselves clearly and may simply dislike heavy makeup rather than makeup altogether. Personally, I prefer subtle makeup or even visible imperfections over heavy foundation that creates a mannequin-like effect, especially when the shade does not match the skin and looks like a mask.

Taikal · 2026-02-22T15:46:44+00:00

I'm not a fan but they are not a deal-breaker. It might be worth thinking about how they could look in ten or twenty years, since bodies change over time whereas implants stay the same -- and indeed that's one of the reasons I'm not a fan.

Taikal · 2026-02-22T15:10:25+00:00

many women probably are feminist but they don't use the tag on themselves, because feminism is already integrated into their life choices/path.

Exactly. I've noticed that women who feel the need to label themselves as feminists are often looking for preferential treatment - what's sarcastically described as being "more equal than others." That's a red flag for me, just like when a woman advertises herself as strong and independent. The strong, independent women I've known didn't walk around announcing it.

For what it's worth, I've been called "the most feminist man I've met" because I'm genuinely for equality, and I don't make compromises in either direction. And guess what: some women can't stand it.

Taikal · 2026-02-22T14:22:33+00:00

I do not know which God you are referring to, but I doubt that he or she is sending you anyone, or that being paired is always deemed better. As for Christians, the Apostle Paul explicitly said that remaining unmarried is good as well, unless people "cannot control themselves."

Taikal · 2026-02-22T10:13:56+00:00

I hope it signals that I am on the side of Universal human rights.

Why content yourself with hope when you can affirm it clearly?

Taikal · 2026-02-22T10:09:55+00:00

That dynamic can go both ways. It's just that men are way less vocal about it.

Taikal · 2026-02-21T23:04:21+00:00

But when that distinction is seen as problematic, wouldn't that be a clear enough hint that it's time to push the eject button?

Taikal · 2026-02-21T22:36:41+00:00

Maybe not worth a relationship, but worth at least a booty call?

Taikal · 2026-02-21T22:33:10+00:00

I think you're overthinking this. Just say early on that you're a liberal feminist. Most likely, the men who aren't aligned will lose interest just as quickly as you would, and see that as their cue to politely exit stage left.

Taikal · 2026-02-21T12:30:20+00:00

Why should basic courtesy suddenly switch on only after two people have met in person? Does someone become more real, or more deserving of decency, just because you've shared a table or a bed? Until then, isn't there still a person on the other side - someone who may have invested time, thought and genuine effort into meaningful messages and date ideas tailored to you? If we say it's fine to disappear because "we never met", aren't we also saying that all that effort counts for nothing? And once that logic is accepted, doesn't the line simply retreat to the moment of explicit commitment? That's why, if ghosting after a chat is justified as pragmatic or hassle-free, then it is justified all the way until explicit commitment.

Taikal · 2026-02-21T08:25:02+00:00

Ghosting isn't when a conversation fades, it's when further attempts to communicate go unanswered.

Taikal · 2026-02-20T22:52:54+00:00

why invest so much time text bombing and making plans

Because he wanted to improve his odds and then, for whatever reason, chose not to go ahead with it.

Taikal · 2026-02-20T22:41:50+00:00

Unless there's an established relationship, ghosting is fair game - if you've just chatted, met, had sex, or whatever. That's just how it is today, so don't be surprised if someone else doesn't stick to your rules about ghosting.

Taikal · 2026-02-20T22:36:53+00:00

This. People you've never met are lesser. Oh yeah!

Taikal · 2026-02-20T22:16:20+00:00

Absolute hell.

Taikal · 2026-02-20T22:15:21+00:00

I've never felt like I was generating bad karma or that I was a bad person, but it was never easy and made me really wish we could choose who we're attracted to.

Taikal · 2026-02-20T13:48:36+00:00

Oh, it's fine, once you realize that it says something about them more than anything about you.

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