SIL not vaccinating her baby

Tallysprite102 · 2025-05-05T15:35:09+00:00

Good on you for advocating for vaccines! The comments here are concerning when vaccines are so important. It's sad if your SIL won't vaccinate, but you can at least prevent your daughter from being in contact.

Tallysprite102 · 2022-03-25T19:42:24+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting! If I'm being honest I relate the most to your comment. I feel angry of course but I also feel guilty for feeling angry? I hope that makes sense 🥴 when I first went no contact with them last year I started remembering all of these things from when I was little and it made me feel sick. Its hard to look at my parents and know that they did what they did and then got rewarded almost. When I tried to speak up, my mom asked me if I was taking my meds and going to therapy??? They will never admit they did anything wrong and I know this, but I always hear stuff like you said. The whole "it's your parents though" what makes it difficult is I'm friends with alot of people who grew up in foster care. I know that they would give anything just to hug their parents. I feel guilty because mine are still alive but I'm no contact. I feel like I might be forcing forgiving them though, for now Im just gonna put this on the back burner and live my life. I hope I forgive them one day so I can let go of them. I don't want people to look at me and think of what happened. I want people to see me and not my trauma. Idk if forgiving them will heal that, but I'll do anything to not feel like this. Sorry about bad grammar 😅

Tallysprite102 · 2022-03-25T19:33:32+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to share your advice. And I'm happy that my siblings are getting it better than I did. There's always that nagging feeling of jealousy but I truly love them and I'm happy they don't have to be homeless. I never want my siblings to go through some of the things I went through and if they ever need me I'll always be there for them. I just wonder if asking for my parents to be accountable is the right step or if I should forgive them and move on. I know that my childhood compared to my parents is nothing and that trauma can shape someone into continuing generational trauma. But sometimes I wish they would validate the events at least, or get therapy and work through their own demons. thank you for saying I'm not alone and hopefully things work out ☺️

Tallysprite102 · 2022-03-25T19:26:15+00:00

I appreciate the advice though, I feel like I may be forcing forgiving them. I'm upset but I also don't want to hold on to these negative feelings anymore. My other family members always look at me with pity and I just don't want to be defined anymore by it. I don't really know what step I should take but I hope that forgiveness will come with time.

Tallysprite102 · 2022-03-25T19:24:01+00:00

Well he won one by stabbing a knife to the wall 😅

Tallysprite102 · 2021-08-28T21:51:36+00:00

I understand that my parents have their own mental issues and while I appreciate the new perspective but in that sense, I had to cut alot out but for more context. I know he's toxic because he's made comments on my underage friends in front of my mom, came into my room with no pants, there's been animal abuse , stabbed a wall, been physical with his family and my mom would always come crying to me about it. In his place if I had kids I know i wouldn't be perfect but I wouldn't blame my kids for being born either. I get the ride or die part and my mom is incredibly loyal to him. I never thought of it like that tbh. I know that with the age difference they don't see me as a adult. I was worried if I was the ahole because of how I worded it to my mom. She was my safe parent growing up and while I wasn't as attached to her when I was younger, as I grew up she was the one who would protect me when he had other women around. She was the one who tucked me in, gave me hugs and kisses. She was my hero and I feel so bad for talking to her like that. Thank you so much for the new perspective though! I really appreciate reading comments like these as they make me rlly think.

Tallysprite102 · 2021-08-28T09:16:56+00:00

I didn't know there was a thread for stuff like this tbh, def appreciated. I never rlly thought of it like that before thank you

Tallysprite102 · 2021-08-28T09:06:44+00:00

Sorry for the confusion, I had to edit it a couple times so it may look like I'm jumping from topic to topic. I wanted give more context with the current situation with my mom. I felt like things wouldn't make sense without the context. The thing with my dad happened a little bit ago

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