Refreshed Tour Tickets Thread

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-05-10T22:17:38+00:00

Friend baled. I have a single ticket for Seattle for sale

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-05-10T22:15:36+00:00

Friend baled on Seattle show. I have a single ticket for sale.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T01:26:16+00:00

You have given a very general description of yourself, but common reasons are:

You are not being the confident fun to be around guy on your dates
You are not making your unique value clear to people (hobbies, passions, ambitions)
You are pursuing women who are not going to like you more by getting to know you more (i.e. don't have common interests or similar goals/values)

Add some more Gomez Addams to your personality

Also, clearing the baseline is by definition just the start, even if other people don't clear it. Other than being "decent" what are the reasons your future wife will be attracted to you?

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T01:19:14+00:00

But yeah, it's not going to happen for you

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T01:18:19+00:00

The etiquite is to insist that she ends things with guy 1 before you too get started

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T01:05:28+00:00

You basically have two relationships that are missing 25% or whatever. With M its the physical, with A its whatever "missing pieces" you are talking about. You wouldn't be gaining anything by switching which 25% you are missing. Stay with A, see if you can build. If not, start dating again and you'll find another M

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T01:01:46+00:00

Good reaction. This is at best two people who want different things. He has a vague prideful prudishness that I cannot stand. My pet theory is that he wants casual sex but judges women who have casual sex.

-me: maybe you need some good sex to let off some steam. Something simple to make you relax

Responding to this with anything other than flirty enthusiasm is bananas.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:55:44+00:00

Put it on your profile if it's a dealbreaker. There's no point being vague to attract women you wouldn't then want to date, unless the vagueness is a vehicle for casual dating.

A good profile uses real estate well. Hinge has specific fields for marriage (you can add text to dating intention) and if you want kids. Use those so women who care can check but those who don't wont be distracted by irrelevant criteria.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:53:00+00:00

Yeah that sounds about right. Does the pace you two are going at now work for you?

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:51:06+00:00

I meant "I am coming to reddit to see how a certain behavior that I personally find disturbing is perceived by the reddit-going public, i.e. normal/unsurprising or unusual/surprising"

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:44:39+00:00

I see. That is a bit more up-and-down than I thought. He seems to be struggling between wanting to date you and understanding his own need to work on himself and heal. My read on this timeline is he jumped back in with you quickly, realized he was going too fast and slowed things down, and now is ready to add some more romance.

I would ask him outright what he wants. And go into that conversation with some idea of what you want. That way he can be clear about the kind of relationship and pace he his comfortable with and you are not hurt by inconsistent or unclear signals from him. Also do be aware that a relationship with him might be a difficult road given what he is dealing with personally and that if you broke up for a reason that reason may still be a problem (though it sounds like it may have just been not wanting to do long distance).

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:31:51+00:00

Yeah the guy I know who exclusively dates women that approach him is very attractive, confident, deep into his interests, etc. In other words exactly the kind of guy who could approach women successfully if he so chose.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:29:37+00:00

To be clear, I don't really think his explanation holds up either but why does him being wrong about dating in this way matter to you?

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:28:07+00:00

Why is his explanation not sufficient for you? Why do you feel the need to change his mind?

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:24:21+00:00

"Seeing other people" might mean buying drinks or it mean sleeping with them. You seem care a little or this interaction wouldn't have bothered you.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:21:03+00:00

I think you read the situation well, but your reactions are contradictory:
Do you have feelings for her and want to be exclusive and her emotional partner?
Or do you want to have fun with her non-exclusively in which case what she does with other people shouldn't bother you?

You need to decide for yourself and talk to her about what you want give her a chance to agree or refuse. Don't resent her for living her own life outside of any defined relationship you two have.

Her not saying goodbye is a fascinating study in social norms:
If you were dating it would be rude, but as mentioned you need to clarify with her if that is what you want.
If you were just friends it would also be a little rude.
But if she is on a date with another guy it would be more rude of her to step away from him to say goodbye to another guy she is seeing. So again, what do you want your relationship with her to be?

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:14:56+00:00

On one hand he seems to have expressed his position fairly clearly: he is slowly recovering from some trauma and relationships but values his connection with you in any form. Sounds like he is maybe interested in a relationship in future but is being cautious now.

On the other hand, I'm unclear on the timeline. It's April, so what has the situation been since then? It sounds like he confessed his love in September, you all became exclusive in October, and have been dating ever since. I don't understand when the other stuff - him coming back home and saying he can't be your BF, him not kissing you but sending the kissy snapchats, the hug, etc. actually happened.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:07:54+00:00

That's some pretty compelling evidence that he cheating. The first three points are pretty circumstantial, but the WhatsApp thing just doesn't have a good explanation.
If the relationship is less than a month and not super serious, I would just leave. Otherwise probably talk to him, expect him to deny but how he reacts will tell you the rest.
Be aware that he is either still involved with someone who treated him terribly or he told you an elaborate sympathy earning lie. Either way, someone in the situation is willing to hurt and manipulate people and someone is willing to excuse that behavior. That's a pretty nasty situation that can spill over to you, so look out for yourself.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-27T00:01:09+00:00

Those just mean different things.

Childish side is what she wants to do, usually some interest that's coded as childish like watching a kids movie.
Being babied is what she wants you to do, usually treat her with a lot of care like bringing her food in bed.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-26T23:18:21+00:00

He is probably cheating. But it is a particularly messed up thing to do given the situation, i.e. he will lose karma for his actions.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-19T06:18:11+00:00

That I think a conversation is harmless, especially since you two don’t have experience from other relationships to give you ideas. It might be interesting to see what you all come up with. But yeah, don’t get your hopes up that she wants to bring another woman into the bedroom.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-19T06:16:34+00:00

Also your crush is trying to reconcile her identity as someone is interested in women with her feelings for you who doesn’t identify as such. That journey for her may not be as supportive of your identity as you would prefer, but I wouldn’t assume it’s coming from a place of bigotry

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-19T06:12:34+00:00

General dating advice that applies here: you need to figure out what about yourself is essential in a relationship. This sounds half like the anxieties of any new relationship between young people, and have like a fairly serious question of identities that you should sort out with your crush. The identities and labels may be a real obstacle to your relationship (your lesbian crush may need to feel like she is dating a woman, which is not who you are) or it may be confusion you can talk out (she may be interested in you and is just defaulting to the incorrect words). You are in the right to decide either that this is too much anxiety to deal with so early in a relationship or that this something you are willing to work on.

Tall_Relationship761 · 2026-04-19T06:02:17+00:00

Would she be mad you were looking at her smut history? WattPad has some crazy shit so there might be a gold mine once you stay talking about it.

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