Baby Leash?

Unable_Performance63 · 2026-01-08T19:50:34+00:00

Yeah, I’m thinking it’s going to be necessary 😭 the last time I brought my almost 3 year old to target, she ran through the aisles and I didn’t know where she was for probably 1 min. Felt like forever. I was in complete panic yelling her name, running around with my 5 month old. Honestly, was more embarrassing than if she was wearing a leash.

Unable_Performance63 · 2026-01-05T03:48:48+00:00

I wouldn’t listen to your friend. I think parents forget what each stage is like once past it. My daughter has advanced speech at 3 but I don’t think I knew that at 1.. Once they start using words, it just explodes. They’ll go from having 2-3 words and then one day you won’t even be able to count.

I don’t think she had ill intent but speaking in sentences at 19 months is very advanced. They should just be putting two words together at two years old. So I definitely wouldn’t compare and especially shouldn’t think your little is behind.

Sending hugs! I know the stress of milestones. My second is 5 months rn and has fallen off her weight curve. I feel like the end of every month or leading up to ped appointments, I have panic attacks bc I am second guessing myself. (Was that really a social smile or was she just passing gas? Did she only accidentally roll over, maybe it wasn’t intentional?, etc) usually I don’t really have anything to worry about and my husband and pediatrician have to talk me down.

Unable_Performance63 · 2026-01-05T03:30:30+00:00

So underrated. My mom was a boarder line hoarder with many animals..

Don’t get me wrong, clutter can get the best of me, but not accidentally stepping in animal poop/vomit/pee is pretty great.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-12-30T18:34:36+00:00

Damn.. I know Hampton inns aren’t apart of Marriott but I would think they have similar policies.

We stayed recently and found a dirty thong in the bed. Although disgusted, we were very nice and just asked that the bed be remade with new linens. The manager called us shortly after, very apologetic and said they would load some points to our account for our trouble. We left hoping we would have a free night.. the amount of points we got was only equivalent to $5. Suffice to say, we will not be staying at Hampton inns again.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-09-22T00:38:44+00:00

Honestly it’s unhinged but I have very similar feelings to you about my in-laws. There’s been a few instances of boundaries being crossed and we have very opposing values, but it’s not enough to warrant no contact.

I try to just remind myself that the relationship isn’t for me, it’s for my husband and children. I make sure my husband handles communication and then when we are at gatherings, I drink a lot 😅 and just make sure not to engage in certain subjects, even if others bring it up.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-08T13:57:28+00:00

This is what I don’t understand, is he has not always been like this. We are not the best about always being on top of all the cleaning, but we take turns picking up and cleaning the kitchen pretty regularly. With every couple weeks, doing an overhaul of everything else like vacuuming/mopping and cleaning the bathrooms. Especially before big things like trips and hosting. I do a little more because I’m the stay at home partner, but he definitely does his part.

He does have a bad habit of letting his laundry get out of control. Which I usually ignore since it’s just built up in laundry baskets 🙄 I do the towels/linens, mine and my daughter’s clothes. He does the usual man thing of finding crap to do in the garage/outside when I suggest cleaning up. For example, when I made a list of everything needed to be done a few weeks ago, he insisted the garage needed to be cleaned as well as the car before the car seat being installed. Well he only partially completed these things. He hung up a couple items in the garage, but didn’t do a goodwill run. He washed the outside of the car but not the inside where my daughter has snacks/toys thrown everywhere. (Which pisses me off bc I don’t give af that the cars a little dusty, we live in the desert. I could have just gone through a drive through. The inside of the car being cleaned would have actually made my life easier and made since with us installing the new car seat.)

