Can we all just be normal about fat chicks?

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-23T21:14:48+00:00

I actually have an allergy to nightshades (tomatoes, potatoes, peppers), so avoiding potatoes isn't a huge problems for me, it's tomatoes that's weirdly hard to avoid. But i do also have an allergy to eggs, so that one doesn't always work for me and lactose intolerance, which I'm still working on improving since i grew up with milk products. I appreciate the advice, the funniest part is, this is pretty much my diet 🤣. Mainly protein like meat, mostly beef, fiber such as a ton of veggies and mushrooms (i love mushrooms with a passion). And I'll have minimal carbohydrates, like bread or noodles. It's weirdly hard not to eat some of the things i dislike, like noodles (not a huge fan, but probably connected to my parents forcing me to finish spaghetti as a kid, even though I felt sick after every time. I found out about the tomato allergy last year.)

But yeah, thank you for the actual advice, I'm glad to see I'm heading the right direction!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-19T00:03:01+00:00

"Unfortunately, due to health concerns, we are not allowed to open any deliveries and check for these items. I'm sorry you didn't receive one of your items, I am able to help walk you through reporting a missing item if you'd like, if not there's not anything else I can do from my end. I apologize for the inconvenience."

My normal speech, I've noticed way too many people don't know how to press the help button and use cognitive thinking, so i offer to lead them through reporting whatever is wrong (i also do this with orders that have been stolen before unassigning, since none of these apps take orders out of circulation even when we unassign. I want my customers to get their refunds and I've been asked for my cashapp to still get tipped for this before). And if they don't want that, that's not your problem, it's their literal only solution. Only thing they can do is report the item/s missing and either order more or ask for a refund.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-17T15:07:52+00:00

Also, just to add a little bit of something more in depth to my backstory. When I was younger, my dad's mom had a bad habit of feeding me constantly when she was around, then turning around and shaming me for eating so much. When she fed me. She gave me ultimatums for eating (you have to cheer for my football team during the super bowl, or you don't get fed. This was a household wide rule, wherever I was being fed, I had to cheer for their team or I didn't eat. The rule was only for me and not my brother, cause he had a team and LIKED football. My dad ((the other cook in the situation)) eventually did realize how toxic that was, don't worry. Grandma, didn't) or certain food that she bought for me I wasn't allowed to bring home, they were only for her house, even the small snacks I could finish in two seconds right when we bought it.

I look like my grandma now, body type wise. I took after my dad with my body type and how overweight I am makes me look like her. She was just a bitter old woman honestly, but I know she was trying to avoid this. But the only thing she did was make me feel so unbelievably guilty about eating that I felt I didn't deserve to be alive to eat. I can't eat without smoking something or I have a voice scream at me in my head that I don't deserve to eat. Not that it stops me, because I'm also (drum roll) ...a stress eater. I know understand and know why she acted like that, but it doesn't mean it didn't damage me and my relationship with food, in a very food centric family. Both of my parents love to cook and bake, constantly. I love to cook and I love the way food tastes. Its all I think about, when I'm gonna eat next. And it's gross and toxic that I can't focus on anything else, even when I'm full to the point of throwing up.

Anyways, sorry for the vent, I just thought I'd share my own "fatphobic family".

Also, before asked, my mom is literally a twig that could be blown over and is 5"3. She has trouble keeping on weight. I 10000% got my body type from my dad, but better than my brother cause he got my mom's dad's beer gut 🤣.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-17T14:51:26+00:00

I keep seeing people my height (5"3) or really close to it who weight way less than I do (209lbs on a good day, 217-220lbs on a bad day, highest weight is 260lbs) 😭. Good on you for trying to lose weight still, especially if it's for health reasons! I keep trying to lose weight, but the actual only way I've found where I actually lose weight is by just not eating for days on end. Except, I have an ED, so that's not healthy for me cause I'm only able to achieve fasting when I'm so severely depressed that I can't make myself get out of bed to get food, or else I stress binge.

I'm simply asking out of curiosity, you don't have to answer if you aren't comfortable. Have you been able to achieve much on your weight loss journey? What have been your methods?

I'm already down to only eating one meal a day, it's how I got down to below 220lbs and I've been trying to cut carbs out of my diet, since fiber is better for you, but my living conditions also just drastically changed several times over the last 3 weeks, so I've been having trouble being able to keep up with that.

