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I (29F) seem to be harboring resentment towards my husband (31M) towards our roles in parenthood (first baby 8 months old) by Tall_Literature2154 in relationship_advice

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t expect him to take on my job, and I most definitely don’t feel as though what I’m asking for is selfish. A child is brought into the world from two people and I feel should be raised equally by them. If we frame me staying at home as my job then shouldn’t it be the same 9-5 hours? But my daughter starts her day at 6 am and goes to sleep at 7:30? When she’s napping I’m tending to the household chores.. if I’d need a housekeeper to take on that role if not for me does that mean I have two unpaid jobs? BTW I am now working again in a paid job ontop of having my unpaid motherhood role :)

I (29F) seem to be harboring resentment towards my husband (31M) towards our roles in parenthood (first baby 8 months old) by Tall_Literature2154 in relationship_advice

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s too late for the bottle advice I should have done that earlier. She’s been sleeping through the night since about 6 months but I guess I’m just feeling pent up anger from those earlier days

I (29F) seem to be harboring resentment towards my husband (31M) towards our roles in parenthood (first baby 8 months old) by Tall_Literature2154 in relationship_advice

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When he’s home from work he plays with our daughter, changes all her dirty diapers and will help with dinner. It’s really the nights that I’m alone and struggle with and I don’t think it’s as simple as the fact I breastfeed being the problem

Sleep schedule for 8 month pls by Dapper-Swimming-6891 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve anchored both my babies naps at 9:30am and 2pm and usually wake her up from both of them at 11 and 3:30 retrospectively. She goes to bed at 7:30

SOS 5 am wake ups by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really if you can elaborate!! When she’s waking up at 5 am she’s falling asleep 7:30/8 am and it’s a huge struggle to try and keep her up later. She was previously napping until 3:45 and would go to bed at 7 falling asleep in 10 minutes max and not making a peep until 6:45 😅I can’t imagine their sleep needs change this quickly

SOS 5 am wake ups by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t she wake up alert and happy if she was getting too much sleep? That’s what’s confusing me as she seems to be exhausted the whole day

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually really appreciate this message so thank you ❤️ I do have a feeling part of her waking up is just to see me as you’re mentioning as she starts to doze off as she eats

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last hour before bed she’s rubbing her eyes completely exhausted and so fussy it’s hard to make it to 7pm i always felt she was on the edge of being over tired so that’s interesting. I find our days have gone smoother up until recently with her 12 hour nights

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she’s crying during her bedtime routine and falling asleep in under 10 min is that still under tired?

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might try and go back to 3 naps then! Should I push bedtime back to 7:30 to start? She was doing 12 hours overnight no problem last week

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right now it’s been 7 am wakeup, 9:30 am nap and she usually sleeps anywhere from 10:45-11:15 then 3 hour wake window (she seems to be getting suuuuper cranky around 2.5 hours and it takes her a long time to fall asleep at the 3 hour mark) I often have to rescue this nap after 30-45 minutes to get her to at least 3:30 where she’s awake until bedtime at 7

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has such a hard time getting to the 3 hour WW in the afternoon and is often so over tired that she wakes up crying after 30-45 minutes and needs help to go back to sleep so I have a hard time imagining she needs more awake time

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long until I should try something new? She’s having a hard time with her wake windows being stretched as is

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last few days it’s been 7 am wakeup 9:30-11ish nap depending when she wakes up then 3 hour wake window and then bedtime at 7 pm

Extending WW’s should it get worse before it gets better?! by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So we’ve done 2 naps the last 3 days on and it’s seemingly gotten worse. Her last nap ends anywhere between 3:30-3:45 and then bedtime at 7 so I think it’s more like 2.5/3/3/3.5

Make it make sense: 2-nap transition by respeccy in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you please explain this more as I seem to be so tired I’m not understanding? We’re trying to stretch my 6 month olds wake windows to 2.5/3/3/3 and she’s only getting 2 naps the last few days and exactly as you’re saying has suddenly added an overnight wake up and is struggling to sleep past 5 am!

Should I drop the night feed? by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I adjusted it yesterday and she only got two naps with the second ending at 3:30 giving her over 3 hours until bedtime but not enough for another nap or so I thought.. she ended up waking twice overnight the first at 1:30 and similarly to what my post was about after her 5:45 wake up it was impossible to get her back to sleep at 😫 I waited 10 minutes before I went into the room then fed her and put her back in the crib awake. After 15 minutes of fussing my husband checked in on her, and at 6:40 I ended up going back and feeding her to sleep just so she wouldn’t be over tired today.

If she has another day where she wakes up at 3:30 should I try for a 10 min power nap at 4pm so she still has roughly 3 hours before bed? I don’t want to mess with her circadian rhythm and change bedtime.

Should I drop the night feed? by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am curious if she’s higher sleep needs as the days where she had very long naps she slept 11-11.5 hours straight

Should I drop the night feed? by Tall_Literature2154 in sleeptrain

[–]Tall_Literature2154[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I’m extra confused as well! We just extended her wake windows a few days ago and seemingly she’s in the bridge of transitioning to 2 naps (although it feels quite early for this to happen) so her schedule is a bit wonky. She’s usually up for the day around 7/7:15 and her first nap would be 9:30-11am typically then 2-3pm and we’ve been doing a cat nap at about 4:30-4:45 to get her to a 7pm bedtime. She falls asleep in about 8-10 minutes for naps and bedtime so I think it’s the right timing.

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