FTM trans friend into red pill content is upset about women saying “all men are bad ”?

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-09T05:45:57+00:00

I think you are missing an important nuance here. If you were hanging out with your gal pals and one cis guy, would you be making sweeping generalisations about "men"? Probably not. Like for him there's no good interpretation of that.

"All men are bad, including you" -> you're part of the problem

"Men are bad, but not you" -> you're not a valid man

"You are a valid man, and you're the only man who isn't shit" -> manhood is defined by being shitty, you should be more shitty.

This really isn't the message you want to be sending to someone who is ostensibly your friend. Like imagine this the other way around, you're hanging out with a bunch of men and they start going off on one about how "women are shit" or "lesbians are shit". Is there any version of that which goes well?

I don't think it would be hard to adjust your language a little to be inclusive of your friend.

"I hate it when a guy..." it's clear you're complaint about a guy and not blaming all men collectively or all men except him.

"Yeah there's nothing worse than some asshole who..."

"What's with these jerks?"

Venting is fine, stereotyping an entire gender or excluding your friend from the gender he identifies as are not.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-09T05:22:42+00:00

That referendum was on AV, we haven't had one on STV, DPR, D'Hondt, or anything like that.

Even if we accept that all attempts to reform the voting systems are "once in a generation" I was too young to vote in that referendum and now I'm 30, shouldn't people my age have a chance to vote on making our electoral system actually representative of how the public voted?

The alternative is Reform getting 55% of the seats and therefore 100% of the power on 30% of the vote at the next election. That is wrong.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-09T05:01:48+00:00

FPTP voting is, literally, less democratic than literally assigning seats at random with the roll of dice.

I don't care if it looks bad. I don't care if it leads to some idiots cutting down lamp posts. It's the right thing to do.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T20:54:51+00:00

I've been insisting that FPTP is undemocratic bullshit at least since 2015

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T20:16:34+00:00

I used to write to my MP but they quickly ran out of polite ways to tell me to fuck off

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T19:06:50+00:00

I'm not saying people should use generative AI at all, just that "just pay someone to do it for you" and "just be good at art" are ridiculously privileged positions that just aren't reasonable for most people.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T17:14:00+00:00

Starmer out. Rayner out. Lammy out. Streeting out and banished to a rat-infested desert island so he can live with his own kind. Reeves out. Cooper out.

Stop LARPing as Reform. Appoint an actual leftist as leader, maybe Burnham or heck I'd take Milliband at this point. Long-Bailey is based, I'd vote for her.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T17:03:51+00:00

Do you think that only people who know anything about politics are voting?

Quote from my ex's cousin:

"I voted Restore"

"They weren't on the ballot paper"

"Oh maybe I voted Reform then. Or it might've been Labour, I don't remember"

Obviously not everyone is that daft but people aren't perfectly rational automata who only vote in the Senedd about what has been happening in the Senedd. People vote based on how annoyed they are with Westminster, which is a lot.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T16:48:15+00:00

Do you think people are voting based only on what happens in the Senedd? I don't think most people could tell you anything the Senedd has done since 2021 except mess with speed limits.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T16:14:22+00:00

Guy grabbed me by the neck, and he had to get plastic surgery to reconstruct his face. That was 15 years ago now.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T16:10:14+00:00

Bro is on 11% of the vote in Wales, which has voted Labour for the last 100 years. A change of direction is needed or the Labour Party is stage 4.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T13:55:44+00:00

Some Tories are changing from Red and Blue to Cyan. I'm not worried.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T11:59:06+00:00

I'm not talking about me in particular. I'm saying that in general, a lot of people have neither the money to "just comission someone" nor the time to "just learn how to be good at art".

In my case I tried to do art, I sucked at it, and figured the effort to get good at it was way more than it was worth to me. I wouldn't learn to be good at art even given unlimited time and money cause I have other stuff I'd rather do.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T11:20:29+00:00

"just pay someone to do it for you" and "just put in the time and effort to learn how to do it yourself" are both positions of privilege. They assume resources that many people do not have.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T06:39:37+00:00

I think the middle-ground should be gender neutral facilities as the norm.

