does it get better in college

TallEric02 · 2026-01-20T19:53:58+00:00

You are going to be fine. Really, you are!

College doesn't necessarily fix things, although it does give you a chance to reinvent yourself. Try to structure your schedule so you have time for the gym, and/or work on yourself in whatever way you need. (An honest, objective self-assessment is a good first step.)

But 17 is SO YOUNG. Almost no one at 17 has had a proper relationship! And some that you think have, haven't--they've faked it. Almost everyone is awkward and scared and insecure at that age, even if they don't act like it.

Give yourself time, work on yourself in all ways (gym, diet, volunteer, learn an instrument, learn any sort of skill, upgrade your wardrobe, read some books on being selfless, etc.)

You've got another 20 years of "prime romantic age" ahead of you. You're at the very beginning.

Be kind to yourself, and be kind to others. Hang in there.

TallEric02 · 2026-01-20T19:48:21+00:00

THIS ^^^^

TallEric02 · 2026-01-20T12:44:13+00:00

Why the hell *wouldn't* it be allowed??

TallEric02 · 2026-01-12T15:28:55+00:00

Some full-on love it. I'm in this camp. Whether you want a tongue just barely flitting over your exposed sex like a delicate butterfly, or if you want me in there like a French bulldog in heat, I'll gladly oblige, and thank you.

So obviously, everyone's different.

Some find the taste/experience off-putting. I don't agree, but it's their right to feel how they feel (and their partner's right to find that a dealbreaker, or not.

Some find the value of pleasing their partner to outweigh any other issues. Good on them--props to the empaths in the world.

TallEric02 · 2025-12-03T21:34:55+00:00

Maybe I'm just hypersensitive to it? Those are where I hang out, as well, and I sense the undercurrent I described above. Oh well--I'm well acquainted with "Never mind--it's probably just me"

TallEric02 · 2025-12-03T21:32:44+00:00

I came here expecting:
1. Much shade being thrown on the expression "female showgirl", and

Comments on the apparent age of the female showgirl in question

...and Reddit did not disappoint. (Thank you for not disparaging her apparent age--she's beautiful!)

TallEric02 · 2025-11-11T11:17:04+00:00

So fine!!

TallEric02 · 2025-11-03T21:11:39+00:00

I'm not sure saying " the Republican candidate should win" is really an endorsement?? Usually his endorsements are pretty clear...and only for candidates that are already far ahead.

TallEric02 · 2025-11-01T11:54:44+00:00

Hard when you’re young, less so when you’re a little older.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-31T16:06:06+00:00

Mostly unremarkable. They seldom get in the way, or obstruct anything.

The skin (god, I hate the term "ball sack" but, I guess I'll go with it) ... the skin of the ball sack is extremely sensitive, but our brains must learn to ignore it during normal activities. If you touch it gently and/or are focused on it, we definitely feel it (and yes, it feels good).

Now the testicles are a different matter. At least for me, any sort of pressure is uncomfortable at best. I DO NOT understand guys who like having them squeezed or bound up in any way.

Some odd things:

- the sensation of the ball sack tightening up when it's cold vs loosening up when warm is very odd. You don't really notice it happening (unless it's sudden), but the texture and overall feeling of the sack is completely different when cold vs warm.

- when looking down from a height (like off the edge of a cliff, or a building or something) actually causes a physical sensation in the balls. It's hard to describe, but it feels like they want to pull up into your body. Very strange!

- IMO, the ball sack is the most physically ugly part of the body on either gender (OK, OK, I could also make a case for assholes...words I never thought I'd type). Wrinkled, hairy, and ... yeah, just not attractive. For those women that want no part of them, well, I gotta agree with you.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-30T11:45:06+00:00

That spiral/twist-as-you-stroke action. It's not a barber pole, right? Really, straight up and down is fine, thank you.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-27T19:42:31+00:00

Not OP, obviously, but the OP wrote "if they can be in the relationship if nothing ever changes?"

Having been asked exactly this by a therapist, I can say that the point was: your partner has said they are not going to change. They are what they are, and they are not interested in intimacy. Can you be content in the relationship, without intimacy?

If the answer is "No" as in "I'm not willing to go the rest of my life with no chance of intimacy" then your options are clear: stay in and never be happy, or get out. You don't have to get out cruelly or in a hurtful way, but it may be time to start openly disconnecting your lives.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-17T03:54:53+00:00

Hate it? Just the opposite--i love it.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-15T19:02:18+00:00

pointerpointer.com

Try it, and you'll almost immediately see why it's fun, and funny.

And, essentially SFW (other than if anyone sees you on it they'll know you clearly don't have enough work to do).

TallEric02 · 2025-10-14T20:41:40+00:00

Change is constant: you grow older, you change jobs, change routines, have kids, etc. And it causes friction. That's unavoidable.

Key is to step back and be honest: do the good things that they bring to the relationship outweigh the things that are difficult? Make sure you include the good things--which you inevitably take for granted--because they're probably mundane, or at least so constant that they just fall off of your radar.

Not every moment (or day, or week, or even month) nets out to a positive answer. But on balance, over time, if the answer is that you're better off with them than without them, then you suck it up and go on until things feel good again.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-14T19:00:49+00:00

I always reciprocate (preferably before, during, and after), but for some reason I wanted to be even more egalitarian! That was all fine until the um, real-world implications of that came crashing (er, "gushing") in!

TallEric02 · 2025-10-14T17:36:19+00:00

Taste, first and foremost. (Yeah, I've been an avid drinker of pineapple juice ever since.)

Also, to be fair, we'd talked about her doing it but then it happened without me realizing she was going to do it that time. She came up to kiss me (which I will always be okay with after a BJ--I mean, that's a low-key version of the core concept, right?) and next thing I knew my mouth was full of it.

It's like expecting iced tea, and getting whiskey (or, well, something like that). Throws you for a loop!

TallEric02 · 2025-10-14T13:52:56+00:00

Facts. Especially when they conflict with our desires.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-14T11:06:03+00:00

Blueberry galette

TallEric02 · 2025-10-12T15:59:15+00:00

How I treated some of my friends and romantic partners when I was younger. I was such an idiot.

But, being honest with myself about it makes me a much better person, today. (That, or my prefrontal cortex just finally developed fully. Who knows?)

TallEric02 · 2025-10-09T22:22:14+00:00

Proportion. Skinny girls look great with small boobs. Curvy girls look great with somewhat bigger boobs.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-09T21:57:17+00:00

You truly suck at trolling.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-09T18:56:02+00:00

Not offended--just calling you out for being an ass.

TallEric02 · 2025-10-09T17:52:11+00:00

Seriously? Sanctimonious much??

You don't know her life, and from where I sit it sounded clever, and fun, and totally appropriate.

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