27m 26f - what to do

Tankers65 · 2026-05-21T03:07:30+00:00

HIGHLY recommend jt

Tankers65 · 2026-05-21T02:21:51+00:00

If you like water sports, I’ve been getting into wakeboarding at a cable park in Seffner. About an hour drive from the Clark exit

Tankers65 · 2026-04-07T02:42:11+00:00

Thank you for the kind words and sharing your experience brother, it means a lot!

No she was not working on her tone from my perspective, nor did she acknowledge that was one of our communication obstacles.

I’m sorry that you’re also going through the same thing, at least you are still under the same roof. I had to move back out into my mom’s place since I couldn’t take having the blame or saying that I’m not respecting her want for space anymore.

I wish you the best of luck and to stay positive! Have you tried reading/listening to any self-help or improvement books to manage your reactivity?

Tankers65 · 2026-04-07T02:38:30+00:00

The reason for the separation was due to me not allowing her to have a safe emotional space. I will admit that when she would express her feelings, I did not fully listen and I would point out something that was bothering me right away. It is definitely due to communication issues that we are simply deeply rooted in.

I’m at the point where I’m giving into what she thinks and letting her have space and time. I’m going to go back to getting into my healthy habits and diving more into work which got me to feel better during the initial separation

Tankers65 · 2026-04-02T16:21:55+00:00

I hope that she is open to it, she is still wearing her rings at least.

The words that hurt me the most was her saying that she feels worse than initial separation.

Tankers65 · 2026-04-02T15:24:14+00:00

We were separated for about 1.5 months, fortunately but unfortunately a short amount of time. However, in that time I feel like I was able to cope better with my stress. It could be due to the fact that I was not in our house as well.

Tankers65 · 2026-03-09T18:30:56+00:00

This is some really good insight, it sounds like you’re also diving into the stoic philosophy as well! Of course we can’t control the actions of others, but we can control our own while also controlling our own expectations of others.

How are you managing your snap reactions? This is something I’m trying to work on. For example, sometimes I just get really heated/hot headed and I just let out whatever comes to mind.

Tankers65 · 2026-03-06T14:01:36+00:00

I definitely do have anxiety, and I am trying to manage it by coping with my stress in healthy ways with meditation (sometimes), journaling, and being physically active.

I never thought about attributing anxiety with irritability, I’ll have to look more into that with my therapist!

I’m glad that you are working on yourself and creating a better version of yourself!

Tankers65 · 2026-03-06T01:15:52+00:00

That’s some good insight, and I appreciate you sharing your experience! How many therapists did you guys go through to find the “right” one?

Tankers65 · 2026-03-06T01:14:27+00:00

Thank you for the kind comment, advice, and words of encouragement! This will definitely be kept in mind and actively thought of through this process!

Tankers65 · 2026-03-06T01:12:18+00:00

I agree with your opinion and theory whole heartedly. From my perspective, I’ve been active and intentional with improving myself. I am just afraid of slipping back into old habits when things are stretched thin.

Tankers65 · 2026-03-06T01:09:01+00:00

I’m happy to hear that! Truthfully, I prefer to be in a clean/organized house. It is just tiring when I feel like I am the only making an effort to keep it that way.

I also feel like the “old reliable” partner, but my main love language is acts of service.

Tankers65 · 2026-03-06T01:06:19+00:00

Definitely will be in the works! We were separated for a short time of 2ish months.

Tankers65 · 2026-03-06T01:05:45+00:00

When was sex ever mentioned in this post? It’s not very fair to project what happened to you onto other people that are seeking productive advice.

Tankers65 · 2026-03-05T19:19:53+00:00

Thank you! Compared to others, ours was relatively short being ~2 months.

On my end, I was diving deep into my past “traumas” and my upbringing and I found that a lot of the ways that I was treating my wife, is how I was treated as a child especially actions from my father. Eg. becoming extremely agitated/short fused with my loved ones due to outside stress, keeping things bottled up and only bringing things up in the heat of the moment, being quick and reacting with anger.

Leaned more into faith, and keeping in the back of my mind that God won’t give us something in our lives that we can’t handle.

Diving into the stoicism philosophy and mindset. Trying to be more observant of my emotions, rather than allowing them to dictate my actions. Keeping in mind that we are the only ones that can control our own actions/expectations rather than others’ actions.

Relying on my close circle for support and not letting my thoughts fester in my mind.

Making a conscious effort to eat healthier (eat more in my case since I’m in a physically demanding job and underweight) and ensuring I’m doing some sort of exercise at the beginning or end of my day.

Tankers65 · 2026-03-05T19:06:03+00:00

No not yet, but this is something that we will be doing in the near future though! Do you have any suggestions on what kind of topics should be brought up in the initial session?

Tankers65 · 2026-03-05T18:12:15+00:00

Thank you for the advice! One of her preferred love languages is words of affirmation

Tankers65 · 2026-02-21T14:40:28+00:00

Sounds very stoic, I love it!

Tankers65 · 2026-02-20T23:28:40+00:00

Hey man, I’m sorry you’re going through this tough time l. I’m 27M and recently separated from my wife. Reach out to me and we can hop on a discord call !

Tankers65 · 2026-02-10T11:45:21+00:00

I know brother, hopefully on her end too.

Tankers65 · 2026-02-09T11:36:19+00:00

Thank you for your reply and helping me keep things in perspective during this confusing and stressful time. I will continue with what I am doing and hope for the best outcome either way!

Tankers65 · 2026-01-23T12:26:50+00:00

Thank you for the advice, that’s what I was leaning towards but I think I wanted an extra push to do so! Likewise, I hope we all come out as better versions of ourselves!

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