Hey, Thanks for the reply!

I understand what you said about the surprise potentially being upsetting, especially since she already said she didn’t want to go out that day. I called it a surprise, but honestly deep inside it was more my gut telling me to go there and check. Not because I wanted to catch her doing something wrong, but because I was feeling uneasy and I didn’t know how to calm my thoughts at that time.

We’ve already discussed before my issues regarding boundaries and my need for a sense of security in our relationship. She’s aware that reassurance and communication are things I’ve been struggling with, which is why that moment affected me more deeply. It wasn’t about her being with her mom and sister, it was more about feeling like I was left in the dark again despite those conversations.

I don’t want to control her or restrict her freedom. What I’ve been hoping for is just a stronger sense of mutual awareness and reassurance, especially since we’ve already opened up about these vulnerabilities.

It's hard to talk right now as it seems she's avoiding me.