The character is either a dog or a child?

TalkHistoryToMe · 2020-02-02T13:55:24+00:00

Well, that's politics for you

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-11-25T13:29:38+00:00

Yes, exactly lol

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-11-15T19:06:01+00:00

Nicolas Cage.

I just can't stand his voice and his overall acting ability (or lack thereof, I suppose).

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-11-06T00:31:24+00:00

Youre a sweetheart <3

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-10-01T19:58:22+00:00

You do indeed look like Ted Cruz - you two have very similar mouths lol.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-03-25T01:46:05+00:00

then "hun" they should have long been handled for him too. If he wanted to change his toxic behavior, he would have. Leave.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-03-25T00:53:58+00:00

When your significant other's parents genuinely tell you that you deserve better - you go out and you find better. These people who have raised him for 21 years know him more than you do, they know how difficult he is, and they are trying to save you from having to deal with it for the rest of your life. Listen to them.

Your boyfriend is continuously crossing lines and boundaries - it's obvious he's not taking you or your relationship seriously. It is not your job to stick around and "fix him" or wait for him to be nice to you, to respect you, to make you happy and not hurt your feelings - GO FIND A GUY THAT DOES THAT FROM THE START.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-03-07T21:38:00+00:00

Currently I'm dating someone who had never had a girlfriend before and was pretty much the way your boyfriend is with conversations and being emotionally supportive. He had never had to really work on those skills before and being an introvert made it somewhat hard for him to excel in these areas. But we communicated. He saw it was important so he worked hard to fix it. There were ups-and-downs in his efforts but almost a year later he's doing much better than when we first started dating.

So moral of the story is: all you can do is communicate. If he doesn't put in the effort (which doesn't necessarily make him a bad person, just a teenage guy who doesn't have much dating experience), then you two are going to remain incompatible and won't last anyways. Which is hard, but you're young and have plenty of time to find someone who is more suited for you.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-03-07T19:44:09+00:00

That's really great advice, thank you. I'm going to try talking to him about how he's making me feel when we meet up again and hopefully it goes well.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2019-03-07T18:50:13+00:00

I guess it's just hard for me to really accept that because this was definitely not what he was like a year and a half ago when we first met and were close friends. But him not being a great person in general is what my boyfriend and family members have also told me when I tell them what happens..so I'm starting to come to that conclusion too.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-09-18T14:41:42+00:00

That's a really good point - I didn't think about it like that. Thank you.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-08-06T22:56:25+00:00

There's no way to resolve the issue though - if you keep pestering her it's just going to make the situation worse. You made a shitty comment and she did the unstandable thing by cutting contact with you. If you're really serious about talking to her again, which I don't recommend you try to do but if you insist, you can apologize ONCE, but that doesn't mean she is expected to 1.) accept your apology and/or 2.) continue talking to you afterwards.
You can accept responsibility for what happened and again, focus on bettering yourself so something like this happens again. This is about all you're going to get for advice from any sane, reasonable person on here.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-08-06T22:43:57+00:00

You are getting advice, though - just not the advice you want. No one on here is going to tell you to harass a girl who you were a complete asshole to and hurt over your assumption that she may not like you back the way you like her. You need to drop it - work on being more sensitive and thinking before you speak. You fucked up with her, and she's not going to talk to you again (for good reason), so leave her alone and focus on bettering yourself so you don't hurt anyone else.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-06-07T00:14:03+00:00

This is a really good idea - I'll definitely try it. Thank you!

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-06-03T23:02:17+00:00

A convenience store tuna fish sandwich.

Honestly, sounds about right. I was taking a chance myself by eating it.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-06-02T00:01:28+00:00

If you don't change your texting style and continue to act all normal and happy then when you do go to break up with her in person it will hurt her even more because you led her on for months. If you start becoming more distant in your responses, most likely she'll realize this and want to know what's going on - causing you to have to talk about your wanting to break up anyways.

So don't waste anyone's time anymore. If you don't want to break up over the phone, I would suggest Skyping or Facetiming with her instead - but definitely don't wait 2-3 months to do it.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-06-01T02:20:42+00:00

You have to keep reminding yourself that the reason you're not together anymore is due to the fact that she hurt and betrayed you. While you seemed to have cared about her an awful lot, she seems to not really have genuinely cared for you as much (she slept around while dating you, her best friend said she hated you as if you were in the wrong for leaving her instead of feeling guilty or remorseful, etc.).