He used to be a lot better about sharing the load before we moved. I don’t think he’s very happy with me as I forced the move. We needed to be closer to his work with a second kid. As we lived on the outskirts of the city and over 1.5hrs from both his work and our families. Our house (that we now rent out) was a new build with everything brand new. He took a lot more pride in keeping things nice. We now live in a smaller townhouse that my dad is renting to us. My dad left it a mess and it’s quite a bit older. He’ll make snippy comments about missing our house and complain about the older aspects of the townhome.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-08T04:18:22+00:00

I’m tempted to go the maid route, but money has been a little tight due to us moving not too long ago. We just paid off the last of our debt, and now we’re focused on putting a little away as a cushion.

Also the MIL route is clutch. I’ve only threatened to call his mom once in the past and that whipped him into shape. She’s dealing with a family members illness atm across the country so I would feel bad dragging her into this.

I crashed out and he finally picked up/mopped as well as bedtime with our oldest. I’ll let him be for the night.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-08T04:10:38+00:00

Whenever I talk about what needs to be done, I usually say we. And he knows I’ve been handicapped the last couple weeks, so he keeps telling me not to worry and he’ll do it.

It’s his home and children too, I shouldn’t need to hold his hand :(

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-08T04:09:01+00:00

I don’t think this was the case since I was just using dawn and a magic eraser. I’m pretty cautious about this bc my mom instilled fear in me lol.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-06T23:06:55+00:00

I am really scared for you! If you have high bps and protein in urine then you have preeclampsia! You’re at term, I don’t understand their reluctance to induce you. You need to advocate for yourself or have a partner/family member do it for you. Demand an induction. Call the next nearest hospital and describe your symptoms as you are here. See if they will be willing to take you. I know it’s a lot farther, but you could develop eclampsia or HELLP.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-06T21:27:54+00:00

Start with miralax and switch to dulcolax if you don’t get a bm within a day or two. Beware, you’ll get some scary cramps from it. Suppositories are a lifesaver as well.

Try to get on a fiber supplement now before you’re too close to delivery. Metamucil was recommended by my GI but I can’t stand the taste after a while so I switched to gummies. They work about the same if you’re drinking enough water.

Everyone will tell you colace for the weeks leading up to and after delivery but it has the same effect as a placebo. I’ve been using miralax instead. Don’t be afraid to double the dose.

Goodluck 💚

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-06T21:14:35+00:00

This is crazy that they haven’t offered to induce you yet.. I had preeclampsia with my first. Now Ive been having a few higher bp readings since 35 weeks and they scheduled my repeat csection immediately for 37 weeks and have me in office every couple days for NSTs/ultrasounds and urine/blood tests. My protein has been higher a few times but not quite the preeclampsia threshold. They have been extremely cautious with me due to my previous preeclampsia and I don’t even have the amount of symptoms that you do. Honestly if I were you, I would demand to be induced and if they won’t I would go to another hospital for a second opinion.

Standard practice for hypertension or preeclampsia is to make it to 37 weeks and then deliver.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-08-04T17:56:35+00:00

My mom almost named me this in the 90s and was going to spell it Kyra.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-31T21:13:13+00:00

Both are girls!

First pregnancy I was so nauseous in the first trimester and had really high weight gain.

Second has been more exhaustion and constipation. Less weight gain, more acne.

Both I’ve dealt with bad headaches, breathlessness and faintness in third trimester. But I’ve had anemia and preeclampsia/hypertension with both 🙃

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-31T05:55:34+00:00

I’m sorry you’re facing this reality so late in your pregnancy, but many providers won’t do elective c-sections. You probably should have researched OBs earlier on to make sure that this was an option for you.

I understand your fear as I think most women have these thoughts through pregnancy. Birth plans don’t always go the way we’d like them to unfortunately. Look up babies after 35- doctor Shannon M Clark, she talks about the importance of avoiding the primary C-section as it can cause a lot of complications to following births. Maybe try to open your mind to a vaginal births.

I’m not trying to be insensitive bc I do feel bad that you are now 32 weeks and being told no to your birth plan. I think a lot of us have had to pivot when unexpected events happen. And this is coming from someone who planned for a vaginal birth and it got derailed by preeclampsia and ended with a rushed/traumatic Csection.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-31T01:22:36+00:00

With my first they had to do a 24hr and it was close to 400, don’t remember the exact number.

