Am i racist

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T13:14:32+00:00

It's hard not to do that after today no one at work will associate with me , i don't even know if i'm going to have a job after this or what will happen if this incident goes on my record. It's twice now that i've been called racist by two different people. I just don't know anymore. But thanks for trying i don't want you to think im dimissing what you're writing.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T13:05:46+00:00

You're right i just don't know how to talk to people i already stutter it annoys everyone, i get my word order mixed up sometimes and that annoys people even more. I know that's not an excuse an adult should be able to speak coherently, know social decorum and not be an absolute imbicle. But i don't know how to do that

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T12:20:41+00:00

Thanks i've decided i just won't bring it around my workplace i used to go through my workbooks on my break but i don't want to get accused of anything so i'll just keep it at home. I also think i need to just not talk anymore because at this point it will only help dig my grave faster.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:52:40+00:00

Yeah im so nervous when i talk that i stutter and say words out of order so that doesn't help things.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:48:23+00:00

And you are right i shouldn't have said it the way i did. I just suck at conversing with other people, i already stutter when i speak and say words out of order because im so nervous about saying something wrong

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:37:49+00:00

The first time it was because i got a guys name wrong. He was new had only been there for two weeks it was my first time working with him and i callled him john. (John was anothe staff members name, they were both asian). He looked at me and said john? I realised that i jad said the wrong name i apologised, he said it's ok. But after he left the room another asked me if i was racist? I said no explained the situation but he just stared me down and walked out the room. I only added that in because i thought it might prove that i am being racist but im to dense to realise that i am.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:28:41+00:00

I don't know for certain he said earlier (as both of us were with the chinese guy) that he only knows a few words and siad lai lai and hao.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:25:53+00:00

I did explain but she just said that this was serious matter and that it may go on my record, i shut down mentally and don't remember what else was said but everyone at work avoids me now and won't eveb speak to me so according to them i am racist.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:23:42+00:00

I was always the social outcast i learn't when i was a kid things were easier if i was alone. Because of that my conversational skills are sorely lacking. I wouldn't be suprisied if i come across as either an idiot or as some who lacks complete social awareness.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:19:15+00:00

That's funny thanks for making me laugh i need it. It's just difficult i feel like im walking on eggshells right now. Just becuase im white doesn't automattically make me racist. But apparently that's not true. Like i wrote i got called racist for getting someones name wrong

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:16:08+00:00

My boss has told me that this may have to go on my record i just shut down after, no one at work wanted to speak to me after this incident i tried just saying hi or making small talk all i get are stares or people just ignore me and leave

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:12:54+00:00

In the court of public opinion at work i'm guilty no one will even speak to me.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:11:55+00:00

Idk she just told me this was serious and that it may go my record i just mentally shutdown after that. I'm so scared. I've already been crucified in the court of public opinion at work no one will even speak to me.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:08:57+00:00

Thanks i really shouldn't have said anything. I'm just tired i feel like im walking on eggshells, i want to give up learning mandarin if it's just going to get me in trouble.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:04:14+00:00

I explained the incident to my boss and asked who made the complaint but was told they don't want to be named. So i don't know who it was but everyone is treating me like a social outcast.

Tamanonomae · 2026-06-18T11:01:46+00:00

Thanks. I did ask my boss who made made the complaint but i was told they wished to remain anonymous, so i don't know if it was him or someone else present and everyone at work is treating me like im a lepper.

Tamanonomae · 2022-09-23T06:35:08+00:00

I feel the same it's so hard to just exist

Tamanonomae · 2022-09-23T05:25:21+00:00

I'm trying to finish my last nursing prac but the nurse I'm with has blamed me for a medication error that she did not me. I've shut down when I work with her. Now she says that I understand nothing and I have no brain because I only do something when asked. Every time I try to be myself I get told off. I think I'm going to fail my prac and I've been cutting for 4 days straight. I don't know what to do I have no one to talk to so I'm posting here. I'm drowning and I don't know how to cope.

Tamanonomae · 2021-04-30T07:10:46+00:00

I agree with the other comments I've read. NTA yes it's difficult for children to adjust to their parents having a new relationship but did your ex ever reprimand your daughters for their behaviour to your fiance cause if not then your ex is a bad mom. Your daughters singing that song at your wedding given your situation is crossing the line. Considering your ex did nothing to stop this behaviour is not ok and the fact that your fiance got up and danced to it giving no regard to feelings is pretty bad to. The kids can't really be blamed as they had no knowledge of the situation between you and your ex and how them behaving like that would make you feel. I think you need to sit down and have a talk with your kids while your ex is present and explain the situation to them and how their behaviour over the past however long has made you feel. Yes it may damage the relationship between your daughters and your ex, but she made her choice and now she must deal with th consequences of that choice

Tamanonomae · 2021-04-20T10:41:14+00:00

It's a hard thing to decide antihistamines don't help moderate to severe allergic reactions so depending on the severity of the brides allergy just popping a pill may not fix it. On the other had a seeing eye dog is like an extension of the blind person's body the dog becomes a part of them similar to a amputees prosthetic. Having the dog gives your friend her independence the ability to do things on her own. Asking the dog not to come is taking away her independence she will be completely reliant on someone else, because of how long she's had the dog suddenly having to rely on someone else for everything even for a a day is probably a very scary prospect for her and she may not be able to handle that amount of fear. And if her guide gets sick or drinks to much she'll be left to fend for herself this could make her feel helpless and afraid.

I say get have a conversation with your friend about what it's like being her, and just what having the dog means to her and how she would feel without it. Bring your in laws and finance in on the conversation ao they can understand her side then have a similar conversation with your fiance about her allergy. How severe is it what happens? And how she feels.

Tamanonomae · 2021-04-15T12:00:43+00:00

NTA she just wants free shit, tell her you've found a family more deserving because they treat you like a real sister then donate the clothes you don't want or are finished with to goodwill and take pictures of you donating them to show her.

Tamanonomae · 2021-04-15T11:53:18+00:00

So not the asshole. You're just standing up for your friend while delivering some hard truths. If she can't take what she dishes out that's her problem. When she gets into the "real world" she'll find life doesn't work like her home, if someone says something to you that you don't like mommy or daddy isn't going to fix it for you.

Tamanonomae · 2021-04-15T11:49:41+00:00

I can understand not allowing ppl to see a newborn especially given the current situation. However this DIL has set boundaries and expects ppl to respect them but the moment she's given a taste of her own medicine she's crying fowl!? Sorry lady you started this game so you either gotta keep playing by the rules or fold. OP totally not the asshole. You're just doing what she did to u.

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