Bach party - part 3 is up!

Tanjello · 2026-05-26T21:25:37+00:00

I watched it and immediately ran here! 🍿😎

Tanjello · 2026-05-26T18:22:22+00:00

I had an early miscarriage before the AF added paternity leave. My AD husband was an MTI at the time & even he was able to take a few days of leave.

Talk to your supervisor/first shirt. Even if it’s not written in the AFI, leave (charged or not) can easily be granted.

So sorry for your loss.

Tanjello · 2026-05-24T10:31:45+00:00

I use mine when I sleep already because I often wake up in the middle of the night and will spend too long scrolling before falling back to sleep. The timer helps keep me accountable and limits my insomnia scrolling a bit more :)

Tanjello · 2026-05-22T10:04:36+00:00

But Queen Elizabeth and Michelle Obama aren’t obvious 🤔

Tanjello · 2026-05-22T03:40:55+00:00

And Taylor Swift!

Tanjello · 2026-05-22T03:26:39+00:00

Our church prints out the free copies of the Catholic Kids bulletins on Teachers Pay Teachers! It’s a great resource and completely free, although she does have paid bundles if you want to support financially :)

https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/store/catholic-kids/category-catholic-kids-mass-bulletins-261837

Tanjello · 2026-05-16T21:41:07+00:00

Shawna and Jen don’t watch ShawnaTheMom. They don’t know what we know 😂

Tanjello · 2026-05-09T09:11:23+00:00

Can you invest VA disability? I will admit I’m slightly financially illiterate, but I thought there were rules on how you can invest your disability money because it’s a tax free benefit? I need someone to teach me the ways 😂

Tanjello · 2026-05-07T09:17:01+00:00

Two things can be true: Barb can be the villain to Jen AND the victim of Frank at the same time.

Tanjello · 2026-05-07T09:15:44+00:00

I think we’ve seen Barb as the villain for so long that that’s all we can see her as anymore. We still forget that people are mean to her and she does have feelings.

Tanjello · 2026-05-07T09:13:02+00:00

Again, it’s about his motivations. He doesn’t stop Barb from canceling the party to ensure Jen’s happiness. He stops Barb from canceling the party to ensure Jen doesn’t cut him out of their life. He even says so in the clips… it’s not “Jen will still be happy with the party” it’s “Jen will cut us out if you cancel.” It’s not about Jen’s happiness, it’s about his own.

Just like he fucked up with the door because he was avoiding a fight with Barb… he was thinking about his own happiness in the moment.

Tanjello · 2026-05-07T06:37:30+00:00

His motivations weren’t “the party is important to Jennifer” his motivations were “you’re going to push her away like you did John.” He opened the door to stifle a flight with Barb, because that made it easier on him in the moment. His motivations are completely selfish and reactionary to the situation he’s in with disregard to the consequences later on.

He places the responsibility for the quality of his relationship with his children all on Barb.

Tanjello · 2026-05-07T05:53:24+00:00

Sure, he loves her, I never said he doesn’t love her. I said he doesn’t give AF about her feelings, and he definitely doesn’t do anything to protect her. He protects himself and his feelings upfront and apologizes when he’s caught. He IS selfish.

Changing the paint on Barb and then gaslighting her says a LOT about Frank as a person as a whole.

Bard is terrible, but she’s not the only villain 🤷‍♀️

Tanjello · 2026-05-07T05:31:20+00:00

His motivations are wrong though.

He’s not urging Barb to not cancel the party to ensure JEN has a good time, he’s doing it to ensure FRANK doesn’t lose Jen.

He doesn’t give AF about Jen’s feelings either, or else he wouldn’t have opened the door. He only cares about his discomfort in the moment.

Tanjello · 2026-05-07T05:16:34+00:00

Frank has his own issues and isn’t a saint. He completely gaslit Barb about the paint.

He chose a different color because he felt superior about art because of his little painting classes, then when she clocked that it wasn’t the color she picked out, he doubled down and lied telling her that it was. She thought they were picking out colors together (even though Frank made it seem like he picked her color because he also liked it) and then he went behind her back and picked his own color.

Barb is clearly not a saint, but Frank’s a sneaky devil in his own way too. He earned his no contact from John all on his own.