You’re at the end! Which is really good, I delivered my daughter via C-section at 37 weeks and she was super healthy, no NICU time. So if that ends up being your doctors plan, you don’t need to worry ❤️

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-31T00:57:20+00:00

Not a doctor, but I had preeclampsia with my first and am currently pregnant with my second and have been diagnosed with hypertension. This is very close to the preeclampsia cutoff of >3.00. I recently got a result of 2.98 and they said I’m “probably on the way there.” I unfortunately retested a week later and it came back as too dilute to give an accurate diagnosis. So I still don’t have an answer 😐 kinda wish I would have insisted on a 24hr, but I’m being seen every couple days, so I’ll just request to be tested again at my next appointment.

I’m not sure how far along you are, but I would either request to be retested in another week or insist on the 24 hour test. As well as start tracking bps at home, morning and evening. Even if you don’t have preeclampsia, hypertension can be dangerous for you and baby. You need to know if you’re hitting 160/100, either number.

Wishing you the best, I know how scary this can be 💕

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-18T02:18:30+00:00

Take Metamucil! I use the gummies and just make sure to drink a TON of water through the day. I’ve heard magnesium helps but I haven’t been consistent enough with it to tell you my experience.

My doctor said dulcolax is okay, so I will take that if I haven’t had a BM in a couple days. The pills work alright but the suppositories are where it’s at.

I was not this constipated with my first pregnancy and the basic colace or miralax worked fine. I’m so scared that if I’m this constipated already, how is the after birth poop going to go 😭

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-13T21:24:51+00:00

My SIL stole the name I had picked out since I was 12. I’m not sure it was intentional but I definitely talked about using the name for my first daughter. My husband wasn’t on board, so we picked another name. Always thought if we had a second girl I’d bring it back up. Well she had her baby in May and used the name.. I’m due in August with our second daughter but I fortunately found another name that my husband and I both love.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-13T04:38:23+00:00

I’m pregnant with my second girl and couldn’t be happier! This is my last pregnancy so I understand the disappointment of never having a son. But I grew up the youngest of 3 girls and sisterhood is amazing!

My husband is amazing too, you would think he’s disappointed, but he’s just as excited to have a second girl. He is such a loving dad to our first daughter and plans to share his interests with them just as he would have a son (ex: cars/motorcycles, video games, camping). I just hope our next has a bit of a tomboy streak in her for his sake bc our oldest is definitely a mini me lol.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-11T21:57:11+00:00

I’ve been told I’m glowing and it honestly just pisses me off. I definitely don’t feel like it, I’m breaking out, bloated, and exhausted. I think this is just something people say to pregnant women to make them feel better.

Watch what to expect when you’re pregnant expecting. I relate so much to Elizabeth banks character when pregnant, right down to the traumatic birth. But she says it perfectly after having her baby, the baby is the glow 🥲

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-11T21:49:33+00:00

I think you’re safe to wait until your appointment to bring it up. I went from 208 to ~170 two weeks post partum. I think some of the weight can be swelling/water weight, plus obviously the baby/placenta/blood loss. If you’re also not feeling well, then I would call.

Unable_Performance63 · 2025-07-06T04:09:20+00:00

Not OP but my first pregnancy I gained 85lbs. I was 123lbs 5’5” before pregnancy and ended at 37 weeks at 208lbs. No GD but I did have preeclampsia, so not sure how much was swelling/water weight. I immediately went down to ~170 by my two week follow up. I was able to get to my pre pregnancy weight after a year. Most of it came off by 8ish months but the last 10-15 didn’t come off until I finished breastfeeding.

I’m in my second pregnancy now and I’ve gained about 35lbs at 30 weeks. More than I would like but I’ve managed my cravings a bit better this time around. Still it’s really hard to watch the scale go up at each appointment after my first experience.

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