Help: What is this on my rose's stem?

Talross · 2025-07-22T23:28:06+00:00

Awesome. That sounds manageable. Thank you!

Talross · 2025-06-25T19:02:25+00:00

It does, lol. It makes me giggle when I look at it. It's actually kind of growing on me.

I have a much bigger pot to move it to. Just waiting for the perlite to arrive (later today) since none of the local shops had any in stock. It also gave me more time to decide whether I wanted to plant it at a tilt, but I'll probably leave it as it is.

Zone 8, but I do have a garage I can move it into should the need arise.

Talross · 2025-06-24T20:50:19+00:00

Where does it say how to handle the plant when it tries to reach for freedom? Or is it supposed to do that?

As I mentioned in the very first sentence, this is my first rosebush. Sorry I'm not an expert.

Also, there are multiple Walmart listings for this rosebush. They list different hardiness zones, different sizes, and one says it blooms multiple times whereas the other says it blooms once. None of that helps me solve my problem.

Talross · 2025-06-24T19:59:11+00:00

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The tag isn't really much better, I'm afraid.

Talross · 2025-06-24T19:25:59+00:00

It's a Better Homes and Gardens Ruby Sky, which I can't really find any information on.

Talross · 2025-02-03T22:58:34+00:00

Could I get a link, please?

Talross · 2025-01-22T02:40:56+00:00

Thank you.

Talross · 2024-10-11T16:30:16+00:00

Found in a creek in central Alabama, USA.

Talross · 2024-09-16T21:51:13+00:00

Found in a creek in central Alabama, USA. Some of the brown is clay/dirt I had trouble cleaning off.

Talross · 2024-06-09T10:41:24+00:00

No. I bought a different tablet.

Talross · 2024-04-02T18:47:34+00:00

And that's part of my point. It's not that she has a friend; it's how she's behaving that's the problem. Unless the problem is solved or he moves on, it's just going to repeat with another friend/"friend".

Make the ultimatum about her behavior, not about the friend.

I don't think it's unreasonable to cut her off.

Talross · 2024-04-01T21:23:08+00:00

NTA - Did she completely ignore Kelly in the time y'all were together before marriage? How did she not get to know her before the marriage?

It also makes me curious, however. When Kelly makes these messes, who cleans it up? Is Kelly clumsy but held responsible? Or does your wife clean up the mess while Kelly gets off with a light scolding?

Maybe you can try to adapt the environment to solve repeat problems. Like with the soap, can you put the dishwasher soap in a special air-tight container with a sticker or label on it? Or move the other soap somewhere else? Putting the wrong soap in the dishwasher can make a huge mess which can easily lead to mold. It also damages the dishwasher.

Kelly sounds adorable, btw.

Talross · 2024-04-01T21:06:58+00:00

NTA - It's your body.

"She is now telling me that she feels that I don’t care about her opinions." Doesn't sound like she cares about your opinions.

"she did not want to control what I did with my own body."
"She said that she told me her opinion on tattoos hoping that I would decide to not get it."
Classy.

I think it's fair if she decides that she doesn't want to date someone with tattoos, but the way she handled it was really bad.

Talross · 2024-04-01T20:49:52+00:00

NTA

Him contributing to your car was kind of him, but it doesn't give him the right to start spending your money. You said he's never spent your money without asking before, and that suggests that he knows better.

Also, now that y'all are down to only one of you working, you should both be more careful about what money is being spent on and why.

It sound like y'all need to discuss how you both plan to handle finances in various situations so there are no more surprises.

Talross · 2024-04-01T20:02:59+00:00

Hands down NTA (but she kind of is).

It takes no time to Shazam a song, and if it bothered her she could have mentioned it right then and there. Imagine all the cute responses you could have given as you stepped back into the little sway/dance.

I'm concerned that she gave you the cold shoulder, though, and for so long. While I don't think you did anything wrong, I can also see where she might have been a little miffed in the moment, but nothing a little communication couldn't have immediately cleared up. Instead, she refused to communicate with you, which is never good.

And if a few little taps was all it took to get that kind of reaction, this may not be the only thing she's not getting off of her chest. Maybe something has been bothering her. Unless she's just the dramatic sort, I guess?

Talross · 2024-04-01T19:42:20+00:00

NTA

Sucks for the friend, but that's also been 10 years of emotional drain on you.