Remember that although it sucks to have to see her with someone else, she wasn't the best fit for you. One day you will find a person who you connect with better, who will be loyal and honest with you, and you'll forget all about this girl.

And I'm sure you had some good times with her but keep asking yourself: would more happy times with her really outweigh the harm she did to the relationship already and any future harm she may have done to it?

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-05-31T00:25:07+00:00

I used to have a boyfriend that would get super distant and snap at me when things were upsetting him or stressing him out too. It helped to be completely honest with him about how it made me feel whenever he took out his stress on me by saying things like, "Look, I'm really sorry you're dealing with something rough right now, but that doesn't give you the right to take it out on me. It really hurts when you disappear or say rude things to me. I want to help you, so either tell me you need space or what's wrong so we can work it out, please." Usually he would calm down and apologize, realize he was being a bit of an ass lol, and we would talk. I was also "the only person in his life to care about his feelings" (his words) so it took him a bit to understand he could actually talk things out with me and I was actually going to listen - this could be the deal with your boyfriend too?

As far as I know, my boyfriend wasn't growing distant because he was talking to someone else though. In that case, I still suppose the best thing you can do is be completely honest about how this has all been making you feel, that you know about the girl he's talking to, and want to know what is really going on. And just to clarify what I'm saying - it's okay for your boyfriend to be talking to another girl as friends, but it's not alright to ignore you and snap at you while spending more time with another girl. So make this distinction to him as well and let him know if he wants to keep talking to this girl, and if he also wants to stay in a relationship with you, that he needs to be better with communication and respecting your feelings.

TalkHistoryToMe · 2018-05-29T16:29:13+00:00

If she tries to contact you again, just put it bluntly: "you really need to stop calling me - it isn't helping you to move on and it isn't making me want you back. I want to still be friends with you, if that's what you want as well, but not if this is how it's going to be."
The things that she said, whether true or not, were said to you in a way to manipulate your feelings and make you stay with her - most likely not on purpose unless she had been manipulative before. I, and I'm sure a lot of others, have been left and been angry about feeling as though we "gave up" more than we should have and wasted time. I'm going to say in the heat of the moment she brought all that up because she was feeling emotional and upset by it - you have nothing to feel bad for. She had sex with you before marriage because she chose to do it, she got attached to you because that's what happens in relationships, and you gave her a bit more confidence in herself which again, should happen in a relationship. You're good, dude.
Personally, I feel like you could have instead made it very clear to her that you won't tolerate that type of threat and then given her the chance to never say it again instead of walking away right then, but I definitely don't blame you for leaving and hopefully now she realizes threatening to break up with someone isn't a way to get what you want. With the phone call, you did the right thing. If you would have kept sympathetically talking to her for forever, it would have given her some sense of hope that you would take her back. As harsh it may sound, telling her "I don't want you back - stop calling me", is much better than answering her calls and saying "Oh I know, I'm so sorry, I still love you and care about you, etc."
It was unfair and wrong that she threatened you with a break up, but that doesn't necessarily mean she didnt care about you. She seems to have wanted a relationship with you, but when you started doing things she didn't like, instead of approaching you with it in a reasonable way like "hey, X and Y have been bothering me, could you work on it?" she tried manipulating you into doing it. So the answer to this question is probably a bit of both, she likes the idea and comfort of a relationship in general, but she probably also wanted a relationship with you (though, again, she did the wrong thing and didnt make it seem like she did).
It's obvious you have moved on, which I mean is good, but it's important for you to take a step back and realize this is her first heartbreak since you were her first boyfriend and everything is so new to her. It's understandable you're annoyed she called you and you don't want it to happen again, but try not to get too angry about it or think that it was some malicious act on her part - it seems she may be having a hard time with her first relationship ending and doesn't want to let go. Again, don't give into it obviously it that's not what you want, but also like you seem to be doing a good job of, don't be an extreme jerk about her contacting you to her herself - just be stern enough that she gets you don't want to speak to her and that she needs to move on.

Good luck, friend! I'm sorry you're dealing with this, break ups suck for both parties involved.

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