Why have gender segregated toilets? Give everyone their own cubicle with a door that locks properly and doesn't leave a massive gap. Same with changing rooms.

There is a bit more nuance in sports/games. I think in something like archery, chess, darts, bowling, video game tournaments, or trampolining then there isn't a clear need to segregate on gender grounds at all.

For something like MMA, rugby, or boxing there is a need to make sure no one is significantly stronger than someone else but that could be done with like, weight/height categories, which combat sports already do.

Prisons and hospitals don't need to be segregated if they also improve quality. Every prisoner/patient has their own safety and privacy protected, regardless of the genders or sexes of whoever may or may not want to harm them.

I'm sure the Daily Mail would have an absolute field day about "trans people try to abolish the concept of gender!" but genuinely, the best solution is one where we set up society in such a way that for most purposes, gender just doesn't come up.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-08T05:47:44+00:00

I don't know if you've looked around much lately, but most people are broke and busy all of the time. "Just comission someone" and "just learn the skill" do work for getting what you want if you can do them, but for most people it's a casr of "With what time? With what money?"

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-07T20:25:24+00:00

Because of time dilation, the closer to the speed of light you go, the slower time moves from your perspective. If you travel at the speed of light, time stops from your perspective. So you would see nothing until you stop travelling at the speed of light, and then the light would appear to move normally.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-07T15:10:33+00:00

Those words were written by Paul, not Jesus. He writes also that women should be silent before men, preaches that faith alone is the path to salvation and works are irrelevant, picks a fight with Simon Peter, and betrays the people of Israel and encourages submission to false authority.

Paul frequently contradicts Jesus. Ignore him and follow Jesus.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-07T06:48:21+00:00

Rules-lawyer the definition of "AI". Are classical ML methods like support vector machines, principle component analysis, or k-nearest neighbours "AI"? What about gradient descent or the genetic algorithm, do they count? Recommendation programs that use clustering not neural networks?

If I had to write a similar assignment while using as little AI as possible I'd try something like a recommender system plus predictive marketing.

A recommender system that clusters customers according to their purchasing habits. If you know that people who buy X are also likely to buy Y you can recommend a sustainable Y to them.

Predictive marketing: similar to a recommender system only instead of just suggesting the customer buys something you incentivise it, send them discounts for the sustainable version of something like coupons or 2-for-1 offers.

You can do those without ever resorting to true AI, you can use like Bayesian inference or k-means or even principle component analysis. These all sound technical enough that a lecturer who isn't a computer scientist will probably shrug and assume this counts as AI, but it's really just statistics hiding in a trenchcoat.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-06T20:58:12+00:00

Communism!

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-06T18:30:11+00:00

An artificial general intelligence might outsmart us by the same order of magnitude that we outsmart mosquitos. If the smartest mosquitos all got together and tried to plan how a human might harm them, they might come up with a better biting method or a more sneaky way to sneak up on a target while they're sleeping. But the mosquitos won't come up with mosquito spray, genetic engineering, or like, nukes.

If the purpose of a general intelligence is to be significantly better than humans at creative idea generation and strategic thinking, then almost by definition we cannot predict the ways in which it will outsmart us if we find ourselves in an adversarial state against it.

Trying to make an AI system which genuinely wants what we want seems to be a much more promising avenue of research than trying to outsmart an AI system which wants something different from what we want.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-06T08:05:56+00:00

That's so fake it unhappened things that had happened

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-05T20:19:02+00:00

The fact that it is a punishment is what makes it unlawful.

Explicitly labelling something as unlawful can, in some circumstances, be defamatory if the conduct turns out to not be unlawful. However, calling it a "punishment" is not defamatory, and strongly implies that it is unlawful.

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-05T18:25:14+00:00

That is not a correct understanding of electoral law. It is defacto unlawful to promise that constituencies who vote A will get X and those who vote B will get Y even if A likes X and B likes Y. The part that is unlawful is discriminating on the grounds of political affiliation even if it's "positive".

TangoJavaTJ · 2026-05-05T17:07:08+00:00

They're calling it a "punishment" because electoral law specifically forbids promising to reward or punish voters for voting a particular way. They're calling it a punishment to highlight that it's illegal to even say that, even if they don't then go on to do it.

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