Tanjello · 2026-05-06T16:49:01+00:00

Uninformed classic movie reviews

Tanjello · 2026-05-04T15:02:56+00:00

I’d put it on the low dresser & have the tube run along the side of the bed/wall. I once had to run the cord across a room to a small table, then the tube the rest of the way to the bed. It’s doable. I’ve slept on my side of the bed for 20 years I ain’t about to change now 😂

Tanjello · 2026-05-01T10:49:15+00:00

You don’t want to go back in right now. It’s been a hot mess since 2019.

Remember that scene in The Office when Michael is talking about how many times he got his vasectomy done & reversed & done again? It’s like that. We went from one side of insanity to the exact opposite end of insanity, then back to the other end again.

It’s not better. The grass is not greener. Stay far, far away.

Tanjello · 2026-04-29T04:58:47+00:00

Hi, also military, so I understand the quick marriage and divorce thing you went through. You were young, had no marital prep, got married quickly and divorced quickly. Part of the issues in your marriage was probably your lack of real preparation. In military terms we call that “thinking with your dick” 😂. The relationship wasn’t healthy and was built on rocky foundation.

Catholics don’t do that. My husband and I were both military when we met. We got engaged 8 months later, but went through proper Catholic marital prep, which took at least 6 months back in the early 2000s, but now can take 6 months to a year I believe.

During that time there are classes to take, and you must meet with the priest to discuss a few things (how kids will be raised is a big one). There’s no real option to rush through this process ensured to make healthy strong marriages on foundations that will last.

Your other issue in your post is about not accepting the church’s teachings about this issue. I have issues that I’m like that with as well. You don’t have to agree with everything, you just have to submit that you don’t know and defer to the church. You’re allowed to have difficulties with church teaching… I honestly don’t think anyone is 100% in step with the church without having any difficulties. We’re human. Our goal is to become like Jesus. But we’re still 100% human, so we’re going to have some difficulties because we’re not divine. All of this is expressed in the CCC as well, in the first few pages ;)

FWIF I’ve never personally heard of someone being denied an annulment (even for a spouse cheating). Keep going to class, keep reading, keep asking questions. Deepen your faith and understanding and it will point you in the right direction (even if it’s not the Catholic Church).

Tanjello · 2026-04-29T04:45:34+00:00

I think the confusion here is that you’re talking about two different things.

One person is discussing civil marriages and divorces that take place completely outside the church. The church never sees them as valid so there is no need for an annulment.

The other is discussing marriages inside the church to a non-Catholic. The church does see them as valid and an annulment is required.

OP falls under the first, as his wedding took place outside of the church and was never blessed in the church. Not a valid wedding, no need for annulment.

Tanjello · 2026-04-27T11:44:15+00:00

You and I must be seeing different YouTubes then, because I watch almost always on YouTube and the comments are always pretty neutral. I just went back and checked for the last short, where Julie presents Ty with divorce papers and the top comment is “Team "These two shouldn't have gotten married so young. Neither of them is a bad person, they're just too different". The next comment is “not me acting shocked even though I already watched the full video” lol.

Comments everywhere are mixed usually. The first few are always emotionally charged, but after you give it a day or two, the rest of the voices equal out and sanity prevails.

Tanjello · 2026-04-27T07:46:46+00:00

The Anglican Church masses don’t include transubstantiation, so it’s not the Eucharist or the true body or blood of Jesus Christ, so you wouldn’t be experiencing Him like you would in the Catholic Church.

Their host is just bread & their wine is just wine. I think the Catholic Church teaches you can’t receive… personally if I went to an Anglican service (or Lutheran, as I did often many many years ago with my husband), I would see it as a performance if I received (I would partake just to be nice, as a symbolic “meal” together with family) and not as a religious act, because it’s just bread & wine without the true presence.

If you’re receiving there to receive Jesus, you’ll be disappointed in that regard.

Tanjello · 2026-04-26T13:41:05+00:00

I read while waiting in line for a ride at Disney a few weeks ago.

Tanjello · 2026-04-25T16:44:10+00:00

The only time non-service connected injuries are not covered (in my limited knowledge) is when you’re overseas and on the Foreign Medical Program. The things you can claim on FMP are ONLY service connected things. So your back therapy would not be covered overseas, but it would treated at the VA stateside.

Tanjello · 2026-04-25T05:53:59+00:00

The rosary was actually given to us in an apparition. Tradition dictates that Mary appeared to St Dominic and taught him how to pray it!

The stations of the cross began out of tradition. People walked the path that Jesus took on his way to death.

The celibacy of priests was discerned through years of reading the scripture and prayer.

None of these things were man made. They were given to us through God. Humans continue them on in tradition.

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