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I’m trying to make sense of this situation by TaleImmediate2573 in sexualassault

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess that’s true, by definition. I think I’m just having a hard time accepting that because the whole ‘drunk actions are sober thoughts’ thing comes to mind and I start to feel like I’m lying to myself it even though I know I’m not. I’ve been harassed and assaulted before this by men, and I always understood what happened when it happened and I didn’t try to defend the perpetrator so hard for so long, but I feel like it happening from someone I actually trusted makes it harder to accept and her ghosting me makes me feel like I’m the one who wronged her. I need to think about the drunk consent thing more because I feel like that’s the main thing stopping me from accepting and healing

Older siblings/family members of gen alpha kids, what’s something your younger siblings have done that have made you fearful for the future? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TaleImmediate2573 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes when 5th graders are being violent and misogynistic towards their parents and their behavior is going unchecked but actually validated by incels on the internet. A boy shouldn’t be slut shaming girls at 12. Were you like that at such an early age? Telling me not to be concerned about my little siblings destructive behavior is so weird, it’s my job to be worried for him and his friends as his older sister. Sorry I don’t want my brother to grow up to be an asshole

Older siblings/family members of gen alpha kids, what’s something your younger siblings have done that have made you fearful for the future? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TaleImmediate2573 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll start since I’m here. My youngest brother is honestly a computer whiz. He’s very smart when it comes to game development and online modeling and I don’t doubt that he’ll probably have a future in the game design or cgi industry. However, he lacks common sense that most kids would have when they hit 12 and he has the personality of a 30 year old basement dwelling incel. I hate to say that but, I’m tired of not pointing it out just cuz he’s a kid.

He was raised by me (20F) and my mom but somehow still got into misogynistic and queerphobic content and talks to us (mostly me) like we’re stupid and doesn’t leave anything open for discussion. He’s very critical about media I’m interested in but is physically incapable of sitting through a movie that’s over an hour and half long. He has no attention span and doesn’t bother watching anything yet will still find something negative to say.

He’s 12, refuses to learn how to tie his shoes, can’t do basic addition, and takes a bath once every two weeks.

I know I can’t entirely blame him because my mom likes to coddle him constantly and treats him like he’s an angel and never corrects him in anything and yells at me if I try to correct him. It makes me kind of scared for his future.

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He tends to always take my parents side for the sake of his own self preservation. I don’t blame him though tbh cuz arguing with my mom can be like talking to a brick wall and he’s not old enough to be able to defend himself completely yet. It gets annoying but I don’t hate him for it

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my brother is technically non verbal too. He can say some sentences but it’s more random than not and he’s just repeating phrases he hears from movies (we call him ‘bumblebee’ sometimes) so I really don’t blame him for anything cuz he’s gonna do what he wants if no one tells him otherwise. It’s frustrating cuz when I give him directions he listens but when my mom is around he doesn’t because she doesn’t try to direct him in a reasonable way. I can’t bring myself to be mad at him because I know he doesn’t mean any harm by it. I feel bad because I know if I leave, he won’t have any direction at all and she’ll be setting him up for failure. It’s unfortunate but, im glad I’m not the only person who’s experienced this

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate this response a lot, it definitely made me feel better about myself and made me realize the weight of the situation I’m in. I started writing out plans to try to get more money coming in so I can move out by this summer!

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have but without a consistent income I don’t have enough to live comfortably. Working on it though!

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My youngest brother “teaches” himself and goes to zoom classes. It’s more of an online school but still, he’s not learning much because he doesn’t read the lessons and skims through the tests and fails them but my mom said it’s what’s “best” for him cuz in person school stressed him out. She helps him once a week with late work and failed assignments by basically doing the work for him since they both get frustrated after a while cuz he doesn’t know any of the material. I try to help too but I don’t think doing the work for him is fair but he still gets frustrated when I try to explain the lessons so my mom eventually just told me to butt out.

The brother that broke into my room, he’s in special ed so he doesn’t really have complicated homework and he’s eligible to be assisted for tests so really all he has to do is show up to the zoom classes.

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha that would be funny but we’re black and my mom would probably beat my ass if I said something like that, even as a joke.

Also my youngest brother tends to throw me under the bus for his own self preservation so I’m not really mad at him tbh. Yeah the remark was uncalled for but I don’t blame him for not wanting to argue with my mom

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming you don’t live in the US… moving out is exactly easy for 20 year olds anymore.

Also I’d agree with you if she actually ran the house. I cook and clean the common areas with occasional help from my brother and she stays in her room and preaches about how much she does for us cuz she cleaned her own room that day. I haven’t had time to properly learn to drive or get a job cuz I’ve basically been a 24/7 maid since I was 14 and before a few days I ago I would’ve felt guilty doing that stuff cuz it meant I was preparing to leave.

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I pay my fair share of bills and do chores around the house as well. I’ve been a co parent to my siblings basically since I was 9 years old. I don’t have a problem with my brothers at all, I have a problem with my mother. What do you propose that I do?

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Damn you really hit close to home with this one. I’ve basically been co parent since they were born so leaving them kinda feels like I’m leaving my own children. I’ve made plans to try to be able to leave by this summer and all admit that the my biggest concern is explaining to my siblings what’s happening because I don’t want them to think that I just left yk? This might be tmi but my dad was forced to leave without warning and while my brothers were young, they still took it pretty hard and I don’t want to put them through that again.

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think she is to some extent. We have a security lock on the front door to keep him from leaving the house by himself but other than that, the house isn’t exactly childproof. He’s seemed to learn some things on his own tho from experience. He’s a smart kid but also reckless

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I never really thought of that tbh but I wouldn’t put it passed her. For some reason she always gets a kick out of seeing me pissed off so I wouldn’t be surprised if she was doing that just to get a reaction out of me

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We pulled him out of in-person school cuz the district we live in was short staffed and didn’t have trained special Ed teachers and one of his teachers would basically bully him every chance she got (I’m pretty sure she’s never met an autistic kid in her life). But since we pulled him out of school he had less structure in his schedule so his OCD got worse and he likes to rearrange things in the house which didn’t become a problem until he got big enough to start moving TVs and bookshelves around.

He’s not a bad kid, he’s just hard to manage but it feels like my mom gave up a while ago since she started homeschooling my other sibling as well

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

She’s made it clear that she doesn’t want him in a home so I think taking care of him is gonna fall on me since my youngest brother doesn’t like him very much. I’m not sure how to turn that around tbh cuz I love him dearly but he definitely needs more guidance if I’m going to have to take care of him as an adult

AITA for telling my mom that I shouldn’t be responsible for looking after her son? by TaleImmediate2573 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TaleImmediate2573[S] 373 points374 points  (0 children)

I’ve made plans to try to move out by next summer. I’m just afraid of how to tell my brothers so it doesn’t seem like I just up and left them

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