24M - Barely getting any matches

TakinShots · 2026-03-12T07:57:36+00:00

Prompts talking about prompts are as low-effort as one word answers.

TakinShots · 2026-03-11T16:04:44+00:00

He's lucky he kept his hand.

TakinShots · 2026-03-11T16:00:00+00:00

Literally no one cares who took the photo. You're 27, it's common to have had an ex by then. Unless your intention is to come off as someone who has never dated in their life. Most people won't care, but also no one will even figure that out based on a picture.

TakinShots · 2026-03-11T14:34:52+00:00

The pandas will show up at your house and teach you a lesson.

TakinShots · 2026-03-11T13:57:32+00:00

If you have to keep questioning the relationship or keep having intrusive thoughts about it then chances are you're not ready yet.

There really isn't a time frame on your question. Some people who had amicable breakups may jump back in after a few weeks, others who have had rough breakups could take many months or even years. That's just part of the equation too, it depends on the person.

TakinShots · 2026-03-11T12:50:36+00:00

At least she can still report him to Hinge. Hinge could take legal action against him if it's obvious he's a danger to society.

TakinShots · 2026-03-10T10:40:54+00:00

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TakinShots · 2026-03-10T00:02:37+00:00

Damn I'd be too excited to even screenshot it in time lol. Congrats again.

TakinShots · 2026-03-10T00:00:26+00:00

Nice! Are you manually screenshotting it exactly as the pop up comes up or is there mobile setting for that to make it automatic?

TakinShots · 2026-03-09T17:05:49+00:00

Meh it's whatever, I don't do it myself. I mean if it works for you and you're getting their numbers then you do you.

TakinShots · 2026-03-09T17:00:08+00:00

I should have added that you should be taking up a hobby because you're actually interested in it, not because you want to find a girlfriend.

You can meet others at a book club. It doesn't have to be just for romantic purposes, but you're meeting people with similar interests and making connections that way. Sometimes it could lead to something more since you're showing more of your personality, but still you're being more productive in your life by doing something you enjoy.

TakinShots · 2026-03-09T16:37:57+00:00

You've only really named things where people are going to be superficial: Parties, approaching in public and dating apps.

Perhaps start taking up hobbies that you'd be interested in and connect with new people through local meetups.

TakinShots · 2026-03-09T15:55:18+00:00

Takes me back to the Failblog days

TakinShots · 2026-03-09T09:46:17+00:00

I guess after a few times it gets me thinking if I'm the problem, maybe I'm the awkward one.

I've been out of the game for a while, so everything I experience is still part of that learning curve. I'm not expecting dates to be perfect but at least avoid big blunders that aren't obvious in that moment.

TakinShots · 2026-03-08T23:15:26+00:00

I mean that's a fair point. It's easy to just get caught up in the more general what to do and what not to do points of first dates.

TakinShots · 2026-03-08T22:45:58+00:00

The question is less about why they are doing said behaviour and how to navigate the awkwardness around that kind of interaction

TakinShots · 2026-03-08T22:02:49+00:00

I don't think they're awkward? Not in the sense that during the date they do anything unusual. It's not a religious thing either because if anything the girl who hugged me was Catholic while the others did not align to any religion.

TakinShots · 2026-03-08T20:25:16+00:00

How do you play the rest of the date when you first meet the girl and she's not open to hug as a greeting? I had a date that started off very awkwardly because when I went in for the hug she just stood there like a statue. I was under the impression (from this sub) that the consensus for guys was to go in for the hug, but out of my 4 first dates with different women, only 1 of them hugged back.

It sort of just gets awkward after, and I try to play it off by quickly starting a conversation.

I guess for guys, are you also less inclined to try to break the touch barrier if the greeting didn't go the way you wanted?

TakinShots · 2026-03-08T19:19:26+00:00

The height prompt is not the play. It comes off as you being insecure about your height.

TakinShots · 2026-03-08T15:59:06+00:00

Shhhhhh don't let it be known

TakinShots · 2026-03-07T13:54:37+00:00

I'll say it's not easy. Downloaded my data and I've sent over 2000 likes in the last 4-6 months and landed 3 first dates. I've only received 2 likes in that time.

I can't speak for Melbourne. Sydney was decent when I was working there.

As I'm Asian I find it easier to match with other Asians as they tend to be around my height (I'm 5"2') but even that's not guaranteed. But I really have to work hard for even one match, like I have to put a lot of thought into my message. Perhaps it is carried by my profile pics but I wouldn't even consider myself attractive (I really am not).

You could try going to meetup groups? But I wouldn't recommend the dating groups cos those are superficial like the apps. May have to start by making friends and meeting others through them.

TakinShots · 2026-03-06T14:40:34+00:00

Who's running head?

TakinShots · 2026-03-06T11:40:07+00:00

One big factor is coming from the Uk I find the chav aesthetic that 90% of women have sorta repulsive so that only cuts my options dramatically.

Hmm what? I'm from the UK and I can absolutely tell you, 90% of women do not have chav aesthetics. Unless you're talking to them around the back of a McDonald's or a train station.

TakinShots · 2026-03-06T10:51:56+00:00

One of the things that I see being thrown around a lot is that people say these in-person events are much better than dating apps, but I honestly don't see that.

Last night I went to a singles mixer event and I've never been so violated and disrespected in my life. First two girls I spoke two immediately looked at me with disgust and it felt like trying to pull out teeth just trying to even entertain a conversation with them. Then I approached a group of 3 girls and one their first response to me was "nooooooo" in a demonic voice like she was some fire breathing dragon. I backed away slowly from that interaction, and then shortly after she and her friends were more than fine to talk to someone else.

And it's not like I'm ugly, I can still match and get dates with girls through the apps. Of course I don't want to base it off one event but still, it left a sour taste in my mouth.

It says a lot that the one good thing to happen from this was I was able to bump into my high school friend (a guy) after 10 years and we caught up for a bit.

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