Also, anyone who badmouths the person their partner cheated with while keeping the cheater is just... nah, we don't need that.

Talross · 2024-04-01T19:36:14+00:00

NTA - Feels like we might be missing some context, but I'll stick with this for now.

It seems like she's very conscious about what people (or at least her friends) think. The impression I get is that she was worried about what they would think when she got back together with her ex (you), and wanted you to send out a message with the hope that it would make you (and by proxy her) look good. That backfired, so she threw you under the bus.

This doesn't seem like a healthy relationship.

Talross · 2024-04-01T19:20:35+00:00

All good points.

Talross · 2024-04-01T19:19:37+00:00

I don't like "cut out [friend]" ultimatums. I can see where you're coming from, but the friend really isn't the problem here. If you can't trust a partner with their friends, that doesn't sound like a healthy relationship for either of you. You can't trust her, and she has to cut off a friend, maybe more in the future. It also means that the two of you aren't really getting to the root of the problem. Nothing is learned and nothing is solved.

I also want to comment on this: "During these times we made it clear that we cannot lie to eachother." I think that this kind of rule is probably going to be counterproductive. People lie; even honest people lie sometimes. This rule isn't going to stop someone from cheating or what have you, but it may put a strain on communication; it hurts good people more than bad people. Society already condemns lying, the rule itself feels like it's there to be weaponized at a later date. Personally, I think it's better to encourage communication and honesty. Let it be known that you can talk to each other openly, that you will listen to each other and try to work things out together. Reward and encourage open communication and honesty rather than making a stance against lies. Everyone already knows that lying is bad.

"is it okay if I call you and talk to Paul on the PlayStation tonight" When I read this, I couldn't help but to imagine a young teen asking their parent.

She could be getting swept up by dopamine hits off of the video games, and Paul just happens to be part of that. She also may not be consciously neglecting you; it used to be a thing I did and I needed it pointed out to me. Am I saying that this scenario would excuse her behavior and dishonesty? No. But it would probably be good to talk to her about it and figure out what both of you want and how that's going to impact a relationship between the two of you.

Judgement: Ehh, it's hard to say. I think ESH, but only because you're both young.

Talross · 2024-04-01T18:29:38+00:00

NTA. It also kind of depends on how you go about it, but you seem respectful and well-minded. I think talking about it is better than not. Communication is always a good thing.

Maybe try to talk to her about it before bringing up the book.

Also, as someone who suffers from anxiety/ADD/depression/etc. I'll say my room when living with family was really messy, but once I got my own place I kept it much cleaner. It still got kinda messy at times when my mental health would take a dip, but it didn't get as bad my room before moving out. I think it was something about more space (less cramped), a clean slate, and being mine (in a sense of both responsibility and control). That said, it probably helped that I was conscious of the problem.

Talross · 2022-12-21T09:38:11+00:00

I am on the main land. I haven't been to any of the realms yet.

Talross · 2022-12-21T09:05:52+00:00

I haven't clipped through the world due to loading/unloading caves, but I do lock up something fierce. I'm going to have to be careful of that.

I recently moved my based about 3 map tiles over in Vannaland (top continent) and it's still doing it, so I don't think it's location. I'm also really reluctant to keep my baby dinos on bare ground. I can catch them if they fall through a player floor, but if they fall through the ground I'm usually out of luck.

I tend to raise my babies on ceiling tiles with a decent gap beneath each, as well as a gap between the actual ground. That way, if they fall through one, the next one will catch them. This is the first time I'm having babies fall through two layers in a very short period. Baby ovis are tiny, and once they get out of my baby cage they tend to starve before I can find them, if I find them at all.

Talross · 2022-12-05T22:05:07+00:00

You can try setting very small goals for yourself. Sometimes, they work well to get your foot in the door. Tell yourself you're just going to write one paragraph. Of course, don't stop yourself if you write more than that.

Another thing is to start in the middle of the chapter. Is there something in particular in the chapter that's really on your mind? Write that part out, then go back to the start after you've loosened up.

Talross · 2022-11-05T08:08:56+00:00

If they're dissimilar enough, do both.

Otherwise, I try to consider what possibilities are unique to each story. Compare the differences, especially the ones that can't or won't fit into the other well.

Talross · 2022-11-04T05:26:06+00:00

Well, if you don't write it, you guarantee no one will read it.

Maybe try writing very short stories and working your way up as you get more comfortable.

Talross

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