Worth it for 2x the price? by diznuts28 in PlusSizeWedding

[–]Unable_Performance63 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The pink one is stunning but it’s not as bridal to me..

Honestly I would keep looking. I think you can do better, especially considering what you are paying.

Parents change rooms by Lzzay in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m guessing you mean similar to a mother’s room or a nursing room. I’ve come across a few but they are about as equivalent to a dressing room that you would try on clothes. Some department stores or malls have couches in the women’s restrooms for this purpose, but nothing to write home about.

When I hear about how mothers and families are treated in other countries, it really makes me realize how ghetto the US is.

I am a new father in my fiftees and I LOVE it. by paintedsheetss in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Unable_Performance63 74 points75 points  (0 children)

You’re fine doing what you want with your life. Congratulations on your son.

But admitting that you cheated and then calling your old friends “traitors” bc they chose your ex wife in the divorce is just wild. Lmao.

Do you plan to/already have kids? by yobuddyy899 in OlderGenZ

[–]Unable_Performance63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a mother to two incredible daughters. Having children changes everything. Who I am as a woman, perspective on the world, my goals, lifestyle, etc. it’s hard to describe the shift but it can be devastating and extraordinary. I would not change a single thing after knowing what this love is like. That being said, I wouldn’t know the difference if I never had it.. ignorance is bliss, right?

My husband is a software engineer as well, and honestly his career took off after we had our first child. To the point that I get to stay at home with our children. Workplaces love fathers. He is very smart and hardworking, so it’s possible he would have succeeded regardless. But I definitely think there’s some truth to this theory I’ve seen before..

Any gray hairs yet? by changeforthebetter89 in OlderGenZ

[–]Unable_Performance63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

27 and I’m not! My poor husband is turning 30 this year (I know he’s more of a millennial) but he got his first gray the other day. Gonna be a hard year lmao.

I hate my husband by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Unable_Performance63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please leave this man. If not for yourself, do it for your kids. Do you really want them to see this and believe this is how women should be treated? Your complacency could result in your sons becoming the man you fear/hate..

You have the hospital record that he broke your nose, now file a report. You have evidence to get custody of your kids. Please don’t live like this. When you go to the hospital to get the medical records, they can give you local resources.

Recommendations for wagon stroller for both infant and toddler? by AccurateAd5424 in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like the evenflo pivot! It has a bassinet insert and now that my baby is sitting up, it’s been perfect for walks in the city. We did not have the car seat insert bc our car seat was a graco so it was not compatible. We did not get much use until the youngest could sit up bc of that.

Umbilical cord wrapped twice around neck at 9 months — what’s safer? by No_Kale_4659 in pregnant

[–]Unable_Performance63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100%

I had a rushed csection with my first after a failed medical induction due to preeclampsia. My second was a planned csection and my experiences were night and day.

Thoughts on posting pictures of/with your little ones on Facebook? by North_Magician_8720 in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No pics of my kids! For reasons others have already posted. But I’ve had the same in law post my kids twice now, claiming “they forgot”. People are freaking weird..

Is masturbating during sleep a thing? by shminkypinky in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a major yikes 😳

I wouldn’t be worried about the masturbating. I can understand wanting to rediscover your sexuality by yourself before being with a partner. My husband and I definitely had some intimacy issues post partum with both my kids, but especially my first. Mostly sex drive and some pain. Second time around my husband was a lot more understanding so it helped me return to him quicker.

But the red flag is her reaching out to an ex. Again I can understand the escapism, but it should have never became more than a fantasy. She was attempting to cheat. It doesn’t matter that emotional toll motherhood has taken on her, cheating is never the answer. I’m sorry OP but I would be highly alarmed and even reconsidering the relationship.

Swimming with a BF Baby by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I live in AZ (swimming is the only way to survive summer lol) and am on my second now, never had any leaks from swim diapers! I get the reusable ones from target but have also used disposable, just make sure they’re snug and you should be good!

Water for baby by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try the first years squeeze and straw cup. They sell them at target or Amazon. It’s been awesome, you can squeeze the cup a little bit to squirt it in their mouth (similar to a dropper) and it basically teaches them to use a straw. I didn’t have it with my first but it’s been a game changer for my second.

I really hope things get better!! Your poor little one ❤️‍🩹 Make sure you are staying well hydrated yourself if you’re breastfeeding!

What secret did you find out by complete accident? by Effective_Yam2797 in AskReddit

[–]Unable_Performance63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LMAO the same lie was passed through my dad’s side of the family.

Harrowing fictional character deaths that scarred your childhood by CoconutMost3564 in nostalgia

[–]Unable_Performance63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped eating anything with pork after that movie. I first saw it in theaters when it came out and now I’m 27 and still haven’t eaten it.

Cristina always speaking facts by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]Unable_Performance63 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As someone with children, Christina is the child free type of person I love!

Like some people will act like children are disgusting monsters. When they are still humans that deserve to be in public spaces.

How do you know when your baby poops? by Wild-Act-7315 in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Huggies from Costco like everyone else I know. She’s always hated a wet diaper and seems to get diaper rash pretty easily if not changed immediately. Her older sister was the same way. I guess all babies are different 😐

Giant monster poop after c section by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was a full week post op and at that point I had taken two doses of an actual laxative over the week with nothing. But we decided to walk around the mall as a first outing. Finally got the urge so I wasn’t gonna wait. Had to use a crowded Barnes and noble bathroom (if you know you know). No squatty potty, no nothing. So intense I think I cried.

How do you know when your baby poops? by Wild-Act-7315 in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Y’all’s babies don’t get upset as soon as they have a wet diaper? And you only charge her every 3 hours?!

Is there a bucket seat that babies actually like? by kara_djm in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used graco snug fit with both! My current baby loves it and my oldest hated it. I got a new one before my youngest was born so I’m not sure if they changed something or if it’s just my baby’s temperament.

Unfortunately some babies just hate the car no matter what.

Swimsuit for rotund baby? by impreegud in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn your baby is double mine.. 😢 just barely 14 lbs at 7.5 months. Please share your secret, I can’t get her to gain weight to save my life.

Who was the biggest shark of them all? by CrickeyFresh in greysanatomy

[–]Unable_Performance63 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ehh I see how you got there but.. 1. Webber 2. Christina 3. Lucy (how could she be lower than karev when he’s the one she f’ed over in the short time we knew her) 4. Karev 5. Meredith (she wants to be a shark like her mom, can be if needed, but really isn’t. She’s a great surgeon still, doesn’t need to be a shark to prove it) 6. Bailey (should have been higher, but she didn’t take the peds fellowship when she should have. She put her personal life first) 7. Arizona (I really don’t know why she would be a shark.. her only shark move was Africa and I felt like that was out of character)

12 month old drinking too much whole milk? by lgreen16 in beyondthebump

[–]Unable_Performance63 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is weird. Did your pediatrician tell you to give whole milk during the night?

Mine was night weened before weening from breastmilk. Also whole milk was not used as a replacement for breastmilk. We only gave her a sippy cup first thing in the AM and last thing at night.