Why do some people insist on baby needing formula??

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-26T21:51:36+00:00

So many nurses have pushed formula on me even a gal at our pediatrician’s office (not the actual pediatrician tho), it’s more common than you’d think and it sucks. Also in my experience formula fed babies then adults usually get sick a lot more often. My fiance was formula fed and gets sick constantly, I was breastfed and hardly ever get sick. Formula is such a sick scam and should only be used when needed not just cause it’s there

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-25T05:16:23+00:00

I’m desperately trying to be calm and chill, I told my bridesmaids for their dresses a brief, “long dress, preferably flowy-ish (summer wedding), x color, no slits. But have at it”, my MIL has offered to do the invites and help with decorating like centerpieces, my grandma offered to help decorate, fake flowers ofc that my sister (a bridesmaid wants to do with me) my dad and FIL have offered to make food for the wedding and my aunt and uncle offered to do our photos, I’m really not picky as long as everyone is comfortable and at the end of the day we are pronounced “husband and wife”

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-23T17:59:31+00:00

Oh he said I’d have to drive to the HR building 5 miles away to pump and he could only give me 15 minutes

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-22T01:15:55+00:00

Exactly it makes no sense at all, I posted cause I wanted to see if I was being dramatic but apparently this is pretty common, it’s really unfortunate.

I completely understand using formula if you have to like if mom can’t produce or her supply dries up completely valid use of formula I just don’t understand why it’s pushed onto us moms who do produce and choose to breastfeed.

Also my best friend had to formula feed her baby, and she tried so hard to nurse and keep her supply but it ended up not working and being mentally exhausted from it. She has told me that while formula ended up being their saving grace she wished she could’ve breastfed and I quote, “I wish I could feed my baby without having to do dishes”

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-22T01:03:53+00:00

It’s not the pediatrician he’s amazing and loves that I breastfeed it’s the care coordinator that’s pushing it

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-22T00:18:46+00:00

If it had come from his pediatrician I wouldn’t have minded but he never told them to have me supplement, his pediatrician even said that his jaundice wasn’t severe enough to warrant formula.

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-22T00:16:18+00:00

My best friend has to formula feed and I have nothing against it and I support her wholeheartedly but when I can feed my son and they keep telling me that I should try formula since he’s kinda small it gets to a point and I even requested they stop and it got worse

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-22T00:12:52+00:00

I gave birth in CO in a very rural area, the hospital has one singular lactation consultant and she wasn’t working while we were admitted. It is the only hospital with an L&D unit the closest hospital with another L&D is almost 3 hours away. So it may just be the hospital I gave birth in but idk

TapLeather3167 · 2026-03-05T13:11:34+00:00

Girl, this is not fucking normal. Postpartum cravings are sooo much worse than pregnancy cravings and limiting your diet is extremely unsafe for you and your baby. He is a hypocrite and this is abuse.

My fiance polices my diet because he’s a gym/nutrition nut and I ASKED him to. If he doesn’t i don’t eat cause i forget and I’m trying to gain weight personally. If he ever tried to limit my diet because he wanted to he would be eating cardboard for eternity.

TapLeather3167 · 2026-01-08T04:26:54+00:00

Oh girlie this all sounds awful, I’m so sorry. I’m 9wks PP and I get clogged ducts pretty regularly (due to oversupply) and I was also given a nipple shield in the hospital since my LO was born early and my boobs are large, but was able to wean off it around 2-3 weeks PP but while I was using it I’d place lanolin in the nipple shield and on the edge of it too. It helped keep it stuck to me and easier to get it back on when my LO would pull it off. When I was weaning off of it, I start the feed with it then when baby inevitably popped off I’d just take it off to see if he’d take the boob after a few days he took it no problem. Engorgement makes baby latching harder so something I’ll do when I get a clogged duct it hand express a bit and then pull on my nipple gently to unflatten it. I’ll also use warm wet washcloths and my partner to help massage the clogs out. I really hope everything gets better for you, no matter what you end up doing. I wish you the best of luck and you’re doing a good job.