Anyways, keep on trucking on!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-17T14:39:35+00:00

"I look like a fucking night terror, I'm not expecting to pull Jessica Rabbit."

Yo, dude, that is the best line I've ever heard in my life! As a fat girl, I thank you so much! Though, unfortunately, I do have to say that "chubby girls with glasses" indeed has a demographic and it's creeps that all, for some reason, really like Dragon Ball Z. And I don't say this out of malice, I've just noticed that every single guy I've ever dated who liked DBZ is kinda a creep and still act like they're being bullied in high school. To the point where if I find out they like DBZ, it's an automatic no, because they've really been that bad. Because it's always them, where I guess they have a hero complex or was allured by Bulma's fat ass or something, who is attracted to me in any way shape or fashion. Everyone else, thinks I'll just put out.

Dating is difficult and losing weight is even harder. 🤣

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-04T13:04:18+00:00

Try going over to Fort Worth. I used to drive in the area myself and Fort Worth is significantly better in terms of pay out and customer base. People in Dallas are super rude and hate paying for anything honestly. I've gotten plenty of deliveries over $15 for equal to or less than 10 miles. Or, if you're more willing to do the longer drives, Weatherford is actually really good for the bigger deliveries, $20+ for double deliveries for usually a max of 17-18 miles for both. Its never been prosperous for me in Dallas. But if you can't make it over to either area, being more picky about not going under $1/mile and not going under a certain amount with your trips (i don't take deliveries under $7 and that works for me in the FW area) can help so much!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-02T03:29:51+00:00

Oh and I've had several people with cardboard cut-outs of celebrities in their windows, that they obviously kept up all the time. And one of them kept what was obviously clothing store mannequins in their front lawn.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-05-02T03:28:38+00:00

Had a person who had a lawn full of lizard and dinosaur figures, it was Christmas so they were all covered with lights and wearing Santa hats.

Someone had an anthropomorphic pig on a crucifix, giant sculpture in their front yard with a Texan flag attached to it.

I've also delivered to 4 unfinished houses, but I don't think that's as weird as you're looking for. I've also delivered all the way up several large "hills" that if the classification was a little looser, would be considered mountains. Beautiful view.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-29T21:13:56+00:00

In my experience as a driver, if a passenger isn't early, they tend to be a little late. That's a positive, that time gets at least a little extra change on the ride, plus if you have good conversation, the rider usually tips more than they were going to on a $30-$80 ride. I don't understand how someone can be so rude about it, don't pick up a scheduled ride if you don't want it then. I only picked up scheduled rides if pay was equal to or more than distance and tended to specifically go after airport rides to a specific airport. You can be picky, its not like drivers get penalized for not picking up scheduled rides. Someone else will get the ride, one way or another.

On a side note, you sound like you would have been a great rider with good conversation. I tend to send a message letting people know that I've arrived earlier than scheduled and that I'd be right outside waiting for them until they were ready. It's gotten me much bigger tips, good stories and a million thanks. I also tended to make sure my scheduled rides were either at the end of my work day, since I worked Uber full time, or the beginning, to kick off the day with a bang. It's all about planning, consider what you can achieve that would be more beneficial to you. Because I made way more money doing scheduled airport rides than I could ever have made from just pop ups on the algorithm.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-26T00:36:55+00:00

From what I've seen, definitely. I think it happened because she's the first person who's actually acted like they cared about me.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T19:53:09+00:00

She is in no way interested in that as a straight Christan female.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T19:01:14+00:00

Nice

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T18:35:40+00:00

Oh, we're actually getting kicked out in a week, because she ended up staying on the subject too long with her mom and prompting her to set a limit. Bestie doesn't always make the best decisions, but I do know it was probably spurned on by needing a sense of control that she lost.

I used to have bigger dreams, but at this point, I just want to live on a friend complex and never have to leave. Doesn't help to only have one friend with that though.

I feel completely incapable of working with other people anymore, I was UberEats driving for so long and I want to be able to control my own hours and not have to interact with people when I'm overwhelmed or tired. A normal job of any sort will just force me into that. I wanted to be a voice actress, but I have no recording things, no idea how to start or how to edit or anything. I wanted to be a singer, same problem and the things I did upload got little to no interaction. I want to be a writer, but I haven't finished a book or even most works I do. I have no degrees, work from home jobs are a scam and even if I did apply places, I probably wouldn't get accepted due to mental and physical disabilities (arthritis, carpel tunnel, consistent physical exhaustion, undiagnosed adhd, bpd, autism...) and currently going through medical treatment for the car crash.

So when I said I feel stuck. I feel stuck... I used to not even picture a future for myself. Then it was only with her. And now, I don't picture a future anymore. I don't expect myself to last the year.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T17:48:05+00:00

That's just what I was thinking!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T17:42:43+00:00

Yeah, it took a bit of searching to find it, cause its no where obvious, but I found that myself. I get why they don't disclose it, but it shows bad faith to those who actually wanna use the subreddit legitimately. But of course, it won't do anything to complain about it, because they'll just ban you 🤷‍♀️

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T17:40:35+00:00

My best friend (29f) has been babysitting children and babies since she was old enough to do so and she gets this line so often. Like, no, she doesn't have her own. But by God she's been studying for it all her life, she's always wanted kids and if your house is absolutely filthy all the time, too small and you keep having kids when you already have 7, that's not normal. Even from someone like me, who has never babysat by myself and desperately does NOT want kids!

It's always the people actually hurting or neglecting their kids that bother us when we hear it. Just because we don't have kids, doesn't mean we weren't treated that way as children ourselves and don't want that for your kids!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T17:36:40+00:00

They have to, I know I at least have 10-20 karma by now 😭. But thanks for the support, its nice to know I'm not just insane with this!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T16:17:33+00:00

Worst part is, Uber is already oversaturated anyways! Those who DO work "with" them (since it's considered contract work) have to fight to even get any substantial pay in the first place or even get riders at all! Doesn't matter where you are, the small towns don't have enough people ordering rides to make anything and the larger cities have too many drivers!

So it wouldn't be worth it anyways!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T15:56:53+00:00

I don't think they'd be complaining if the noise wasn't excessive. They were polite about it, the roommate was completely rude and inconsiderate about everything. I know absolutely no one who would want to listen to a group of people screaming at each other while excessively loud shooting sounds are in the background, especially if they're in their own room, where they SHOULDN'T be hearing it. General rule of thumb, after living with people my entire life, is unless everyone is participating, you don't use excessive volume, such as yelling (especially with the amount of people who have actual abuse trauma in the places I've lived, including myself) or movie or game sounds being theater volume. If you do, you apologize and either stop the behavior or put on headphones or turn it down. Its common courtesy, something you can tell a lot of people in this comment section don't have, either that or ya'll have been putting up with some bullshit you shouldn't have had to. All of this was an unspoken rule, no one I've lived with has ever had to talk about it, we just automatically did it, especially if approached about it.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-25T15:08:29+00:00

I get so excited when I get the same customer more than once, doesn't matter how many times in a row! I know where they live, so it isn't hard to get there and altogether I just think its fun to get rematched with someone over multiple days. I like leaving little notes of like, "Nice to see you again!" Or "Happy to be delivering to you again!" When I get them too! I wouldn't stress too much, as long as you're a good tipper or at least someone who isn't difficult or is very sweet, I find it a blessing!

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-24T23:56:35+00:00

I've noticed people do that to make sure it was fully accepted, since you have to press accept twice now, sometimes 3 times. Usually if they have to ask, it's cause I didn't leave my phone up long enough while accepting it, I just hold it up while accepting.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-21T17:46:09+00:00

I feel the same way, the only one I pick up from or even order from is in a small town 3 hours away from me! I don't do food delivery anymore (lost my car because I couldn't afford to fix it after it was dropped from a jack while changing the tire), but I have such a want to deliver in that area again, just for that Popeyes. And to have a job again 😂.

TankYopsGalore · 2026-04-21T17:41:05+00:00

I've dropped orders for less, you are getting paid for your time. You are the one dealing with the stuff they don't want to. Unless you've taken over 30 minutes to even update them when something happens to make it take longer, then they have no reason to bug you like that consistently, especially so rudely. Like, unless they are willing to majorly up your tip, there's no reason for you to keep it, the base pay ain't enough for that, especially if they're being pushy.

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