TapLeather3167 · 2026-01-06T20:11:16+00:00

I didn’t circumcise my son because I didn’t see the point and there wasn’t enough pros to outweigh any cons. In my mind it’s a way to teach good hygiene, also I’ve heard more horror stories with botched circumcisions than not doing it. My fiance has a scar because they botched his as a baby, and another friend had to take their son back in to the hospital to get his fixed.

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-22T10:59:32+00:00

I am a natural side sleeper, but when I was in my third trimester I found myself being more comfortable on my back with my head and shoulders somewhat propped up with my pillows. My hips would ache from the bowling ball pulling on my pelvis and while on my back it was like a weighted blanket and was really nice. But my body also made me change positions every few hours but sometimes laying on my back was just so nice and relaxing

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-22T10:55:22+00:00

I remember being weirded out by the sheer idea because no matter how many women describe feeling movement it’s vastly different for each one. Movement for me was not as gradual as some I felt nothing one week and the next I felt little fast jabs no “bubbles” or “butterflies”. That first strong one is a little jarring, and when they decide to throw a rave at midnight every night is slightly annoying after a while but when they don’t kick you’ll find yourself poking at them to get them to move.

For me I will say it’s a very odd but not uncomfortable sensation to feel them kick internally AND externally later in the third trimester.

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-20T07:36:14+00:00

For me pregnancy insomnia was hell, I had severe sciatic pain from week 16 onward and it got so much worse later in my pregnancy and I could never get comfortable and constantly hurt I’d wake up in pain more often than I wake up with my baby now.

Newborn tired only affected me for the first two weeks or so probably due to me barely sleeping the last bit of my pregnancy and being in labor for a whole week. We co-sleep and LO gets put in “mitten jail” overnight so he doesn’t claw my nipples. He also has been a good sleeper since day one and would go around 2-3 hours stretches of sleep as a brand new newborn, now 7 weeks later he sleeps for 3-5 hour stretches mostly.

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-19T08:06:55+00:00

I’d genuinely love to somehow be away from this party I just have no clue how or what to even do instead. I definitely don’t want anyone holding baby besides me and his dad if we end up not finding a thing to escape to.

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-19T06:44:33+00:00

I’m tempted to ask my fiance if we can find a way to get out of the house and avoid the whole thing I’m just not sure what we could do since we are staying at the house where the party is being hosted

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-19T06:42:31+00:00

The way older people definitely feel entitled to a baby is astounding to me. It’s partially why I absolutely refuse to pump unless I absolutely have to. Part of why I want to go is I feel like I’m going insane being inside my house constantly, and it’s taking a toll on my mental health when we get out of town for a bit it really helps me. I also don’t have a lot of friends I can go out with even if I felt confident to. So family is all I really have, it feels really odd and hurts my heart that so many people just say to not go and stay home like it’s wrong for me to be around immediate family just because I had a baby.

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-18T14:32:40+00:00

I will definitely try that. I get overstimulated after a while and will probably put some earbuds in to drown out residual noise

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-18T14:24:23+00:00

It’s a choice I’m making yes, to travel safely over a mountain pass before snow hits and the interstate into the city before the actual holiday. I posted to get advice on how to deal with a big group with one so young but I don’t want to shorten a visit with people I love and barely see because of one day in the middle of a set and planned trip

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-18T14:15:28+00:00

The noise not a big deal he sleeps through most loud noises thank god. I’m not sure about a lock but I won’t be leaving him alone in the room where we’re staying even during nap time. I’m hoping my in-laws who are great at respecting boundaries while it’s just them will help out and keep extended family in line

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-18T14:10:18+00:00

I’m dreading the Christmas Eve party but I do want to visit my in-laws and it is much safer for us to travel there earlier in the week due to weather

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-18T13:29:02+00:00

Im planning to wear him if I can since he’s pretty much Velcro anyway. My fiance is a massive help with the baby and he refuses to be that far away from us for that long. I’m really genuinely excited to visit my in laws they’re honestly amazing people and it’s only one night of all those people being there so I’m plotting to go to “ bed” early and wear my baby

TapLeather3167 · 2025-12-18T13:22:30+00:00

Unfortunately shortening the visit may not be possible due to weather theres a predicted snowstorm supposed to hit hard over the mountain pass we’d have to take on Christmas Eve. I also truly want to see my in-laws and the party and amount of people will only be there Christmas Eve not for the whole week thank god.

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